How To Have Ten Times More Men To Choose From - Instantly
How To Meet
More Men Than
You Ever Thought
Possible
You ll Have Ten Times More Men
To Choose From Instantly
by Mimi Tanner
Copyright ©2006 by Mimi Tanner. All Rights Reserved.
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How To Have Ten Times More Men To Choose From - Instantly
How To Meet More Men Than You
Ever Thought Possible
You ll Have Ten Times More Men
To Choose From Instantly
by Mimi Tanner
Copyright ©2006 by Mimi Tanner. All Rights Reserved.
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How To Meet More Men
Than You Ever Thought Possible
by Mimi Tanner
If you re a single woman, then make the most of it. You can do this
whether you are confident or shy  yes, even if you are a single parent. You
can make the choices of a lifetime. If you re divorced, you can start fresh.
If you re just out of a relationship, you can reinvent your next relationship.
You have the opportunity to make the most of your future with men by
finding, choosing, dating, and ultimately marrying a wonderful man.
Where are all the men? Men are everywhere. There are eligible men right
now who would love to meet a woman like you  who hope that a woman
like you is about to walk into their lives. The key is to locate more men,
meet more men, and start dating more men!
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Where to meet the men is important  but the key to meeting a great man is
NOT just finding the right activity. There s far more to it than that.
The most important aspect of man meeting is your frame of mind. You must
believe the facts: there are a LOT of men out there  far more than you will
ever have time to meet. You won t have to settle for choosing between only
a few men.
In the time it takes to read this mini-book, you will start to transform your
current thinking regarding meeting men to thoughts which will serve you
better.
You ll see that meeting men is as easy and natural as breathing. And like
breathing, which depends upon your blood circulation, your social life has
an energy all its own. You must maintain this energy and momentum. You
must keep your social life circulating, never stagnant. Once something is in
motion, it tends to stay in motion. When it stops, it tends to remain stopped.
Your goal is to get the lifeblood of your social life circulating and to keep it
circulating. This is the key to being a vibrant woman.
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How to Broaden Your  Man Horizons Dramatically
Before you get out there and meet men, take a short time to get clear on the
kind of man you will actually be interested in. It won t do you any good to
meet ten men if you discount each one of them as not being your type. This
truly is the first order of business when it comes to meeting men.
You might think this is impossible; that you  know your type and that only
your own type can be attractive to you. But before you get stuck in that way
of thinking, realize what the stakes are and what the numbers mean in real
terms of happiness.
You should never  settle for a man you don t really want deep down.
That s a recipe for disaster. Attraction is everything. But give yourself a
chance to be attracted to a greater number of eligible men.
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How to Maximize the Number of Men Available to You
What if you could double the number of potential men you could fall in love
with, instantly? It is very possible to more than double this number  you
can easily multiply the number of eligible men in your world by ten  yes,
TEN TIMES the number of men you would now consider. Obviously, the
more men you meet, the greater the chances that you will find the love of
your life  and have a whole lot of fun in the meantime.
This is not pie in the sky  this is very real. But it s also very personal. No
one can dictate to you the type of man you can be attracted to  and you
should never ever try to talk yourself into being attracted to someone when
the chemistry and attraction just isn t there. This can lead to a relationship
that never works because the most fundamental element  attraction  is
missing. Attraction has to be present in a successful love relationship.
But far too many women deny themselves some potentially wonderful
relationships with men, all because of silly ideas they have grown up with,
and because of what  other people think. I intend to blast through several
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of these notions right now  notions that could be keeping you from the
relationship you desire.
For example, what would other people think if you married outside your
ethnic group? Is this something you can see yourself doing? Would your
family give you hassles if you chose to do this?
What would other people say if you got involved with a younger man?
Your own happiness and joy; your very future (and the future of any
children you have now or in the future) is at stake here. There are few
decisions in your life which are more important than your choice of the
person you will eventually spend your life with.
