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ETTING INTO THE

WING

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OTIVATION FOR YOUR

SUCCESS

Monday

sn’t it funny how music can change your mood? Whenever I
hear the Mark Morrison song “Return of the Mack” I can’t help

but feel a rush of awesomeness as I remember a summer from a
few years back, when Zack and I did our “30 Day Challenge”—
going out 30 nights straight to meet and attract women. In some
ways, music is like an “emotional bookmark” that helps
motivate us and remind us of a certain time in our lives.

And  since  the  next  28  days  are  going  to  be  such  a  crucial  and
amazing  period  of  your  life,  you  should  have  a  soundtrack  to
remind as well as motivate YOU of your adventures. So, to kick
off your new success with women, I want you to assemble a “28
Day Playlist.”

Pick 5-10  songs  that  personify  the  life  you want  to  live  and  the
man  you  want  to  become.  I  want  you  to  bump  to  these  tunes
CONSTANTLY.  You  should  cycle  through  this  playlist  again
and again, throughout these 28 days.

If you want to read how I assembled my playlist, check out the
appendix (1A).

Once you have your jams bumping, I want you to create a Word
file on your computer titled “My_28_Days_to_Success”. This file
will record each day of your journey toward dating hotter girls.
I’d  highly  recommend  you  post  your  entries  on  the  private
forum  we’ve  set  up  just  for  you  and  guys  like  you.  This  way,
you  can  stay  motivated  and  get  pointers  from  a  community  of
likeminded, inspired men.

For today, title your entry, “Day 1: The Value of MY Success”. To
get leverage on yourself on yourself and commit to sticking with
the next 28 days, I want you to write a paragraph of where you
came from. Think about your past crushes/girlfriends, regrets,
and successes.

Next,  write  a  second  paragraph  about  where  you’re  at  now.
Write about your current views, your fears, and your strengths.
What  are  you  most  proud  of  and  what  do  you  most  want  to
change?

Finally, write out a closing paragraph about where you want to
be.  Imagine  the  coolest,  most  attractive  man  possible  and
describe  his  behavior.  Don’t  only  focus  on  obvious  things,  like
body  language  and  confidence;  get  to  the  heart  of  this
“character”:

How would he respond if a girl rejected him or blew him off?
How  would react if another  guy  starting  acting  like  a  dick  to
him?  What  would  he  do  if  he  said  something  stupid  or  did
something clumsy?

In The 4 Elements of Game, you’ll read that being attractive is NOT
about being perfect. Therefore, don’t write a paragraph
describing the “perfect” ladies’ man—someone you might see in
a Hollywood movie. Instead, write how you’d imagine a REAL
ladies’ man, combining behaviors you’ve seen in guys’ you have
admired.

Once you have your 3 paragraphs, I want you to take inventory
of how you spend your day. Are there certain activities that are
wasting your time and energy? Of course there are. We all have
such “time killers” that sap us of our motivation.

Therefore, to stay motivated, I want you to give up AT LEAST 3
nonproductive activities. Some examples are:

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Watching t.v.

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Playing video games

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Masturbating

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Looking at porn

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Surfing the Internet

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Talking to friends who are not supportive

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Excessive sleeping

And you can probably add a few more to that list.

I know giving up these activities might be hard, but THAT’s the
price for success. You can’t stay stuck in your old habits and still
upgrade your dating life.

You’ll read in the opening chapters of The 4 Elements of Game that
getting  better  with  women  is  NOT  an  epic  process.  You  won’t
need  to  humiliate  yourself  or  spend  months  feeling  awkward
and weird; HOWEVER, you WILL need to make some changes.
Even  though  those  changes  will  vastly  improve  the  quality  of
your life, THEY MAY BE UNCOMFORTABLE AT FIRST.

But if you want these 28 days to be a success, you MUST replace
those  life-draining  activities  with  new  (more  awesome)  habits.
Therefore,  I  want  you  to  COMMIT  to  either  giving  up
completely  or  seriously  reducing  ANY  activity  that  saps  your
motivation.  For  example,  if  you  masturbate  every  day,  I  want
you  to  cut  it  back  to  ONCE  a  week  (max).  Moreover,  I’d
recommend  NOT  watching  t.v.  or  playing  video  games  AT
ALL.

After these 28 days, you can go back to those activities if you’d
like. For now, you have to pay a price for your success—up
front.

So to recap, today you’re:

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Making a “Player Playlist” of songs to keep your
motivated

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Writing out three paragraphs that chart your progress
and goals

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Committing to cut out 3 life-draining activities

If there’s any time left, go out and do something physical like
run or lift weights. This will increase your masculine drive and
keep you active. Also, try to read up to the end of Part I of The 4
Elements of Game

Once you’re done, rest up. Tomorrow the fun begins.

P.S. When setting up your journal, give it a cool title. That way
it’ll make you excited to update it each day. (Also, if you post it
on our forum, it’ll attract more attention so you’ll get more
comments and feedback.)

P.P.S. Feel free to write more than a paragraph for each phase of
your  life.  Personally,  I  found  this  exercise  to  be  crucial  when  I
did  it,  so  I  wrote  out  pages  and  pages  of  memories  and  past
experiences.  So,  if  you  get  into  the  writing,  don’t  stop  at  three
paragraphs!

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ETTING

TTING

DRIVE,

ABY

!!!!

Tuesday

ope you got some rest because today we’re going to exercise
your drive. You’ll read all about the DRIVE element in Part II of
The 4 Elements of Game

, but it’ll ONLY make sense if you actually

go out and experience the RUSH of expressing your drive to the
world.

To  begin,  write  a  paragraph  in  your  journal  about  something
you’ve  done  that  seemed  difficult  beforehand,  but  you
committed  yourself  to,  and  you’re  glad  you  did.  It  might  be
going  to  the  gym,  going  to  college,  or  taking  on  a  challenging
project.

Really  give  this  some  thought  and  concentrate  on  the  specific
details  (e.g.,  how  you  felt,  how  your  mindset  changed,  etc.).  I
know  it  may  sound  like  another  useless  writing  exercise,  but
TRUST  ME  by  remembering  SPECIFIC  details  you  will  recall
HOW your mindset shifted.

For  most  of  us  guys,  we  NEED  a  mindset  shift  to  get  in  touch
with our natural drive. You may have already read in our book
that  obstacles  sometimes  stand  between  you  and  your  natural
drive. If you’ve ever hesitated or chickened out of approaching a
hot girl, you know this first-hand.

A major goal of this 28-day journey is to get you PERFECTLY in
tune  with  your  drive.  It’s  one  of  your  sexiest  features  and  it’s
ALREADY within you. We just need to remove the obstacles that
stand  between  YOU  and  YOUR  drive—which  are  the  obstacles
that stand between YOU and THAT hot girl!

Once you finish your paragraph and reread it thus reminding yourself
of things you’ve done that you NEVER regret—even when they seemed
challenging.

So  today  you’re  going  to  approach  a  hot  girl  exuding  PURE
drive.
You’re going to leave your house and go wherever there are hot
women.

It’s a Tuesday, so bars and nightclubs may not be an option. Go
to a bookstore, a mall, a clothing shop...hell, you could even go
to  a  woman’s  shoe  store.  The  location  DOESN’T  matter.  ALL
that  matters  today  is  that  you  express  your  PURE  and
SHAMELESS drive.

Still with me?

Okay, cool. So once you spot THE girl (and you KNOW the one
I’m  talking  about!),  you  march  up  to  her  SHAMELESSLY.  You
let  NOTHING  go  through  your  head  OTHER  than  the  SHEER
HOTNESS of this girl. If you start thinking too much, remember
the credo from the book, “PUT YOUR PIMP FOOT FORWARD,
THE OTHER ONE WILL FOLLOW.”

Just moving that ONE foot forward might be the HARDEST part
of these 27 days—but you’ve GOT to TRUST ME. THIS IS THE
ONLY WAY TO DATE HOTTER GIRLS. I went through it. Zack
went through it. All our students went through it.

But I can’t move that pimp foot for you. THAT’S UP TO YOU. So
just  put  one  foot  forward  and  clear  your  mind.  Just
CONCENTRATE ON THE GIRL! She MOVES you, doesn’t she?!
GOD, LOOK AT HER!!! GO FOR IT!

As you walk up to her, look INTO her eyes. Be SMILING. Part of
becoming shameless is mastering the “shameless grin.” You can
probably  imagine  what  it  looks  like:  it’s  that  perfect  mix  of
CONFIDENCE and HUMOR. So get a smirk on your face, hold
eye contact, and walk RIGHT up to her.

If  there  are  people  standing  around  her,  IT  DOES  NOT
MATTER.  If  she  looks  “busy,”  IT  DOES  NOT  MATTER.  If

anything happens that sidetracks your approach, IT DOES NOT
MATTER.

Again, ALL that matter today is that you DO THE APPROACH.
One approach! And it only has to last 10 quick seconds.

SO STAY FOCUSED, STAY ON TASK!

Once  you  get  her  attention,  express  EXACTLY  how  you  feel.  If
you were moved to talk to her, tell her. “Wow, I just had to come
meet  you.”  If  you  can  see  you  and  her  sitting  down  for  coffee
together, tell her. “Hey, I saw you and I just had to see if I could
convince  you  to  join  me  for  a  cup  of  coffee.”  Even  if  you’re
nervous, tell her.

Now  keep  in  mind,  if  you’re  doing  this  in  the  daytime,  the
tension  is  going  to  increase  FAST.  Remember  the  cycle  of
“tension  and  release”  explained  in  the  introduction.  Most  guys
think this tension is “bad” or “awkward.” But it ONLY becomes
awkward if you don’t know WHAT TO DO WITH IT.

Once  you  read  the  book,  you’ll  learn  that  MORE  TENSION  =
MORE RELEASE. So in this situation, once you FEEL the tension
your  drive  generates,  you  want  to  quickly  balance  it  with
INSPIRATION  or  CONNECTION.  (Even  though  it’s  not
necessary  for  today’s  assignment,  I’m  mentioning  it  to  increase
your chance of getting the hot girl.)

If you nothing comes of this approach, IT’S NOT BIG DEAL. By
just  approaching  ONE GIRL  with  drive,  you’ve  learned  1.)  you
NEVER  regret  approaching,  2.)  what  TENSION  feels  like,  3.)
how it FEELS to express your DRIVE.

Reading  this  in  an  email  sounds  easy  and  you’re  probably
thinking, “Of course I can approach ONE girl with drive for 10
seconds!”  So  REMEMBER  that  attitude  when  you  see  your  girl
today.  These  27  days  are  coming  to  you  as  EMAILS  that  are
designed  to  IMPROVE  your  success  dramatically.  While  the
assignments often only take a few minutes a day, it’s VITAL that

you DO EACH ASSIGNMENT, EACH DAY. Only then will this
supplement the book.

