101 Relationship Questions Ways to Know You're Evolving

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The following are 101 questions for you and your spouse or partner to ask each other.

1. Communication

2.

Our Happiness

When you get home from work, what

are the three things you would like

me to do or say in the first several

minutes?

How much space or time do we need

apart during the day? Week? Month?

Year?

How will you tell me that you’ve

changed your responses to any of

these questions?

How long are we in this relationship

for?

What do I say that makes you the

most uncomfortable when we are

alone together?

What will keep us happily together?

What do I say that makes you the

most uncomfortable when we are to-

gether in public?

What need of yours will I never be

able to fill or satisfy?

What are you tolerating about the way

we speak with each other?

Why is that?

What about my voice or communica-

tion style makes you want to spend

more time with me?

What kind of memories do we want to

create together?

What about my voice or communica-

tion style makes you want to spend

less time with me?

What do you expect from me that

you really should be expecting of

yourself?

How do you feel about arguing or

fighting?

What has held you back, intimacy-

wise, in your personal relationships?

What should I never say to you, even

in anger or frustration?

Who do we know who has the kind of

intimacy that we most want?

What will I have to say or do to get

your attention when I’ve not been able

to?

How much room or license do we

have to ask each other to change?

What changes do you think I’ll need

to make in order for you to be really

happy?

101 Relationship
Questions: Ways to Know
You’re Evolving

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3. Our Relationship

4. Our Reactions

What will be the early warning signs

that our relationship is in trouble?

What is going to set you off?

How will we know if our relationship is

over?

What can you say to me before this

happens?

What activities and common inter-

ests can we develop that will bring us

closer together?

What do you do when you feel hurt by

me?

What are you willing to do with or for

me that you haven’t been willing to do

in any previous relationship?

How will I be able to be forgiven when

I’ve done something that really hurts

you?

What are your feelings about monog-

amy at this stage of our relationship?

Is it possible that that will change over

the next 10 years?

What will ruin our relationship?

Why are we in this relationship in the

first place?

Which of my weaknesses have you

totally accepted and no longer have a

problem with?

Where will we be in this relationship

five years from now?

Who do I remind you of? Is that okay?

What’s the biggest lesson you can

learn from me?

What are three concerns you have

about my emotional or psychological

state or personality?

What’s the biggest lesson I can learn

from you?

What habits do I have that are upset-

ting you?

What about our relationship will

evolve us both?

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5. What Happens If . . .

6. Touching (nonsexual)

What will you do when you feel

tempted sexually by another person?

What kind of touch or demonstration

best says “I love you” to you?

What do we do if one of us wants sex

and the other one does not?

What are the three parts of your body

that you most like touched? How?

What will you say—or not say—if you

cheat on me?

What are the three parts of your body

that you most like massaged?

What happens if we can’t agree on

something important that involves

both of us?

How close do you like to sit when eat-

ing together?

How can we get both of our needs

met when we want different things on

a particular day?

How “touchy” do you like to be with

me?

What do we do if both of us are hav-

ing a bad day?

How “touchy” do you want me to be

with you?

What happens if we’re upset with

each other before we go to sleep?

How do you feel about public displays

of affection?

What happens if one of us needs

more space than the other?

Where should I not touch you? Why?

What happens if I can’t stand some-

one who becomes a close friend or

associate of yours?

How should I touch you differently?

What happens if I get discouraged

about our relationship?

How will you tell me when you need to

not be touched for a little while?

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7. Preventing Problems

8. Sexual Discovery

What could I do that will cause you to

pull away from me?

What is the ideal way for me to start

the sexual process?

What’s our code word to use during a

conversation or argument when one

of is getting hurt and a time out is

needed?

What five things work well for you as

an aphrodisiac?

What can we do to avoid arguing or

fighting entirely? Is it possible?

How will we let each other know what

we want sexually?

When we argue, how will you take re-

sponsibility for your part of the prob-

lem?

How much time do you usually need

to warm up?

What about our living situation is

likely to give us a recurring problem?

Do you prefer sex in the evening?

Morning? Daytime? Any time?

What about our personalities is likely

to give us a recurring problem?

How many days between sex will be

too long?

What about our financial situation is

likely to give us a recurring problem?

How long should sex take, from begin-

ning to end?

What about our children is likely to

give us a recurring problem?

Do you like to talk during sex (dirty or

conversational)?

What about our parents or family is

likely to give us a recurring problem?

Besides the bedroom, is there any

place else in the house that you like to

have sex?

What about our work is likely to give

us a recurring problem?

What’s the biggest sexual turnoff for

you?

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9. Sexual Preferences

10. Sexual Activities

Would you like to be more aggressive

or dominant with me, sexually?

What are the five most sexually sensi-

tive areas of your body?

What do you think I like most in our

lovemaking?

Is there something you really like to

do sexually that you’re afraid I won’t

like or will think less of you for liking?

What were the hottest sexual experi-

ences you’ve ever had?

What are the five things you like most

about my body? Why?

How important is hot sex to you in our

relationship?

What drives you wild?

If I said you could do anything to me,

what would that be?

What fantasy would you like to act out

with me?

What about my personality is sexy to

you?

If we did the same thing each time for

sex, what would you want that to be?

Which sexual positions or acts are off

limits forever and ever?

What do you most want to do after

we’ve had sex?

Which sexual positions or acts are off

limits, at least for now?

What are your favorite sexual posi-

tions and activities?

What is a fantasy of yours that I prob-

ably will never be able to fulfill?

What’s the kinkiest thing we’ll prob-

ably ever do together?

What should I say or not say during

your orgasm?

11. And . . .

What’s the most sacred part of you?

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