Your parents and family members aren t going to be around always to live
your life for you, and they can t make the decisions of your heart. The only
people whose opinions really matter here are those of any growing children
you already have whose lives will be affected by your choice of a new
spouse.
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 Other people aren t going to sleep with their arms around you all night,
share your morning coffee, and drive fifty miles in the rain to help you out
when your car breaks down on the freeway. Other people also aren t going
to raise your children and live your life. Other people are not your soul
mates. But the man from overseas with the foreign accent who has been
asking you repeatedly for a date might turn out to be all those things  if you
open your heart up to consider the possibility.
By opening up your ideas of what type of man could be attractive to you,
your world opens up tremendously. You will increase the amount of fun
you will have, the amount of dates you will have, and will vastly increase
the number of eligible men  yes, easily ten times more men will be
candidates to date you when you give yourself permission to date a wider
range of man than you currently consider. And each one of these men has
friends, family, and associates who are also potential dates for you. This is
how the number of men in your life begins to grow exponentially.
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We know that there are plenty of men out there to meet; plenty of eligible,
wonderful men. However, we also understand that sometimes it feels like
this is not true for us  that in our own particular situation, there really aren t
that many eligible men around.
If you ever feel that way, take stock of your own personal limitations on just
exactly which men you consider to be eligible. Must all men live in your
own community? Will you consider men who are of a different religion than
yours? How narrowly have you defined your  type ?
What are the factors in one s type? They usually are
" age
" attractiveness
" body type
" religion
" number of children
" desire to have children
" level of wealth
" race
" ethnic background
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" social class
" employment background
" work ethic
" hobbies
" interests
" level of success
" level of ambition
" country of residence or origin
" political party
" whether he smokes
" whether he drinks
Some things are non-negotiable. Smoking preferences usually are non-
negotiable, but not always. Desire to have children, or to have more
children, is also usually not something which can be compromised in a
relationship, but people s desires can change. Don t decline a date with a
man based on the fact that you think you ll never marry him. He might
become a good friend who introduces you to your future husband.
Here s a scenario which might help to put things in perspective.
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Imagine a man whose physical type is not your ideal  let s say it s a man
who is definitely on the portly side. Let s call him Tom. Now imagine that
this man is one of the most successful real estate brokers in your community.
He s drives a luxury car and has a Jeep as well. Tom has several homes,
including a condo on the beach and a cabin in the mountains. He has a great
sense of humor and is known for his warmth and charm. Tom gives of his
time and money to help disadvantaged kids. He treats everyone with respect
and is said to be a perfect gentleman. He s considered one of the most
eligible bachelors in town. He s getting over a breakup of a long-term
relationship; everyone said Tom was devastated to lose the woman he had
adored for several years and had been engaged to marry. He s recently
started dating again.
Now that you know more about him, does Tom s extra weight seem like
much of an issue? And if you think the only factor here was affluence,
well, even that is the result of Tom s ambition, hard work, and dedication 
all very good qualities in a man.
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Will you broaden your definition of your  type ? Will you start dating men
who are NOT your type? By doing so, you are doing yourself the favor that
can literally change your destiny.
I love theatre and have been an avid reader of plays and a theatre-goer all my
life. I d be thrilled to meet a man who also appreciated the same plays I
have loved for so long. But if I made this an absolute requirement of any
man I would consider having a relationship with, it would cut the number of
eligible men by a factor of about 1000!
It would be silly to make a love of theater  or any other interest - into a
personal requirement where men are concerned. Women who do this are
only shooting themselves in the foot! The idea is to have more men to
choose from, not less. So while it would be very nice to meet a man who
shared my interest in one particular thing, this is not something that I would
ever include in my personal definition of my  type.
What about men who have some of the qualities that you consider non-
negotiable? Should you spend time with these men?