Try  to  remember  ALL  the  details  of  the  approach,  especially
HOW  YOU  FELT  before,  during,  and  after  the  approach.  Also,
take  note  of  how  she  responds.  Were  you  comfortable  with the
tension your drive created, or were you “ashamed” of it? If you
felt  ANY  inkling  of  “shame,”  you’re  going  to  READ  ALL
ABOUT the benefits of being SHAMELESS.

But for now, let’s review today’s assignment:
1.)   Write  about  an  activity  that  appeared  challenging,  but  you
did anyway, and you DON’T regret
2.)   Approach ONE hot girl with DRIVE for 10 seconds
3.)   Write about the experience in your journal

Alright, get to it!

Best, Rob & Zack

P.S. Don’t forget to write the descriptive details of how you felt
WHEN  the  girl  was  in  front  of  you.  A  BIG  lesson  from  this
exercise  is  getting  you  to  FEEL  social  tension  (and  understand
HOW it affects you and the women you approach).

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NTRODUCTION TO

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NSPIRATION

Wednesday

ow are you feeling? Hopefully not too exhausted from tapping
into that RAW and UNSTOPPABLE drive yesterday! Today we
are going to get your inspiration flowing.

As  the  book  explained,  inspiration  is  a  PASSIVE  energy.
Inspiration compliments the drive that you unleashed yesterday,
and  RELEASES  all  the  TENSION  that  was  a  product  of  your
driven expression.

I remember when Rob and I first discovered the power of drive
and began using it to approach girls. We experienced a LOT of
success from that one simple element. What we learned was that
driven men who are not afraid to go find out the TRUTH (is she

single, in a relationship, fun, boring, etc.), and are willing to
simply ask for what they want get RESULTS.

Rob  and  I  began  approaching  every  girl  we  saw  using  nothing
but  this  strong  driven  energy.  Sometimes  we  would  get  great
results and wind up with girls for the night, but other times girls
just weren’t interested.

For a while we just shrugged it off. It was just too easy to rely on
the drive element, and we got lazy. We knew that all it took was
another approach or two before we had our hotties for the night.

Eventually the girls that were slipping through the cracks started
to  bother  us.  Not  because  we’re  egotistical,  but  because  it  was
the  hottest  of  the  hot  girls  that  were  not  into  our  approach.
While  we  had  no  problem  getting  the  8’s,  when  we  would
approach the 9’s and 10’s they would not bite.

It  would  go  down  the  same  every  time  -  we  would  approach
displaying  a  lot  of  drive,  shamelessly  sometimes,  and  they
would not even look amused, like they could not even tell us the
time of day.

Looking  back  now,  it  was  clear  that  that  approach  was  FINE.
Even  though  the  girls  didn’t  respond  perfectly,  there  was  still
plenty of TENSION. We simply didn’t know what to do with it
from there.

Finally it occurred to us what was happening - these girls are so
used to being a magnet for driven men. So we began examining
what we were lacking to become as attractive as possible to these
stunning girls. And what did we find? That’s right...inspiration.

Inspiration gives your drive balance. Inspiration RELEASES the
TENSION created by your drive. But most importantly,
inspiration gives the interaction substance and texture.

Inspiration is the element that guarantees you always know
what to say, and you never run out of things to say to women.

Unlike drive however, you cannot actively force you inspiration.
The more you try to force your inspiration, the more your
inspiration will allude you. Like you read in The 4 Elements of
Game

, inspiration is the celebration of you.

Think about it, the more you try to be funny, the less people find
you funny. It is because inspiration is PASSIVE. Meaning that if
you want it to come out, you need to CHILL. That is why it is the
exact OPPOSITE of drive. As such, you need to have enough to
keep yourself balanced, but not too much or else you will
overshadow all that drive that you discovered yesterday that is
so attractive to women (in the right amount).

So what’s the answer? Just open up and let out your inspiration.
It’s that easy - DON’T THINK. Thinking is death to inspiration.
An artist cannot reason his way to a masterpiece, and you cannot
reason

your way into a girls heart (or pants). Instead you must let

your inspiration flow, and allow it to PASSIVELY intrigue the
girl creating attraction.

Today you are going to be doing 2 different exercises to help get
your inspiration flowing:

1)  Sing  your  favorite  song  to  3  strangers.  This  sounds  absurd.
The whole time you are doing this exercise you are going to be
telling  yourself  how  stupid  this  exercise  is.  You’re  going  to  be
thinking that you are an idiot for thinking an ebook can help you
get girls, and that Rob and I are out of our minds if we think this
will help you date hotter girls.

PERFECT!  That  is  exactly  what  should  be happening.  All  those
thoughts  are  the  roadblocks  that  are  holding  you  back  from
letting  your  inspiration  flow  at  all  times  of  the  day.  All  those
thoughts  you  are  having  are  the  ACTIVE  barriers  to  you  being
constantly  inspired.  Since  inspiration  is  PASSIVE,  it  cannot  be
forced.

You  cannot  do  more  to make  it  come  out  better.  Instead  all  you
can  do is  do  less  which eliminating  all  the  things  that bottle  up
your  inspiration  like  over  thinking  something  as  simple  as
singing a song to a person you will never see again in your life.

If this exercise is difficult for you it’s no big deal. But you have
identified  one  of  your  biggest  obstacles  to  dating  the  girls  you
really  want  to  be  dating.  Simply  focus  more  on cultivating  that
sense  of  inspiration,  and  developing  that  trust  in  yourself  that
allows  you  to  just  be  YOU  without  questioning  yourself  so
much.  The trust  that  you  have  in  yourself  will be  an important
aspect as you interact with super hot girls.

When Rob and I were developing our own inspiration we sang
“All out of love” by Air Supply. If there is any song that should
make  you  feel  tense  singing  to  a  stranger  it  is  an  ‘80’s  love
ballad.  However  if  you  want  to  master  your  inspiration  you
must be certain to let it be PASSIVE and not TENSE. This means
enjoy it and let it flow from your soul, do not force it!

2. Now it is time to put your inspiration into use! Your next
mission for today is to approach a girl, but rather than relying on
your drive, you are going to allow your inspiration to guide you.
This means NOT thinking about what to say. Instead you should
allow the girl you see to spark your inspiration.

What  is  it  about  her  that  you  like?  Her  hair?  Her  style?  Her
energy?  Whatever  it  is,  there  is  something  about  her  that  has
generated your interest. Let this guide your approach. Comment
on her shoes, hairstyle, smile, whatever. The point is, you are not
approaching  today with  any  lines  in  mind.  For that  matter  you
should have nothing in mind today when you approach but this
girl  right in front  of  you,  and whatever  it is  that  caused  you  to
experience  attraction  for  her.  Let  these  thoughts  express
themselves  and  do  not  try  to  force  any  outcome.  Simply  see
where this conversation goes on its own, organically.

Record exactly how you felt in you journal. Try to remember
ALL the details of the approach, especially HOW YOU FELT

before, during, and after the approach. Also, take note of how
she responds. Were you PASSIVE and allowed your inspiration
to flow, or did you try to force it?

Let’s review your missions:

Sing to 3 strangers

Approach 1 girl allowing your inspiration to flow
naturally and guide you.

Best, Zack & Rob

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ECHANICS

UCCESS

Thursday

ow that you are starting to understand the balance

between inspiration and drive, it is time to introduce the third
element - mechanics.

Mechanics simply refer to the simple steps of “moving it
forward” when you are interacting with a girl you like.

Many people think of mechanics as pickup lines, tactics to create
attraction, or techniques to infiltrate a group of girls out at the
club.

For our purposes however, (dating the hottest girls imaginable)
mechanics are simply the proper steps to move it forward with a
girl that you like, and knowing the right time to take that step.

Like drive, mechanics require an ACTIVE energy, which
requires you to do something to engage it. That something is called
‘pulling the trigger,’ and fortunately is very easy once you get
the hang of it.

Girls are so used to guys that do not move the interaction
forward. This does two things, it sends her the message that you
are not interested in a sexual relationship with her, and secondly
it disappoints her that you are just another guy who is too scared
to “make a move.”

What really shocked Rob and I when we were first discovering
this stuff, was not only that ‘pulling the trigger’ causes girls to be
massively attracted to you, but also that you can ‘pull the
trigger’ almost instantly in any interaction.

What this means is that you can hold a girls hand, ask for her
number, or even beginning kissing her SHOCKINGLY fast. The
only thing that holds you  back from ‘pulling the trigger’ is
either 1) you are afraid of getting rejected; or 2)  you are afraid of
letting her know that you like her.

Both of these fears are pretty funny actually, and you’re about to
realize why. Firstly, if you fail to ‘pull the trigger’ then you have
already rejected yourself and done all the work for her by

placing yourself in the friend-zone. She didn’t even have to
THINK about it!

Secondly, if you are afraid of letting her know that you like her,
you need to SERIOUSLY re-read the drive section of The 4
Elements of Game.

Your mission today is simple. You are to approach one girl and
simply try to “close” her in under one minute.

This means, getting her number, asking her on a date, or even
getting a kiss. Rob and I can get a phone number from a girl in
literally under 30 seconds, so one minute should be a good place
to start. However do not worry if you don’t get the number. Rob
and I can also get shut down in under 30 seconds as well! It is all
about going for it!

The point is not to even succeed in getting the number, although
it will be a cool bonus! The point is to get in the habit of ‘pulling
the trigger,’ or rather moving the interaction forward. And
moving it forward faster than the average guy, makes you more
attractive than the average guy.

If you have ever been cliff jumping you probably know that
feeling that you get when you get to the top of the cliff and look
down. You start thinking to yourself, ‘what the hell am I doing
up here, this was such a bad idea, I shouldn’t do this.’

But once you jump off the first time, you realize that it wasn’t
that bad. In fact it was kinda cool. Then the next time you get up
on the cliff to jump it gets easier and easier. You become
comfortable jumping off, and now you can add some style to it -
maybe even a swan dive.

It is the same with putting the moves on a girl. At first you feel
nervous because you don’t know how she will respond. But after
you ‘pull the trigger’ you realize that regardless of the result, it
wasn’t too bad. Probably really great!

Either way, you are now more comfortable to ‘pull the trigger’
next time when it counts, and you have all your elements in
balance.

Recap:

Approach 3 girls (either during day or night) and go for
the number or date (or kiss!) in under one minute.

Document exactly what happened and how you felt in
your journal

That’s it!

Best, Zack & Rob

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S A

INE

ONNECT WITH

ABES

Friday

eahhhhhh, it’s Friday! That means it’s hot, single girl season! I
hope you’re ready to meet some amazing girls, because this
weekend Zack and I are going to have you doing just that.

