Good Profiles
Tips for Good Dating Profiles
by Drew Higgins
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Writing High-Quality Dating Profiles
Not all people are blessed with the knack of writing an excellent dating profile.
Doing it is a lot like composing an ad that is meant to attract potential buyers - it has
to be convincing, appealing and honest (to a degree). If it's your first time to design
your own dating profile, here are the nuts and bolts to guide you.
Just a little note to the ladies: Most of the examples I use are for men. Women tend
not to have problems getting responses from guys inside dating sites (guys usually
blast out messages to just about anyone, women are more specific). If you need
advice on writing a good female ad many of these rules still apply, so fear not and
keep reading. - Drew
Titles are the most important part of an ad
Use a catchy and interesting title. Since everyone is going to read your profile, you
should make it as original, honest and easy to remember as possible. Get your ideas
from your own interests , experiences, and personality but don't just say you're
spontaneous and exciting – prove it! Above all - you've got to be unique (very, very
unique)
Examples of good and bad titles:
Fun guy looking for fun girl.
Too general, no one looks for dull girls – an no fun girls look through dull profiles.
Let me show you what a real man is like.
Immediately after which they'll show you the 'block user button' this is way to
intimidating and challenging to a mate.
Will you guide my way?
Approaching “decent” level profile title. It definitely stands out from the others but
most women are looking for a package with all it's nuts and bolts – no assembly
required if you know what I mean.
LOST: True love, reward if found.
Bingo, though it's pretty general the title is definitely unique and will get the reader
past the initial first click. The introduction should reflect a caring, compassionate,
and romantic person just like the title indicates.
Skydiving accountant seeking rock-climbing business woman
Another good one liner. The activity describes the person so much more than just an
adjective like “exciting” or “adventurous” could.
The introduction is your own personal summary
Your introduction should be just as attractive. When you compose your introduction
line it must be intriguing enough to compel your reader to continue on. Generally
you're limited on the size of your introduction to anywhere from a few hundred
words up to 1,000. Make this count and keep it pretty much to the point.
Avoid clichés like the plague
Don't bother with clichés and other trite phrases. Being unoriginal and typecast may
work for bands like Nickleback but it won't get you laid - avoid the usual titles at all
costs. The secret is to be as specific as possible: name a strange incident or
experience, an eerie quote from your favorite author, or a bit of a background that
would define who you are. I personally find it best to write a draft first then revise
it, which brings us to the next topic...
Some common clichés that you see all the time:
Love is a many splendored thing.
It sure is, but this cliché is used so often that no “love” will come from it.
All things grow with love.
Again, same situation. It sounds great but is so overused that it will not garnish any
attention.
Make it count, condense your draft.
No one wants to read a wordy profile that conveys no message. Many dating profiles
suffer in the dark oblivion without hope of getting looked at because they fail to
relate anything interesting about the author to the person reading. You might be the
most romantic, handsome, charismatic guy in the world but you're online appearance
is that of a 14 year old who can't spell or form complete sentences. Put some time
into the “flow” of your summary. Make it count, it's the second most important part
of your online profile.
See some good profile introductions at our site,
A picture says a thousand words
Clip a photo that's realistic and not misleading. There are all sorts of pictures that
people post on the web which are quite dishonest, a bit obscene, of poor quality,
and sometimes too formal. The best photo should reveal the normal "you", since, if
you are dead set on meeting someone you don't want her to get the shock of her life.
Some photos are lewd and show too much skin just to catch attention. If you are
seriously into dating, post a clear, sunny picture of yourself - this is sure to elicit
positive responses from people. Don't glamorize yourself or post a picture of you
wearing a high school toga.
Polish your profile
Choose the right words and use your grammar or spelling program to polish your
profile. People care about your spelling and grammar because it reflects your
education. At least, show some decency when creating your profile, "The difference
between the right word and the almost right word is the difference between
lightning and a lightning bug," says Mark Twain. If you've written your profile in a
hurry, don't attempt to post it yet when you have not proofread it for grammatical
and spelling errors. Use your handy word processor programs to clean it for possible
mistakes.
Research the competition
This is what we call the “look, listen, and learn” step. Go ahead and search for
yourself after you've published your ad. If you see yourself in the page of search
results and your existing ad doesn't “jump” off the page at you as a reader – consider
revising your ad to play off the surrounding.
For example, you search for your ad only to find that you're surrounded mostly by
guys using cheesy one-liners and looking for something to screw in between football
games you might modify your ad title/introduction to say something like;
“Waiter, I ordered my pickup lines without cheese”
“While they're watching football, we can watch a movie”
More good alternative titles and introductions at our site,
Be original but don't overdo it.
Your originality is a major factor for an attractive profile. Search yourself for any
unusual interests and unique characteristics. If you like art, for instance, mention
specifically if you've ever painted or done some digital designing yourself, and what
kind of design software you like to use. A good novel writer does not use bland
adjectives and describe in nebulous concepts. You're not a novel writer but your goal
is to make your online profile more interesting. All of us have normal ways of doing
things but if you got something to tell - a passion for exotic animals, or a collection
of snow gears - don't hesitate to include it in your profile.
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