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When it comes to things which for you are non-negotiable, such as smoking
preferences, and the desire to have children or not, I recommend that you
date these men once or twice just for three reasons:
" For dating practice
" Because they have friends you are likely to meet
" Because you will be seen as more desirable if you date more (and you
will also feel more desirable)
Men don t expect you to marry them just because you date them, so don t
worry. Go out and have a good time, even if you already know he is not
 the one.
What is really happening when you make the effort to include more and
more men in your circle of men who would be eligible men for you? You
are only benefiting yourself.
Yes, your soul mate is out there  but you don t yet know what he looks like,
sounds like, where he lives, how much money he makes, or anything else
about him  yet.
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Remember that life is always full of surprises, and there can be many
surprises in store for you. One of the most wonderful surprises in life is
meeting someone and falling in love with the person you never expected to
fall in love with. This can have the side benefit  which is huge  of starting
out as a friendship and growing into love right under your nose, even if you
are not consciously aware of it as it unfolds.
When you consider dating any man, make sure that you see the man behind
the man. For example, it s more important to look at a man s ambition and
his work habits than to look at his current level of success. Resolve not to let
a special man get away because you did not recognize his best qualities or
his potential.
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Why You Should Date Younger Men
(Yes, you heard me.)
Here s one of the easiest ways to triple the amount of men you might
consider dating. It s surprising that this factor is still an issue for many
women, but it is! However, it should never even be considered as a factor in
choosing a man, unless the difference is very extreme. This is one of those
things that people comment on, but never really question when it comes to
men. Yet women allow themselves to hesitate when faced with this one
kind of difference between them and a potential mate.
What kind of difference? The age difference! And where are women short-
changing themselves? They are definitely short-changing themselves on the
question of dating younger men!
Most women look for a man who is within a very close range of their age.
Commonly, women will consider a man who is no more than two years
younger than they are. Women will usually consider an older man up to
about ten years older at most. And if a woman is ever married to a younger
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man, even if it s a matter of four months, it s always mentioned, even if in a
joking way.
It s amazing that here in the twenty-first century, the age issue is still a
subject of a lot of talk whenever a woman marries a younger man.
It s true that women often get mercilessly teased when they date a younger
man. The nudge-nudge, wink-wink implication is usually that you ve
chosen a younger man for a more exciting sexual relationship. Naturally,
it s embarrassing to be teased about  robbing the cradle or to endure thinly
disguised hints that you find younger men provocative. But rest assured that
these teasers are telling you two things
" They are secretly jealous that you seem to be having all the fun, and
are brave enough to forego the usual societal norms
" They are saying a lot more about themselves than about you in their
making everything into a sexual innuendo
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It s really not a big deal, though. You can take a little harmless kidding. Just
smile and shake your head, and say,  Oh, Uncle Bob& 
When I married my first (and only) husband, who was both younger and
Hispanic, my cousin Patti teased me about having a thing for  Latin lovers.
It was momentarily embarrassing but really all in fun.
My husband was nine years younger than I (and& he still is). However, the
age difference was never an issue in our relationship. We also never got any
comments on this, either, because we didn t make it an issue. In fact,
although he was the younger one, he was mature for his age, and I acted and
looked younger than my age, so it was not even noticeable.
Younger men should be seriously considered by all women. There are
tremendous advantages to marrying a younger man. Women already tend to
outlive men by about nine years  so marrying a younger man makes it more
likely that you will both live the same amount of time. Younger men are
going to be able to do more with you for a longer amount of time. Younger
men are very attractive and exciting, too! When you re with them, you will
feel younger, too. I m not saying anything negative about older men  you
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should consider all men of ALL ages. It s certainly possible for a man in his
forties to look and act younger than a man in his twenties  and to be in
better health, as well. But please don t let your accustomed mindset prevent
you from considering the benefits of dating a younger man. You owe it to
yourself to think of younger men as some of the best candidates for
relationships.