So let’s move right into today’s assignment: connection. For
those of you who haven’t read up to the connection part in The 4
Elements of Game

, you’re probably rolling your eyes. (I know, I

know, getting advice on how to “connect” with women sounds
like some new age, feel good bullshit.)

But trust me, learning how to make emotional connections is
crucial

if you want to attract mega-hot girls. It doesn’t matter if

you want to be the pimp master that hooks up with a new girl
every night or a guy who wants to settle down with one woman
to enjoy a relationship, learning the “connection” element will be
the “missing piece” in many guys’ game.

Just a quick aside, the reason MOST guys who study dating and
pickup material DON’T attract super hot women is they neglect
the connection element. And, no, the connection element isn’t
the same as “trust and comfort” from a certain New York Times
bestseller. Instead, the connection element Zack and I advocate
brings out your genuineness, authenticity, and natural ability to
bond and connect with people.

So leave your “identity grounding” routine at home and get
ready to learn the TRUTH about emotional connections.

If you haven’t already read the connection section, go into the
book’s Table of Contents and skim the chapter and section
headers. You’ll notice connection focuses primarily on:

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Willingness to make mistakes

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Genuine compliments

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Shared emotions

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Storytelling

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Destroying the myth of perfection

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Understanding (real) rapport

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Knowing appropriate topics to connect over

•

Balancing how much connection, how soon

It’s  very  important  to  understand  that  connection  is  PASSIVE.
That means you should NOT “force” a connection. Guys force a
connection  whenever  they  display  too  much  emotion,  too  fast.
(And we’ve all done it at some point.) After these 27 days, you
will  perfectly  understand  how  to  let  connections  develop
organically and naturally.

Tonight  you’re  going  to  focus  on  the  connection  element  on
women, but first you’re going to “warm up” on someone close to
you.  When  you  have  a half  hour  or  so  free,  I  want  you  to  look
through  your  phone  and  find  a  friend  or  family  member  you
haven’t spoken to in a while.

Call  them  up  and  bond  with  them.  When  you’re  dialing  their
number,  don’t  think  to  yourself:  “I  need  to  make  a  connection
because Rob said so.” Instead, call with the mindset, “I can’t wait
to hear how [this person] is doing.”

For example, when I did this exercise, I called my friend Eddie. I
haven’t  heard  from  in  a  few  weeks,  as  I’ve  been  busy  with  the
launch  of  this  product.  As  the  phone  was  ringing  before  he
picked  up,  I  thought  of  all  the  fun  times  we  shared  in  high
school and college. My thinking was, “Oh man, I haven’t heard
from Eddie in a while—I’ll bet he has some awesome stories to
tell me!”

Once  you  get  the  person  on  the  line,  communicate  your
curiosity  and  interest  in  what  they’ve  been  up  to.  You’ll
probably find using the philosophy and tips from the connection
helpful.  For  example,  you  might  start  off  the  conversation with
some rapport over a news or pop culture event. Then you may
transition into a longer story (using some of the storytelling tips)
to  give  the  conversation  more  depth.  Most  importantly,  you
should NOT be trying to make a “perfect” connection; RATHER
your ONLY concern should be genuinely getting caught up with
the person you called.

A solid emotional connection usually takes at least a half hour,
so try to keep the conversation going for at least that long. Oh,
and try to give one genuine compliment, too. Don’t fake this
either—really try to zero in on something the person is saying to
compliment them on.

Once  you’ve  done  that  assignment,  I  want  you  to  go  out  and
meet women. Since it’s Friday, most bars and nightclubs will be
packed  with  hot  women  looking  to  meet  cool  guys  they  can
connect with. Tonight you’re going to be one of those guys!

Also, you don’t necessarily have to go to a nightclub. You can
go to a mall, coffee shop, or anywhere else where you can meet
women. The only requirement for today’s assignment is that you
approach a minimum of 3 women.

When you approach these women, you may want to start off
displaying your drive, but quickly transition into making a
connection. Treat her in the same way as the person you called—
laid back and interested. Feel excited to meet and communicate
that to her, either directly by telling her or indirectly by feeling
genuinely curious about her.

If you approach 3 women with this attitude—especially after the
mind-shifting you’ve just lived through—I guarantee at least one

of those girls will feel attracted to you. And once you notice she
is, go for the number.

So let’s go over your Friday review:

You’re going to call someone close to you and focus
on connecting on them using the guidelines of the 4-
EG method

You’re going to out and approach 3 hot girls

You’re going to concentrate on making a connection
with them

You’re going to try for at least one number

I can’t WAIT to read your success on the forum ;)

Best, Rob & Zack

P.S. If you’ve been keeping up with the challenges, I KNOW this
has been an emotionally exhausting and mind-changing week.
But NO EXCUSES! Stick with the assignments and you’ll thank
yourself at the end...I PROMISE!

6666

TTRACTIVENESS

Saturday

amn, can you believe that is hasn’t even been a week since you
started?  For  those  who  have  been  following  the  assignments
day-by-day,  you  probably  feel  as  if  the  last  week  has  been  a
lifetime.  Even  though  I  hope  you’re  having  fun  and  enjoying
your  new  developing  persona  as  a  super  attractive  man,
whenever you enact great change it seems as if time slows down.

I  believe  it’s  because  you’re  squeezing  a  lot  of  learning  and
experience  into  such  a  short  period  of  time.  Think  about  it:  to
overhaul  your  identity  in  28  days,  you  are  almost  becoming  a
new person. While that process doesn’t need to be awkward or
humiliating,  it  will  take  effort,  discipline,  and  will  power.  I’m
confident that you can do it though. And, if you’re reading these
words, it probably means you’ve been kicking ass so far, staying
on task.

If you’ve been slacking a bit or missing an assignment here or
there, now’s the time recommit to these 28 days! Just imagine the

guy you envisioned on the first day—you know that total ladies’
man  we  all  want  to  become.  NOW’S  THE  TIME  TO  BECOME
THAT  GUY!  If  you haven’t  already  read  what  I  have  to  say  on
“Hope  versus  Reality”  in  the  book,  check  it  out.  DON’T  be  the
guy living in “hope” believing things will “one day” get better—
LIVE IN REALITY TO MAKE YOU LIFE BETTER TODAY!

This is an important note to start off Saturday morning because
tonight we’re going to get you even CLOSER to your full ladies’
man transformation. Now we’re going to start combining
elements and achieving balance. These coming days you’re
going to start to become like COCAINE to women—they won’t
be able to get enough of you. (But there will be no harmful side
effects...)

Today we’re going to talk about balancing your drive with your
inspiration. In the book, I outlined the main points of these two
elements, but I want to make the drive/inspiration axis even less
abstract  here  so  that  you  know  EXACTLY  how  to  use  them
effectively.  Here  are  some  real  world  examples  where  drive
balances inspiration and vice versa:

You approach a woman and say, “Hey, you look so cute
over here that I just HAD to meet you.” As you say this
you’re  smiling  and  leaning  back  against  the  bar.  (By
“directly”  stating  your  sexual  interest  in  the  women,
you’re  displaying  DRIVE  (it  creates  tension).  But  by
having  a  smile  on  your  face  and  relaxed  body  language
you’re allowing INSPIRATION (it releases tension).

You  are  flirting  with  a  woman  and  joking  around  with
her.  After  saying  something  that  she  finds  really  funny,
you  put  your  arm  around  her  waist,  pull  her  into  you,
and say, “You have a great sense of humor. That’s sexy.”
(By  flirting  and  joking  around  with  her,  you’re
displaying INSPIRATION (creating a release). Once that
INSPIRATION  hits  its  peak  (she’s  laughing),  you  then
escalate the situation by getting more physical and telling

her she’s “sexy” guided by your DRIVE (it reestablishes
tension).

You’ve asked a woman to go back to your place. She said
no,  but  she’s  still  visibly  attracted  to  you.  You  flirt  and
chat  with  her  for  another  5  minutes  then  say,  “Really,
you’ve got to try one of these green apple martinis back
at this after-hours club. It’s amazing. I’m like a VIP there:
I  drink  for  free,  the  DJ’s  always  spinning  my  favorite
tunes,  and  I  can  even  pass  out  there  and  no  one  cares!”
She laughs and says, “Oh, what is this ‘after hours club,’
your  apartment?”  You  look  at  her  deadpan  (managing
reaction, inspiration section) and say, “Obviously. Come
on!” (Asking a woman to come home with you creates a
lot  of  tension  from  your  honest  DRIVE.  Often  women
will  “deflect”  this  tension  a  few  times  by  refusing  your
invitation.  If  you  can  stay  cool,  chat  for  another  5
minutes,  and  then  make  a  “joke”  out  of  it,  she
experiences

amazing

release

from

your

INSPIRATION. A lot of times this is enough to counter-
balance the tension and let her do what she really wants:
go home with you.)

Those examples are just three off the top of my head. To really
master  the  4-EG  system,  you  must  develop  your  sense  of
balance.  Sit  down  and  contemplate  the  “Tao”  of  pickup  and
dating.  Think  back  to  your  BEST  interactions:  where  was  the
tension?  Where  was  the  release?  I’d  recommend  you  write  this
exercise out. Give it some thought.

Since tonight’s Saturday, the assignment is simple: approach 4
women. That’s it. The approaches can last 1 second or all night.
It doesn’t matter, there’s just one catch...

You MUST build tension and create a release AT LEAST once
during the interaction. It could be as simple as opening her with
drive balanced by a smile on your face, or as complex as

weaving tension and release in-and-out of the pickup
throughout the night.

Whatever route you take, remember that the approach DOES
NOT count unless there is one cycle of tension and release.

So let’s go over what you’re doing tonight:

1.) You’re going to consider the cycle of tension and
release, preferably writing out past experiences where
such a cycle played out

2.) You’re going to out and approach 4 hot girls

3.) You’re going to inject at least one cycle of tension
and release into the interaction

Alright, go make it happen!

Best, Rob & Zack

ISSECTING A

IGHT

Sunday

ow’d last night go for you? Most of you probably hit the
nightclubs hard, doing your 4 approaches. As you know, Zack
and I are all about being effective, and so it helps to consider the
“rhythm” of the night. (Great early ‘90s song!)

I want you to consider how last night unfolded. Think of when
you stepped it out, when you pussed out. Also, think about the

people  around  you  were  reacting.  When  were  girls  acting  like
bitches? When were they receptive?

I want you to write up a quick summary ONLY focusing on the
rhythm you observe. DO NOT READ ON UNTIL YOU DO THIS
EXERCISE.  Once  you  ponder  that  for  a  few  a  bit,  consider  my
perspective:

We all know bars and nightclubs are some of the best places to
hone  dating  skills.  Revolving  flocks  of  women  come  and  go  as
the  dimly  lit,  alcohol-fueled  nightlife  generates  an  atmosphere
that’s ideal for mingling and socializing. But while most nascent
players have hit the barroom trenches to spit game, not all do so
cognizant of the rhythm of the night. Some of the problems guys
run into when meeting girls during “night game” relates to their
inability  to  read  the  energy  and  vibe  of  the  night.  By
understanding how  a night  unfolds,  a  guy  can maximize  every
aspect  of  his  dating  success  —  from  ensuring  the  numbers  he
gets convert into dates to consistently having a girl in his bed at
the end of the night.

One  of  the  most  important  aspects  of  night  game  is  having  a
goal.  You  should  always  know  why  you’re  in  the  bar  or  club.
Your goal may be to go home with a girl that night, get a number
that you want to follow up with later, or just be social and talk to
a lot of different people. Whatever your goal may be, it’s crucial
you know what you want to accomplish since that dictates how
you play to the night’s rhythm. However, while goals may vary,
the  way  a  night  progresses  is  consistent  almost  everywhere.
Having picked up girls in lots of cities and coached students in
lots more, I’ve observed nights shift between three stages. While
having an outline of when and how these stages unfold (as well
as  a  list  of  do’s  and  don’ts),  ultimately  it’s  more  important  to
develop  an  intuition  about  what  you  should  and  shouldn’t  be
doing as the night develops.

Get Happy Hour(s)
When to when: First 40% of the night

Objectives: Get into a social mood, meet and greet, have fun with
your friends, get buzzed, let people see you’re normal and social,
motivate your buddies

Faux  pas:  Acting  a  fool,  being  tacky  make  out  guy,  looking
weird  and/or  creepy,  asking  girls  to  come  home  with  you,
grinding until your dick falls off

Most  nights  begin  with  clusters  of  people  socializing  with  the
friends  they  came  with.  Usually  you  can  identify  “Get  Happy
Hour”  because  people  are  sober,  there’s  not  much  movement
(i.e.  people  wandering  around),  and  there’s  no  wait  for  the
bathroom.  At  this  point,  breaking  the  ice  and  getting  yourself
into  a  social  mood  is  all  you  really  need  to  accomplish.  Unless
you  have  some  reason  for  doing  otherwise,  don’t  bounce  from
group to group with high-energy gaming. Remember, people are
sizing  up  the  room.  While  you  may  think  you’re  generating
“social  proof,”  you’re  really  just  coming  off  weird.  People  will
wonder why you’re so quick to ditch your friends to talk to other
people.  For  the  first  hour  or  so,  I  make  getting  caught  up  with
my  friends  my  top  priority.  I  may  bring  other  people  into  the
conversation,  but  they’re  always  second  to  the  fun  vibe  I’m
creating with my friends.

Face Time
When to when: Second 40% of the night

Objectives: Connect with girls you’re interested in, get numbers
for future dates, screen girls for logistics for later (i.e. which girls
might  be  down  for  an  “after  party”  at  your  place),  slowly  turn
up your sexuality, brief make outs, wing your buddies

Faux  pas:  Spending  too much  time  huddled  with  your  buddies
talking  about  girls  but  not  talk  to  girls,  running  20-second
interactions then moving on to the next girl, not getting physical
with girls, talking to girls about nerd topics

As  the  night  shifts  into  the  second  phase,  people  start  getting
bored of the friends they came with. If getting caught up was the

only thing people wanted to do, they would just stay home or go
to  a  quieter  place  to  talk.  Fact  is  people  go  out  to  meet  new
people.  This  is  obvious  if  you  observe  what  starts  happening
about  halfway  through  the  night.  As  the  drinks  flow  and
inhibitions  lower,  groups  start  breaking  apart.  You’ll  notice  it
gets  harder  to  walk  across  the  bar  as  people  start  to  move
around.  Preferably,  you  want  to  “lock  down”  the  girl  (or  girls)
you’ve  been  eyeing  during  “Face  Time”  (hence,  why  it’s  called
“Face Time”).

Generally,  the  hotter  the  girl,  the  sooner  you  want  to  lock  her
down (as Face Time hours are when the hotties get bombarded
with bad game). While you shouldn’t be a raging boner running
around  the  club,  Face  Time  is  where  you  can  drop  the  “polite”
openers  and  start  ramping  up  the  sexual  talk.  Usually  the
numbers  you  pull  during  “Face  Time”  are  the  most  solid  for
converting  into  solid  dates  because  the  girls  are  still  sober
enough to remember you yet loose enough to be ready for some
tight game.

The Final Countdown
When to when: Last 20% of the night

Objectives:  Move  interactions  un-apologetically  toward  sex,  try
to get girls back to your place, approach lots of sets (if your goal
is  practicing),  steal  girls  off  other  players,  dance,  make  out,  be
physical and dominant

Faux pas: Waiting to approach, talking too much before getting
physical,  not  saying  “Let’s  get  out  here”  to  girls,  not  helping
disarm your friend’s obstacles if he’s trying to take a girl home,
getting phone numbers with expectations of it going somewhere,
standing around

Probably  the  most  exciting  part  of  the  night,  “The  Final
Countdown”  forges  legends.  Usually  an  hour  or  so  before
closing  time,  “The  Final  Countdown”  ensures  everyone  is
sufficiently “loose” and social. At this point, it’s crucial to act as
soon  as  you  see  what  you  want.  “The  right  approach”  doesn’t

matter, only getting the girl matters now. Literally, this is a free-
for-all where hesitating even a second may mean losing the girl
to  another  player  who will  swoop  in  and  take her home  before
you can say, “Let me get a quick female opinion...” Also, this is a
great time to recover another player’s “fumble.” Some other guy
may  have  locked  down  a  cutie  earlier  but  as  the  night  nears
closing, he’s walking a razor’s edge with his room for error. The
longer he stays in the bar with the girl, the more likely he is to
“fuck it up.” Knowing this, one quick swoop might be all it takes
to steal the girl away. Having been on both giving and receiving
end of this, I know its all part of the game. Ultimately, when the
night turns into The Final

Countdown,  sex  is  no  longer  implied  —  it’s  implicit.  Everyone
left standing is looking to get laid. If you’re ready to play in the
big  leagues,  stick  it  out  to  The  Final  Countdown  and  get
shameless!

Hope that helps put things in perspective and makes your nights
out  a  little  easier  (and  more  successful).  Since  its  Sunday,  just
relax and enjoy the downtime. If you can find it, rent the movie
“Eyes Wide Shut” and check it out. I’ll explain why I think this
movie is important later in the week. For now, just enjoy it and
let it get under your skin.

Go to bed early and make sure to get your energy back for next
week. We still got more days and more girls before this journey
is over!
So to recap today you’re

1.)   Thinking  and  writing  about  the  rhythm  of  your  night  last
night

2.)   Checking out the movie “Eyes Wide Shut”

3.)   Getting some rest

Best, Rob & Zack

E E K

I I

IGHTENING

OTIVATION FOR YOUR

SUCCESS

Monday

f  you  made  it  through  all  the  missions  Rob  and  I  gave  out  last
week,  then  you  are  already  winning.  If  the  missions  were  easy
for  you,  that’s  awesome.  I’m  not  even  going  to  tell  you  it  gets
any  harder...because  it  doesn’t!  That’s  about  as  “difficult”  as
getting girls should ever be. You’ll see how true that statement is
as we move on.

If  you  had  trouble  doing  those  missions,  you’re  a  pussy!  Haha
no  I’m  just  kidding.  If  you  had  trouble  doing  those  missions,
never fear - we have had students that took more than 30 days to
complete single missions. And for you, we fast tracked that pace
giving you a bunch in one week.

The  guys  that  took  longer  to  accomplish  the  missions  are  now
very good friends of mine, and went on to date super hot girls as
easily as if it were an afterthought. And the good news is, like I
said  before,  that’s  as  difficult  as  it  gets...once  you  can  do  those
missions comfortably, you are at the place where you are ready
to truly experience the movement that Rob and I have worked so
hard to put together.

That being said, there is still a lot of stuff to cover as we move
further. So if you didn’t carry out any of those missions, or failed
to record it in your journal, now is the time to go back and fill in

the cracks. We are building a foundation here, and we want it to
be strong.

I  also  strongly  encourage  you  guys  to  go  on  the  private  forum
and post your journals on there. Rob and I will follow along and
make  sure  you  are  making  forward  progress,  rather  than
spinning your wheels and wasting your time and effort.

OK,  now  that  that’s  out  of  the  way,  its  time  to  get  down  to
business. This week we are going to exam something that is not
mentioned  in  the  dating  community,  and  that  is  probably  the
reason so much of the picture is left unanswered.

When it comes to dating HOT & QUALITY girls, it is not about
what you do,

it’s about what you DON’T do that makes a SUPER

ATTRACTIVE guy. It is about not doing the stuff that all the
other, unattractive guys do (99.7% of men).

What NOT to do:

•

Worry about what others think of you.

•

Being overly sensitive to girls that you aren’t in a
relationship with you.

•

Expect girls to be on time.

•

Expect more from a girl than she wants to give
(physically and emotionally).

•

Failing to act comfortably around her.

•

Failing to be comfortable about leading the relationship
to a sexual place

•

Hassle girls about ANYTHING they do, whether it be act
a certain way or drink a certain drink (i.e. “negs”).

•

Be boring.

Now these are only a short list, but the principle behind
everything to not do is simple, if it doesn’t feel good, don’t do it.
It is stressful to worry about a girl being late. Trust me, I have
dealt with it so many times to tell you to just forget about them

showing  up  on  time  ever.  The way  to  think  about  it is  this,  the
extra  time  they  are  taking,  is  probably  to  look  good  when  they
see you. So just appreciate it for what it is.

This  is  the  general  concept  behind  all  of  these  things  -  girls  are
fundamentally  different  from  boys.  THAT  should  be  what  you
love  about  them,  as  much  as  the  fact  that  they’re  hot.  You  can
never convince a girl to act the way you want her to, but when
you  let  her  do  her  own thing,  that’s when  she  will  really  make
you feel attracted to her...if you let her.

So  that  being  said,  this  week’s  curriculum  revolves  around
eliminating  the  harmful  things  that  you  are  doing,  that  take
away  from  the  awesomeness  that  you  already  possess,  and
holding you back from reaching that perfect balance.

Today  we  are  focusing  on  DRIVE  vs.  NEEDINESS.  This  is  a
question  guys  ask  me  all  the  time,  “how  do  I  tell  if  I’m  being
needy or not?” Fortunately this is an easy question to answer, as
the 4 Elements of Game stated, the question is whether you feel
like this girl will “fix” you, or whether you simply want to have
fun with her.

It’s  that  easy.  If  you  see  a  girl  you  like  and  think,  “damnnnn,
shes a hottie...if she’s down we are going to have a LOT of fun!”
But if when you see a girl and you think, “I don’t know what to
say”  or  “this  situation  isn’t  right  to  talk  to  her”  then  it  is
neediness. Plain and simple.