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Why You Should Date Men Of ALL Ages
Older men also should never be discounted because of their age. A woman
might shy away from the thought of marrying an older man because deep
down she worries that he will die first and that she will be left alone in her
old age. Don t allow this fear to prevent you from meeting a wonderful
older man. A vibrant woman who recognizes the abundance of men at any
age will never be without male companionship in her life except when she
does not wish male companionship.
I strongly recommend that you seek male companionship even during those
times when you might think you want to go into your shell. The company of
men is essential to keeping a well-balanced life. Men are just as important as
friends as they are husbands and boyfriends. Use the concepts in this book
to continually keep men in your life, whether it s one special man or many
men friends.
Think long and hard about the kind of man you may have always considered
to be  your type. It is entirely possible that you have limited your choices in
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some areas  and that your life can become far more rich and full if you
open yourself to the possibility of dating men of all descriptions.
Remember to date many men, even the men you know are not going to be
long-term possibilities, in order to keep your social life circulating.
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The Key to Meeting as Many Men as Possible
In order to meet men, it s vitally important to not be focused on meeting
men, but on meeting PEOPLE: all kinds of people, of all ages, genders, and
backgrounds.
Never underestimate the power of knowing any person on the planet as a
conduit to bring you to a wonderful man.
The man who mows your mother s lawn may work for a landscape
entrepreneur who is perfect for you. The teacher at your child s school may
have a brother who helps out at the next school festival and falls in love with
you at first sight.
Even children have been known to bring two people together. Stranger
things have happened. When you visit the maternity ward to see your sister s
new baby, you may meet a male nurse whom you start dating.
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Meet and spend time with as many people as possible. The secret of
meeting a lot of men is to meet a lot of people of all ages, because all people
are connected to men you should meet!
People love to be matchmakers for the eligible men in their families when
they meet a truly nice woman. Be the kind of warm, caring person that such
a person would want to introduce to her son.
Make a decision to enhance all your relationships. Inject them with extra
warmth and caring. Be a thoughtful, kind, unfailingly courteous person. It
will not go unnoticed.
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Well, Are People Trying to Fix You Up?
Most of the people in your world are aware that you are single. And if you
sincerely apply the recommendations in this book, your world will be full of
people.
You will know if you are already a good candidate for a relationship if you
have friends who are interested in fixing you up with dates. Your friends
won t even think of fixing you up if you are not attractive or if you have
personal problems which are preventing relationships. So use this as a
barometer of how others see you. If people are always trying to fix you up
with someone, it s an excellent sign that people see you as a very desirable
dating partner for others.
What kind of person are you? Do you get places on time, or are you
habitually late? Is your apartment ready for drop-in visitors, or is it such a
mess that you are ashamed to let people in the door? Do you feel attractive
in your clothes, or are you hiding out and covering up your body? Is your
car reasonably tidy, or is the back seat a substitute trash can? (Most of us
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have been guilty of at least some of these things, so don t get down on
yourself  you are still a jewel even if you have a messy car.)
Now more than ever is the time to get it together and become the person that
others want to be with  a person who has nothing to apologize for. These
things all matter, and all affect your inner and outer world. Work on
yourself and be the best you there is. You deserve nothing less.
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Don t Tell People That You re Available
An important word  don t tell any of your friends or acquaintances that you
are interested in meeting new men. This is not a good idea, and it s
completely unnecessary.
Let it be their idea to fix you up with a date. Here s why:
First, if it s their idea, they will do a much better job of looking for you.
People feel good when coming up with a great man for you is their idea
originally (just the way you planned it).
Second, some people won t handle the information that you re  looking in
a way that flatters you. They might think,  Poor Jill, she s all alone and
wants a man. Horrors! That is not the image you want anyone to broadcast
to the world.
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If you promote the idea that you re  looking, then you will be seen as
dateless and desperate. This will affect how people talk about you to a
possible date. It s the kiss of death to be seen as needing a date.
Cultivate the impression that you re happy and have a full life; you re not a
broken person waiting for someone to rescue you.
It s wisest to always give others the impression that you are dating  because
officially you are. You are not seriously dating, but your status is  dating.
Whether you happen to have a date this weekend or not, you are  dating
people !
If you focus on meeting people rather than meeting men, you will be
relaxed. Focus on the activities at hand and be friendly with everyone at all
times. This is the way to be at ease.
Author Ginie Polo Sayles of www.guidetomeetingmen.com recommends
that you maintain one genuine manner  you must act the same way around
everyone, no matter who it is. If you always treat everyone with the same
courtesy, respect, and warmth, you can relax so much more. You won t
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have to worry about putting on any fronts for anyone. You won t have to
wonder if you were nice enough to someone you ran into last week. Instead
of feeling less genuine, you will become more genuine and more disciplined
and kind as well. People like to be around people who are consistent in their
manner. Make a conscious effort to always be pleasant, warm, and caring
toward everyone you meet.
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Men Are Everywhere
The man you re going to fall in love with  or spend many happy times with,
if you don t want to fall in love  is not hard to find.
You can meet men all day long, every day, in virtually every setting. The
best men are not in any one place  they re literally everywhere you go.
With this in mind, you can quickly realize that life is a virtual goldmine of
great men!
(There is much more about this truth in www.guidetomeetingmen.com)
One of the biggest misconceptions about meeting men is that a woman has
to go to a certain place to meet the right man  this is not true. Yes, you
must get  out there. But don t ever limit your thoughts on meeting men to
your Saturday Afternoon Geologists Club, for heaven s sake!
You are as likely to meet a wonderful man while renting a DVD as you are
anywhere else. When you look good, are casual, warm, and outgoing, it will
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happen more often than you need it to happen. Men will want you to talk to
them!
Be ready at all times by looking good and projecting warmth and
friendliness.
How you carry yourself is essential, and you must have the best posture you
can. This is far more important than even what you wear. This is discussed
in my book on flirting and in  The Foolproof Guide To Meeting Men.
Posture tells the world about your self-esteem and your romantic self, so
practice having confident but relaxed posture. This one factor alone can
make or break a man s desire to get to know you, because it says so much
about your inner self.
Get out around people at least three times per week. Start organizing
your social life with specific numbers to meet each week. Make your social
life busy with at least three outings per week. Even for the busiest woman,
you can schedule one evening during the week, one on Saturday, and one on
Sunday.
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Date Regularly. Schedule dates with men. Email men, talk to them on the
phone, chat with them on the internet, and meet men in your community. If
you are not dating, evaluate why and do something about it. You should be
dating! Have a goal of one date per week minimum. If you are not serious
about one man, actively seek to date other men.
Remember, it s only dating - not mating! It s going out and having fun  not
looking for the future father of your children (or rather, no one will know
unless you spill the beans). Almost all dating relationships will be
temporary while you are getting out there and meeting people  so expect it!
Compare it to a dance  at a dance, you will dance with lots of men, not just
one. To do otherwise would be limiting yourself as well as anti-social! Give
yourself the opportunity to get out there and meet lots of people. It will keep
you vibrant  and there is nothing more appealing than a vibrant woman.
Keep the momentum going even when you start dating. The girl who
attracts a man is the one who has a busy, activity-filled life. Stay busy with
many people while you date men, unless and until the man you want asks for
more of your time and is willing to reciprocate with the same.
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Remember that the key is to keep circulating. This also means moving on
when things don t  take with any one man  remember that most of your
dates will end up as friendships, not relationships. Each one will literally
bring you closer to the one who will matter most.
By opening up your world to more men and people in general, you become a
more interesting and compassionate person  which you will continue to be,
even after you have found a wonderful man to share your world.
As always,
With love,
Mimi Tanner
Mimi Tanner
Mimi Tanner
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