You either “need” the right line to say, or you “need” a proper
situation to approach her. Either way you NEED something. The
fact  is,  every  guy  is  needy  for  the  most  part.  In  the  pickup
community  guys  “need”  tactics  and  lines,  outside  of  the
community, guys need cars, clothes, money, or a nice house. The
reason  Rob  and  I  can  have  practically  any  girl  we  want  in
seconds, is because we need NOTHING.

So  today  we  are  going  to  work  on  identifying  when  you  are
being  needy  vs.  when  you  are  acting  driven,  and  to  help  you
eliminate that neediness once you notice it creeping back in.

Mission #1

Think back to a few situations where you felt needy, or when an
interaction with a girl you liked left you feeling crappy, insecure,
or uncertain. Visualize this and write down everything about it
that made you feel like shit.

Next, go through those interactions in your mind, and visualize
how they could have gone better, and how YOUR actions
shaped the course of the interaction. Identify what it was about
you that drove her away, and think about whether your actions
came from a place of positive drive, or negative neediness. How
could it have gone differently? How will you do it in the future?

Mission #2

Approach 2 HOT girls. I mean the type that when you see them
you think to yourself, “oh shit...I’ve never hooked up with a girl
that hot before.”

Making sure it goes well is NOT a priority, in fact it is a form of
neediness in and of itself. Needing a positive outcome is as bad
as needing an excuse to talk to girls.

Therefore, all you are to do as you do these approaches is take
note of:

How it felt

What made these interactions different from each other,
and what made them different from interactions that you
have had with girls that you know from your social circle

(were you more or less needy/self-conscious), and why
exactly you think that was the case.

What  did  you  NEED  from  these  girls  you  approached?
Was it to see them laugh as a sign you were on the right
track? Was it for them to give you their phone number so
you  felt  like  you  accomplished  something?  Whatever  it
is,  whenever  an  interaction  goes  bad  with  a  girl  it  is
usually a result of neediness overshadowing your drive.
Therefore  really  search  your  soul  and  be  honest  with
yourself when  trying  to understand  what  it  is  that  YOU
need  from  girls,  and  why  that  may  be.  This
understanding  is  a  major  leap  to  identifying  and
eliminating YOUR needy tendencies.

Ultimately,  neediness  comes  when  you  fail  to  do  what  you
want,  when  you  want.  As  you  begin  to  identify  when  you  are
coming from a place of neediness, you will see that it is the exact
opposite  of  how  Drive  is  expained  in  the  4  Elements  of  Game.
While neediness does in fact motivate people, it motivates them
to  pursue  a  path  that  is  not  their  destiny,  and  sidetracks  you
from  following  your  natural  and  attractive  Drive.  And  worse
yet, it loses hot girls along the way.

So remember, identify your neediness, elminate it, and get back
in touch with your drive!

Have fun, see you tomorrow!

Best, Zack & Rob

LIMINATING

ANCING

ONKEY

Tuesday

ow  did  that  feel  yesterday?  Hopefully  you  are  beginning  to
understand  the  difference  between  drive  and  neediness.  By
eliminating  neediness,  you  increase  your  attractiveness  1000%,
and are already different from the majority of guys, who convey
neediness to the girls in their lives without ever being aware of
it.

Today  we  are  going  to  work  on  eliminating  another  harmful
habit. That habit is overly entertaining women. Now you might
be  asking,  “but  Zack,  isn’t  it  GOOD  to  entertain  women?”  Of
course  women  should  be  entertained  whenever  they  interact
with you, however WHERE you are coming from makes all the
difference in the world.

An all too common problem occurs when guys do too much to
impress or entertain a girl. This might include buying her and
her friends drinks, telling too many stories, trying too hard to be
funny, trying to impress her.

All  of  these  problems  create  what  is  known  as  “dancing
monkey”  syndrome,  where  rather  than  attract  the  girl  and  go
home with her at the end of the night, you end up spending all
night with a girl and nothing comes of it...or nothing more than a
flakey phone number.

If you look at the symptoms of dancing monkey syndrome, it all
comes from trying to do too much. If you can make a girl laugh
that is INCREDIBLE - don’t think for a second you shouldn’t aim
to do so. BUT the key to getting the hottest girls with as little
thinking as possible, comes down to knowing WHY you want to
get a woman to laugh.

Perhaps you have heard girls say, “I want a guy who can make
me laugh.” But if you have no understanding of WHY girls want
a guy who makes them laugh, or WHAT to do when she is
laughing, then you aren’t seeing the bigger picture.

The “WHY”

Girls want a guy who can make them laugh because they want
to experience positive, fun emotions. Who doesn’t? As the man it
is YOUR job to make sure she is feeling these emotions.

Here’s the secret though, girls don’t ONLY want to laugh, they
also  want  to  be  swept  off  their  feet.  However,  if  there  is  no
humor or INSPIRATION to balance that DRIVE that sweeps her
off  her  feet,  then  you  are  simply  an  aggressive  guy  and  she  is
automatically  going  to  have  her  guard  up  around  you.
Regardless  of  how  good  your  intentions  might  be,  she  will  be
wary of you simply because of your lack of fun.

The 4 Elements of Game explained that “fun” is INSPIRATION.
Inspiration is unique to each individual person. My inspiration
will display itself differently from the way yours does. It HAS to.
That is because inspiration is something that is unique to you. It
is a combination of YOUR sense of humor, YOUR interests, and
YOUR experiences.

Because  inspiration  is  unique  to  all  of  us,  once  you  tap  into  it,
you  will  provide  a  girl  with  a  completely  unique  experience
EVERY SINGLE TIME.

The “WHAT”

The  final  piece  of  the  puzzle  is  to  understand  why  we  as  guys
want  to  make  girls  laugh,  and  more  importantly  WHAT  to  do
once  we  have  accomplished  it.  We  want  to  make  girls  laugh
because when girls are laughing they are in a good mood. Seem
obvious? It is. When a girl is in a good mood, she is going to be
open  to  trying  new  things,  and  will  trust  you  to  continue  to
provide a fun and positive experience.

Once you have earned that trust, she will be more than happy to
give you her phone number (with the intentions of ACTUALLY
meeting up), or go home with you, or kiss you, or marry
you...you get the point.

The KEY to eliminating dancing monkey syndrome, and always
knowing what to do once you make a girl laugh is to remember
what inspiration’s purpose is. As the book explained, inspiration
balances drive and provides release from the built up sexual
tension created by your drive.

Therefore,  the  goal  is  never  to  simply  make  a  girl  laugh,  but
rather  it  is  to  allow  a  girl  to  feel  the  sexual  tension  from  your
drive,  but  then  release  that  tension  through  humor,  or  some
other  expression  of  inspiration  so  that  the  tension  does  not
overflow and cause her to be uncomfortable. That is why the 4-
EG system is designed around BALANCE.

So once you create tension, and then get her laughing to release
that tension, you two will automatically be closer to each other.

The  point  of  today’s  missions  are  two-fold.  Firstly,  to  get  you
identifying  when  you  are  falling  victim  to  dancing  monkey
syndrome,  and  secondly  to  give  you  an  understanding  of  the
flow  of  an  interaction  between  your  drive  and  inspiration,  as
well as what to DO after the initial release that comes from your
inspiration.

Mission #1

Think  of  a  funny  story  or  something  comical  that  you  recently
saw. Think about how you could convey this to a friend in a way
that is both funny, yet not as if you were trying to impress them.
That  is  how  your  inspiration  should  manifest  itself  -  sharing
your  humor  and  experiences,  but  WITHOUT  the  intention  of
impressing anyone. If you try to impress a girl you will fail every
time, trust me.

If you are having trouble thinking of something funny, or how to
relate  a  story  in  a  funny  way,  take  a  moment  to  review  the
humor  patterns  that  Rob  laid  out  in  The  4  Elements  of  Game.
Pick one and start brainstorming.

Next,  call  up  3 friends  and  share  your  story  or  experience with
them. Don’t try too hard to make it funny, but just observe when
and why they laugh. Most likely, it will be when you are sharing
the feelings that you want them to feel. This means that in order
to properly express your inspiration, you must truly be inspired.
As  the  book  explained,  that  means  actually  having  fun  when
telling a funny story.

Remember  the  comedians  we  showed  you  the  other  day?  Well
that  is  inspiration.  When  they  are  telling  their  jokes  they  are
FEELING  whatever  it  is  that  they  are  trying  to  convey  like  a
good actor. All this means, is that you must really be into what
you are talking about - get passionate!

Mission #2

Approach 2 girls and try to get her to blow you out - the harder
the better. However, do NOT try to offend her. Simply go up to
her  and  start  talking  about  nonsense,  or  random  stuff  you  like,
whether it is pro-wrestling, or collecting sports memorabilia. The
only  thing  you  MUST  do  in  accomplishing  this  mission,  is
talking to each girl about things that YOU are interested in. She
doesn’t  need  to  even  be  interested  in  the  subject  matter,  you
should  simply  just  talk  about  whatever  you  like  with  the
purpose of having her blow you out.

The  point  of  this  mission  will  be  obvious  after  you  attempt  it.
Firstly, it is HARD to get blown out by girls, ESPECIALLY when
you  are  talking  about  something  that  actually  interests  you.  If
YOU get into it, SHE will get into it. Try it and see!

Mission #3

This mission is designed to get you to start understanding how
the  elements  flow  together,  and  how  your  inspiration  is  what
greases the wheels of your interactions, it is what allows you to
move  the  interaction  forward  and  bring  the  MECHANICS
element into the picture.

As inspired as you might be, if you do not move the interaction
forward and create new tension via your MECHANICS, you will
lose the girl. Therefore, here is a simple example of how the
elements work together:

You spot a girl that you are into. You ride the wave of your drive
and  approach  her  holding  nothing  back.  She  feels  this  and  the
tension  begins  to  mount  as  you  look  at  her  and  convey  all  the
feelings  that  she  is  generating  inside  of  you.  Next  it  is  time  to
release that tension and for you and her to come together. This is
where your inspiration pops up. You say a witty remark, tell her
a story, or make a funny comment. She laughs.

This is CRITICAL: Most guys make a girl laugh and are relieved
that  they  are  now  having  fun.  Then  they  make  the  mistake  of
trying  to  continue  to  keep  her  laughing.  That  is  where  dancing
monkey  syndrome  begins.  Rather  than  keeping  her  laughing,
you  should  instead  take  her  cheerful  mood  as  momentum  for
working the mechanics.

Therefore,  once  she  laughs  or  is  interested  in  what  you  are
talking about, it is time to change gears quickly. Ask her to grab
a drink or meet your friends. If you are out during the day, ask
her for her number. If you don’t use the release created by your
inspiration  to  ease  the  mechanics  aspect,  then  you  are  going  to
get  stuck  in  dancing  monkey  mode,  and  the  girl  will  lose
attraction, as there is no longer any balance between tension and
release.

Dancing  monkey  syndrome  is  essentially  failing  to  reintroduce
tension,  and  more  specifically,  failing  to  move  the  interaction
forward using mechanics.

While  there  is  no  one  specific  way  to  properly  approach  and
attract a girl, it must always involve a balance. For instance, you
can  approach  using  either  drive  OR  inspiration.  However,
whichever  you  lead  with,  you  MUST  follow  up  with  it’s
opposing  element.  The  4-EG  system  is  about  utilizing  balance,
not about doing everything the same each time.

So your mission is as follows, approach a girl using your drive.
Within  the  first  45  seconds,  switch  to  letting  some  inspiration
flow  (don’t  over  do  it  you  monkey!).  Once  the  inspiration  is
expressed  and  the  girl  is  intrigued  by  what  you  are  all  about,
IMMEDIATELY  move  it  forward,  whether  it  be  ask  for  her
number,  or  ask  her  to  grab  a  drink  at  the  bar  or  café  or
whatever.

The point is not even to get her to go along with it, rather it is to
begin to see how to transition between your elements, and how
they all should be present at the same time. The transition
between all 4 elements should happen in less than 2 minutes of

real time. Don’t worry too much about that, it is simply to give
you a benchmark for how long each element should be at play.
When you first meet a girl, each element only needs to show
itself for a few seconds at a time before you switch up and show
another element of who you are.

Take note of:

How smooth your transition between elements is

How long you stayed with each element

Did you express all 3 elements? (Drive, Inspiration,
Mechanics)

Was there any connection present?

How did YOU feel about how the interaction went

How did the girl respond to you?

That’s  it  for  today  gents.  Plenty  to  work  on,  so  make  sure  you
are  really  thinking  about  how  you  are  using  your  inspiration,
and whether you are trying to impress the girl, or whether you
are letting your inspiration flow on its own.

Good luck!

Best, Zack & Rob

VOIDING THE

RIEND ZONE

—

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OREVER

!!!!

Wednesday

esterday was probably a tiring day. Today however, we’re going
to just kick back and talk a little bit about avoiding a common
problem that really messes with a lot of guys I’ve have met.

The dreaded friend-zone. Avoiding the friend-zone is one of the
perils that comes with dating girls. I have been stuck there
before and I know how painful it is. The friend-zone comes from
too much connection, not enough mechanics.

You may have experienced this before...you hit it off with a girl,
you guys are initially are into each other, and you have that
warm glow on the inside that this might be the girl for you. You
guys have fun together, but for some reason she either tells you
she would “rather just be friends,” or maybe it just kind of stalls
out.

Either  way,  this  problem  comes  from  spending  too  much  time
being  pleasant,  rather  than  sexual.  At  some  point  you  MUST
connect  with  every  single  girl  you  want  to  be  successful  with.
However,  you  must  never  let  that  connection  overshadow  the
other elements.

If the connection element overshadows the other elements,
you are not generating those feelings of attraction, and all the
connection in the world won’t land that girl in your bed.

In order to avoid the friend-zone, make sure that when you
decide it is time to connect with a girl, make sure that it
always involves elements of tension that comes from
balancing connecting with mechanics.

So today’s mission is to call up a girl who’s number you have
collected over the last several days. If you don’t have any
numbers, no worries. Just go back, pick your favorite
mission, and re-do it so until you get a girl’s phone number.

NEXT: call her up and start to just chat casually with her,
working on the elements of connection as laid out in The 4
Elements of Game. However, your mission is to balance your
connection with mechanics to inject that tension back into the
interaction.

WHAT  TO  DO:  while  connecting  you  must  make  casual
references  to  3  different  activities  or  events  that  you  are
going to or involved in. DO NOT TRY TO BRAG OR SHOW
OFF.  Simply  use  them  as  points  of  building  a  connection.
THEN when the time is right, invite her to whichever of the
things

you

think

will

interest

her

the

most.

Even if it doesn’t go well, you are beginning to develop a
balance between connection and mechanics, and furthermore
you are learning how to use your connection element as a
springboard

moving

the

interaction

forward.

Good luck!

Best, Zack & Rob

OADMAP TO THE

EDROOM

ECHANICS

))))

Thursday

‘ll bet you are starting to get the hang of this stuff.

Today, we are going to jump right in and discuss mechanics a
little more thoroughly.

Many times, I hear guys tell me about how they lost the girl due
to all such and such reason, and I always find myself rolling my
eyes.

A common problem that I notice that comes from learning
pickup material, is expecting everything to be perfect. The truth
is, the closest thing you can come to being perfect is just taking
action, and having a loose plan to keep in the back of your mind.

Getting  too  caught  up  in  your  mechanics  will  leave  you
unbalanced,  and  will  make  it  nearly  impossible  to  form  a
connection  with  a  girl  that  you  like.  Furthermore,  the  more
“perfect”  it  is,  the  less  real  and  unique  it  feels  to  her,  and  the
more it feels like you have been rehearsing in front of a mirror.

So today, we’re going to do something a little bit different. I am
going to walk you through how I think about mechanics when
interacting with a girl that I want.

Firstly, during the beginning of the conversation, I am focusing
more on my drive and inspiration balance. This lasts between 30
seconds to 2 minutes depending on the situation.

However, at all times I have my general roadmap in the back of
my mind. What is this road map? Well it was explained pretty

thoroughly in The 4 Elements of Game. But here is a quick
glance at how my mind works.

Goals:

1. Get contact info

Crucial because no matter how great the interaction was, it was
wasted if you cannot get in touch with her again

2. Give her some ideas of stuff that I do on a regular basis
(discussed in yesterday’s email on blending connection with
mechanics

This  allows  you  to  give  her  some  things  to  associate  with  you,
and  when  you  suggest  that  she  join  you  doing  one  of  these
things,  or  meets  up  with  you  when  you  are  finished,  she  has
some  frame  of  reference  for  who  you  are  as  a  real  person,  not
just some guy who is hitting on her.

3. Leave the interaction on a no-pressure note

So often guys try to call the girl on the spot to make sure she has
your number (or check if it’s a fake). This conveys that you are
overanxious  to  get  this  girls  phone  number,  and  will  convey
neediness.  Chill  out,  and  assume  the  number  is  correct,  or  that
she will remember you. If she doesn’t we have plenty of ideas on
how  to  respond  when  she  doesn’t  remember  you  right  away,
and if the number was fake...well let’s just say it won’t help your
cause calling her out on it.

So that is all I am looking to do during the first interaction with a
girl. Unless of course I am trying to push it further, it is best to
keep it simple and avoid opportunities to fuck up.

So let’s get right into today’s mission.

Mission:

Approach 2-3 women. Follow my general roadmap, but make
sure to keep it in the back of your mind, almost like steps 1-3 are
simply afterthoughts, not something you were plotting all along.

Can’t wait to see how this works out. Don’t forget to report back,
either on the Date Hotter Girls Forum, or directly to me at

Zack@datehottergirls.com

See ya tomorrow!

Best, Zack & Rob

UNKY

RIDAY

Friday

K well this week has been intense. That’s why we are

going to take a break from all of this “learning” and have a little
fun. Now, today is Friday, so I’m assuming you are planning on
going out to meet some hotties!

That  is  why  today’s  missions  are  going  to  be  some  things  that
Rob and I do when we go out to meet girls that are both fun, as
well  as  leading  us  to  end  the  night  arm  in  arm  with  attractive
girls night after night. Today you have a choice of missions. You
can either do one, or both. If you have friends that you like to go
out with, you should all do them together, the more the merrier!

Mission #1 - Building momentum

Approach the MOST attractive girl in the bar. Your mission has
not completed until she either 1) LOVES you, or 2) HATES you.
There is no middle ground. If she doesn’t either LOVE or HATE
you, then you have not sufficiently demonstrated to her who
you truly are or why you had to approach her.

If the interaction ends and you realize that you have not made
this strong of an impact on her, no worries. You are identifying
where your balance is out of whack.

If this is the case, you are to repeat with the SECOND most
attractive girl.

When that interaction ends, go right back to the MOST attractive
girl who you failed to leave a lasting impression on, and take a
MULLIGAN (aka do-over)!

Mission #2 - Royal treatment

This is a FUN game to play with your buddies when you are out
at the bar or club. You guys are all hanging out sharing drinks
and laughs.

The point of this mission is NOT to get yourself chicks. Rather it
is to use your powers for good, and get your friend girls! Start by
picking one of your friends who you will be giving the royal
treatment to. For the rest of the night, it is your job to serve that
friend girls.

In turn he should be doing the same for you. If you are in a big
group, just pair off until everyone is serving someone else, as
well as being served.

There  are  all  sorts  of  fun  deviations  you  can  take  with  this,
where  you  keep  track  of  who  served  the  most,  got  their  friend
the most phone numbers, etc. Get creative with this and keep it
FUN.

That’s all for today, remember...it’s the freakin’ weekend and it’s
time to have some fun.

Best, Zack & Rob

ELAX

,,,,

ECON

,,,,

AND

EADY FOR

ATE

Saturday

hope you had fun last night. The point of last night’s

missions were to get you having fun while also focusing your
efforts on getting girls. Hopefully you are starting to see that the
two go hand in hand.

So today, we are going to put everything you have learned
toward a more practical application.

Take  some  time  today  to  do  something  you  like,  workout,  fix
your  bike,  lie  on  your  back  and  listen  to  music…whatever.
Completely chill out and relax.

Your weekends are something that you should value. It is a time
where you don’t have to report to anyone and you can do

exactly what you like. If you’re like me, that involves hanging
out with hot chicks.

We  are  going  to  go  start  working  on  something that  Rob  and  I
do  all  the  time,  meet  a  girl  during  the  day  and  make  plans  to
meet up later that night.

Mission:

Go to an area where you live that girls hangout at during the
day. Maybe it’s the mall, the gym, a bookstore, it doesn’t matter.
Do 3 approaches on girls that you would like to hang out with.

Begin the conversation focusing on tapping into your drive, and
then balancing the interaction with your inspiration. You guys
should be chatting it up in a casual manner.

Next, suggest that you guys do something later by way of, “You
seem fun, let’s _______ later on. What’s your number?”

Boom! Every time!

The key here is having something fun in mind that you want to
do already, which makes the whole interaction far more genuine.

After you get a number, send her a text 2-3 hours before you
guys plan to meet up just to firm up the plans.

These plans can include other friends, or it can be a one-on-one
date, the choice is yours.

Tomorrow we will be deconstructing what we have learned this
week, so for tonight continue to focus on just having fun!

Best, Zack & Rob

UNDAY

EFLECTION

Sunday

hope that this week was fun, but also got you some

good results as well.

Sunday is a great day. It is a day to kick back and reflect on your
week as a whole. It is also a great time to catch up on stuff that

you  have  been  putting  off.  Have  you  signed  up  and  began
posting  on  the  forum  yet?  If  not,  quit  stalling  and  do  it  now  -
part of today’s mission requires you to record your experiences
in your journal. Why not put it online to get feedback from Rob,
myself, and other guys who are experiencing the same thing you
are?

Mission: Reflect & Record

Think back to Monday. What did you realize about yourself that
is conveying neediness to girls? How did you figure this out?
How can you fix this?

Of course we have answers to these questions, but it is important
for developing your own sense of BALANCE that you starting to
think  about  these  things  as well.  Rob  and  I  will be  able  to help
coach  you  through  the  tough  stuff,  but  you  should  really  be
learning to be your own teacher.

Next,  let’s  look  back  to  Tuesday.  What  behaviors  or  habits  do
you  still  have  that  seek  to  entertain  girls?  Are  these  things
helping you? Or are they really holding you back from success?
Are girls LOVING your company and dying to spend more time
with you? Or are they losing interest and flaking on you? MOST
guys overly entertain girls. If you watch our infield footage that
is  included  in  the  bonuses,  you  will  notice  that  we  are  rarely
TRYING

to impress or entertain girls. Instead, we are creating a

fun  vibe  that  they  are  latching  onto.  Once  you  eliminate  your
harmful  “dancing  monkey”  tendencies,  you  can  replace  them
with  carefree  inspiration  that  builds  a  fun  sexual  vibe  around
your DRIVE.

Wednesday we discussed the importance of building a genuine
connection,  without  landing  yourself  in  the  friend-zone.  This  is
actually fairly easy. You simply must remember to be GENUINE
and  get  to  know  the  girl  for  REAL.  This  means  REALLY  being
yourself  and  dropping  any  gimmicks.  BUT  the  balance  comes
from  remember  WHY  you  are  forming  this  connection.  It  is
because you’re attracted to her, and want a sexual relationship.

So while you SHOULD be connecting, it is NOT your goal - your
goal is to move the interaction forward to where you BOTH
want it to wind up!

Thursday we talked about mechanics and how to actually move
an  interaction  forward.  How  did  you  feel  when  moving  the
interaction forward? I remember that this was one of the hardest
things for me to realize, that I could move an interaction forward
VERY fast, with little to no objection from the girl. It was simply
a  result  of  going  for  it,  but  ALSO  knowing  how  to  do  it
smoothly.  How  did  it  feel  when  you  tried  to  move  the
interaction  forward?  Did  it  go  well?  Didn’t  it  feel  kinda  cool
whether it went bad or not? It’s like shooting a basketball - if you
don’t take the shot, you simply cannot score. How can you do it
even SMOOTHER next time.

Friday and Saturday were simply about having fun and putting
some of this stuff into practice, plain and simple. We will have
more fun missions for you to do out in the field over the coming
weekends.

Mission: Carrying Over Success

This  week  we  are  going  to  have  a  special  focus  -  how  to  setup
and  carry  out  various  first  date  scenarios.  We  will  give  you
several possible date scenarios that you can pull out whenever.
This  includes  dive  bar  dates,  dinner  dates,  movie  dates,  you
name it.

For  that  reason  Sunday is  an important  day.  Sunday  is  the  day
that  we  go  through  our  phone  numbers  that  we  collected  from
the week, and start following up and also booking up our social
calendar.

Firstly,  time  to  share  a  little  secret from  my  personal  playbook.
Because  you  are  going  to  be  collecting  a  LOT  of  numbers  from
now  on,  it’s  good  to  have  a  phone  system  to  remember  one
Ashley  from  another.  So  now,  here  it  is  for  the  first  time  ever,
Zack Bauer’s Phone Ranking System!

Step 1

Firstly, go through all your numbers. The newest ones that you
get go into the “A” file. This means, before their name you place
an “A” to bump them to the top of your contact list. This group
is saved for girls that are cool and you are interested in following
up with.

Next, place a “F” in front of the girls that, well you know ;). This
way there will be no mixing them up!

Finally  place  a  “Z”  in  front  of  phone  numbers  that  are  non-
responsive  or  you  are  just  not  that  into.  Never  delete  these
numbers, as you’ll never know when she will hit you up out of
the blue.

Step 2

The  second  step  is  adding  a  suffix  to  each  phone  number,
something that will help you remember who this is, and where
you  guys  met.  Remembering  details  will  keep  you  in  good
standing, trust me.

So here is what a typical phone number looks like in my phone:

A Ashley Wholefoods

And there you have it!

So  go  through  your  phone  now  and  start  organizing  your
numbers. Sometimes Sunday is a good time to setup your dates
for  the  week,  but  we  prefer  to  do  it  early  in  the  week.  This  is
because  on  Sunday,  people  are  winding  down  from  their
weekend and gearing up for another week. It is typically harder
to  get  girls  to  commit  to  plans  on  a  Sunday.  It  is  better  to  wait
once the flow of the week has begun, and they know what their
schedule will look like.

Talk to you tomorrow, and see ya on the forum!

Best,

Zack

E E K

I I I

ETTING THE

WING

OLLOW

Monday

ike I said yesterday, we are going to start to work on following
up phone numbers, and setting up dates.

Following up a number properly is actually very simple. The
most important part is not overcomplicating the situation.

So today you are going to select 3 phone numbers you have
recently collected and have not yet contacted. We are going to
use these numbers and go over how to set up a date properly.

Mission:

First read this article I wrote on how to send the perfect text.

http://www.datehottergirls. com/3-easy-steps-to-sending- the-
perfect-text-message/

Now, send a different message that you crafted yourself using
that formula to each number.

In  order  to  follow  the  rest  of  this  week’s  agenda,  set  up  a
different  date  from  this  list  with  each  number  you  follow  up
with.

•

Dive bar

•

Evening drinks

•

Coffee date

•

Movie date

•

Invite her over for you to cook for her

Whether you get all 3 numbers to turn into a date with a hottie,
or none of them workout, it is important to get comfortable
going through the steps.

After you send out each text, try to figure out a different day to
spend with each girl, and firm up the plans. Don’t carry on too
much via text or you will lose all that great tension that you are
building up. She should feel a littler nervous and excited after
the plans.

You shouldn’t text back and forth more than 3-5 times. If there is
more that needs to be said at that moment, call her up
immediately rather than continue to use texts. If you spend too
much time in “text-land” she will be more hesitant to let the
interaction move forward, this leads to A LOT of the reasons that
guys have girls flake on them.

Record your results, what went awesome? What could have
been better, etc.

Best, Zack & Rob

ATE

’’’’

URE TO

AND

Tuesday

know Zack’s been dropping knowledge on you hard

and this week is “follow up week” for a date.

To keep with Zack’s theme, but also to put my twist onto it, I’m
going

concentrate

two

simple

things

in  this  email,  1.)  an  alternative  way  to  set  up  dates  that  could
vastly  reduce  flakes  (a mechanics  elements),  and  2.)  an  exercise
that’ll  help  cultivate  the  proper  mindset  to  optimize  your
attractiveness.

So, to begin, I’m going to relate a quick story from this weekend.
On Friday night, I was out and about, enjoying the splendor of
hot chicks and all the best NYC has to offer. I wound up meeting
this  real  hotty  (tiny  little  girl  with  a  smoking  body)  who  really
caught my eye. I put my 4-EGs in motion, stepped up to her, and
spent the night talking and making out with her.

Unfortunately, something happened with her friend and one of
my friends, which prevented us from taking our interaction to
the next level that night. As such, I “soft closed” her by taking

her number. When I handed her my iPhone, she programmed in
her number as well as her email.

Now, I haven’t “email closed” a girl since I first started learning
how to pickup girls. I know, I know, to most guys, taking a girl’s
email  address  seems  really  lame.  HOWEVER,  I started  to  think
about  something:  when  I  first  started  learning  “game”,  I  got  A
LOT  of  dates  with  girls  even  though  my  game  pretty  much
sucked.

That means my mechanics element was STRONG.

So  I  did  some  research.  I  went  through  some  of  my  old  emails
and  realized  after  “email  closing”  enough  girls,  I’d  crafted  the
PERFECT  email  template.  In  fact,  as  I  was  looking  through  my
archive,  I’ve  NEVER  had  a  girl  not  respond  when  I  sent  this
follow up email. So I’m going to include the EXACT email I sent
to the girl from the other night (obviously she responded and we
have  plans  to  drink  some  wine  Thursday  night)  and  then  I’ll
write  out  the  template  so  you  can  easily  swap  some  phrases  in
and  out  to  make  this  template  truly  your  own,  perfectly  fit  for
any interaction you may have.

My recent email to “the hotty”:

“Dearest Hot Sauce Lover –

Nice  to  finally  meet  someone  who’s  on  my  level  of  verbal
jousting.  Enjoyed  our  conversation  about  world  travel,  tasty
wine, and our fabled relationship which is already fated to end
in  a  vicious  cycle  of  fighting  and  makeup  sex  (and  10,000
children). I don’t know if I can handle the emotional turbulence.
I may have to stick you in the friend zone :)

Hope you got home safe ;)

Pax,
Mysterious Guy from the Gansevoort (ignore the full name in
my email address)

P.S. Right now are you wearing a little power suit, with your
hair up, reading this as your juggle your Blackberry and a
briefcase in one hand (perhaps with a grande Starbucks coffee in
the other hand)?”

Email template:

“Dearest (Inside joke or nickname) –

Nice  to  finally  meet  someone  who’s  on  my  level  of  (something
you  complimented  her  on).  Enjoyed  our  conversation  about
world  (3  things  you  spoke  about,  generally  I  go:  1.)  something
serious, 2.) something random and minor, 3.) something funny).
I  don’t  know  if  I  can  handle  the  emotional  turbulence.  I  may
have to stick you in the friend zone :)

Hope you got home safe ;)

Pax,
(Nickname she gave you)

P.S. (Simple, direct (and ideally, funny) question that makes it
easy for her to respond when she writes back.)”

Again,  this  is  just  a  suggestion,  but  if  you’re  having  a  problem
with  “flakes”  you  should  absolutely  try  this  approach.  Keep  in
mind,  sending  off  an  email,  while  it  may  seem  like  a  “pussy
move,”  actually  lets  you  communicate  your  personality  WAY
MORE than you can over text or on a voicemail.

Moreover, emails give her a chance to respond at her leisure. For
example,  she  may  ignore  your  text  while  she’s  out  and  about,
and  then  simply  forget  to  respond.  With  email,  however,  you
KNOW  she’s  reading  your  message  when  she’s  sitting  down,
fully able to respond.

Give  it  a  shot  and  see  if  it  reduces  your  flaking.
Okay, so moving on to the exercise in this email, I want you to
go on a date tonight...with yourself. Yup, you heard me correct:
you’re  going  to  take  yourself  out  to  a  nice  dinner,  order  a  nice
beverage, and get to know YOURSELF.

For  a  lot  of  guys  their  biggest  sticking  point  relates  to  not
understanding  their  own  values  and  interests.  Especially  when
we study how to better meet and attract women, us guys often
put theory and girls in front of understanding ourselves.

Therefore, this exercise is simple, but should be hugely beneficial
to you if you’re neglecting yourself (which we ALL do at some
point). I want you to go out, pick a nice restaurant or café to
take yourself, and spend at least an hour focused ONLY on
yourself.

If it helps, you can prepare a set of “interview” questions to ask
yourself: what are your interests? What have you been excited
about lately? What are your goals?

Even if you think you already know the answers to your
questions, go on your self-date anyway. You’ll be surprised what
you discover when you devote an hour or so solely to yourself.

So, to sum up today’s assignments, you’re going to:

1.) Consider using email as an effective “anti-flake” strategy.
2.) Go on a date with yourself and really get to know yourself.

That’s it!

Best, Rob & Zack

ETTING

ATE

Wednesday

ob’s tip about setting up dates via Email was

something  I  have  never  really  done.  So  to  join  you  guys  along
the way, I decided to send out that email to 3 different girls that I
have  met  recently.  The  results?  I  have  a  date  lined  up  for
Thursday, and I’m double booked for Friday, will have to work
that one out.

Anyways, now that you have gone on a date with yourself and
are more in touch with who you are and what you want out of
your dating life, you are ready to start dating ACTUAL girls,
haha.

Use any technique you wish, whether it be my text advice I gave
out

couple

days

ago

(here

again:

http://www.datehottergirls. com/3-easy-steps-to-sending- the-
perfect-text-message/

), Rob’s advice from yesterday, or any

other way that you feel comfortable setting up a date.

TIP:  Tuesdays  and  Wednesdays  are  EXCELLENT  days  for
setting up dates. The reason is, girls have settled into their week
a  little  bit,  and  are  starting  to  look  towards  the  fun  that  next
weekend promises. This is the PERFECT time to try to capitalize
on that emotion, especially when she doesn’t have any big plans
to interfere.

Instead of trying to set the date up for later in that week
however, you are going to try to set it up for that night.

I  cannot  tell  you  how  often  I  pass  the  boring  hours  at  work  by
simply  hitting  up  phone  numbers  that  I  have  collected,  and
lining up a date for after I get home. Nothing gets you through
the  workday  better  than  the  anticipation  of  meeting  up  with  a
hot girl you just met.

The  key  to  ensuring  success  is  hitting  up  about  3-5  phone
numbers with the same text and for the same plans. Wait about
1-2 hours to respond, just to make sure that all the girls that will
respond have their chance to be #1. Then you will not only have
your  choice  of  which  girl  to  go  out  with  based  on  who  is
available  that  night,  you  can  also  reschedule  the  other  girls  for
another night that week.

Give it a shot and report back!

Best, Zack & Rob

SUPERNOVA

DAY

Thursday

hope you had success setting up your dates. We’ll

have some pointers for what to do on those dates in the next few
days.

For today, we are going to go over the Romantic Supernova as
explained in the book. This is an excellent date to set up because
everything is built in - food, entertainment, and a couch ;). It is
not the only way, but it is time tested, and proven to work.

Mission:

First,  re-read  the  section  in  The  4  Elements  of  Game  on  the
Romantic  Supernova.  Get  everything  that  you  will  need
including food, drinks, and entertainment ready to go.

Use either Rob’s email technique, or my text technique, and set
up a date with a girl that you have either met recently, or have
been out with a few times already.

Follow the steps to the “T” and have fun.

Don’t worry about what to say or how to act, you have your 4-
EG’s balanced right? Good. So in that case, enjoy and simply
have fun.

Remember to record what happened in your journal so we can
get more in depth on Sunday night.

TIP: On the date, the only things you should be concerned with
is  having  fun,  making  sure  your  GUEST  is  having  fun,  and
whether  or  not  you  are  building  and  using  sexual  tension  and
release.  That’s  all  that  should  be  on  your  mind  while  you’re  in
the middle of a Supernova experience.

Have fun!

Best, Zack & Rob

ATE

Friday

ow did the Supernova go last night? I love it because it is such a
simple date that you can pull out practically any time and with
any girl, and feel confident that it is going to go down amazing.

Do you have a date lined up for tonight yet? If you set up a date
for today based on the other day’s mission that’s awesome! If not
take this time to practice your setup for the date by hitting up a
few of the numbers that you have collected in the past couple
weeks.

Tonight we’re going to go somewhere that I’m sure every guy is
familiar with...a bar. They type of bar you choose is completely
up to you. It can be a fancy margarita spot, a wine bar, or even a
dive bar. That’s right, it does not matter. So no matter what
situation you are in, you will always have a place to take a date.

Follow the mission and you’ll see results. I promise.

Mission: Go out for drinks and get a girl back to your place

First, choose a bar that is close to your place. It will be much
easier to make the move home if it isn’t to much of a hassle.

Make plans to either pick her up or meet her at the bar,
whichever works best.

When you meet up keep the vibe fun and casual at first. Have a
drink  and  relax,  get  the  banter  going,  and  just  have  fun.  Don’t
rush  to  finish  your  drinks,  as  you  don’t  want  to  get  too  drunk.
Nor should you want her to get too drunk.

Use whatever you have in the bar to your advantage, whether it
is a jukebox, pool table, or fancy straws in the drinks. Entertain
yourself, and she will have fun as well.

On the second round of drinks increase the tension. This comes
from amping up your drive, telling her what you like about her,
and looking at her in a way that let’s her know that you are
completely attracted to her. Make sure that she feels comfortable
with this, so that you can begin to move this forward.

As  you  build  this  tension,  keep  your  inspiration  flowing.  Make
sure that the moment is not only tense, but also inviting and fun.
Make mention of the fun things you have back at home. I have a
balance board, and while out at the bar I tell girls that I’m going
to  take  them  home  and  take  them  surfing.  This  always  piques
curiosity. What sort of fun are YOU bringing to the table that she
should know about?

As you hint at the fun you are going to have back home, and you
increasingly communicate your attraction through strong eye
contact, smiling, and having fun with her, you should finish up
your drinks.

I  don’t  like  to  have  more  than  2-3  drinks  on  a  date,  because  I
don’t intend nor want to be drunk when interacting with a girl
I’m  really  into.  Furthermore,  I  don’t  want  her  being  drunk  to
forget any of the fun times that we share together. Also, girls will
trust themselves around you if you aren’t the guy who needs to
rely on getting them plastered to get laid. Be a gentleman.

So after finishing your drinks tell her simply, “OK! Time to [go
surfing]!” Exchange my surfing for whatever it is that YOU want
to  take  her  home  to  do.  Maybe  it’s  finger  painting.  Maybe  it’s
watching  your  favorite  TV  show  with  her.  Either  way,  you
should  not  be  looking  at  getting  her  home  as  if  it  is  your  only
agenda.  When  you  get  home,  you  must  entertain  her  and  keep
the vibe fun and sexual, perhaps open a bottle of wine (that you
most  likely  won’t  get  around  to  finishing).  From  there  you  can
decide where to take things.

Have fun!

Best, Zack & Rob

ELIGHTFUL

Saturday

hope you had fun last night, and the romance actually turned
into a Supernova...if ya know what I mean.

Anyways, today is Saturday. Saturdays are NOT the night to be
setting up a first date. It sends the wrong message to a girl you
just met. What is that message?

•

I don’t have plans on a Saturday night (i.e. I’m plain and
boring)

•

I want to spend one of my only free days with you,
someone I have very little connection with yet

The  good  news  is  that  Saturday  is  the  perfect  night  to  go  out
with your friends and meet NEW girls for next weeks dates.

So  that’s  exactly  what  you’re  going  to  do,  put  the  4-EG  system
into  action  and  go  meet  some  new  girls  that  you  are  into  and
interested in dating.

Mission: Afternoon Delight

So  while  you’re  out  tonight  meeting  hotties,  you  should  be
thinking  about  setting  up  a  date  for  tomorrow  afternoon.  You
are going to use the momentum that you generate from meeting
these girls, to get a date the following day.

Go out, have fun, meet cool girls. I love giving homework
assignments!

While  you’re  talking  to  these  girls,  hint  at  something  cool  that
you  are  going  to  be  doing  tomorrow  (make  your  plans  before
going out) and invite her to join (CASUALLY!!!!). If she says yes,
use  it  as  an  opportunity  to  grab  her  number.  If  she  doesn’t  flat
out  invite  herself  along,  just  be  cool  about  it.  Get  her  number
before  you  leave,  but  don’t  make  mention  of  the  activity  a
second  time.  Instead,  you’re  going  to  text  her  with  the  text
message set up I have been talking about that you can find again
here:

http://www.datehottergirls. com/3-easy-steps-to-sending- the-
perfect-text-message/

Set up the date for Sunday, and have fun! Look for my Sunday
wrap up when you get home from the date (unless of course you
never make it home).

Enjoy!

Best, Zack & Rob

EFLECTION

IME

Sunday

K so I hope you had fun last night, met some cool girls, and took
one of them on the date you had planned out for today. If so,
how did it go?

If you weren’t able to land a date for tonight, what went wrong?
Was it your approach, was it your follow up, did you lack a solid
plan, etc.

Record this in your journal.

Now that it has been 3 straight weeks of mackdom, what
changes have you noticed? When Rob and I were just starting to
go out and really nail this stuff down and see awesome results,
we had a tough time making it through 30 days straight. It was
grueling and tiresome. But the most frustrating part was feeling
like there was no improvement.

It  wasn’t  until  after  we  had  dragged  ourselves  half  to  death,
facing all types of shame and embarrassment, that I was able to
look  back  and  see  the  difference.Maybe  you  haven’t  gotten  the
optimal  results  from  all  of  the  missions.  But  so  long  as  you
actually ATTEMPTED them you are making progress, I promise.
It is the same thing that we see with all of our students – it is not
until  you  have  some  time  to  reflect  on  what  you  have
accomplished that it solidifies itself in your mind.

So today’s mission is about reflection.

Mission: Pure Relflection

I’m  sure  that  some  of  the  missions  we  have  given,  whether  it
was to sing to a stranger or to try to kiss a girl in under a minute,
have  been  interesting  experiences  to  say  the  least.  Perhaps  you
never  would  have  thought  that  these  things  were  possible,  or
furthermore, that YOU could even attempt to do it and get away
with it!

Whatever it has been for you, think back on what you did, that
despite thinking it was dumb, or wouldn’t work, placed you
outside your comfort zone, and as a result gave you a slight grin
or feeling of surprise after the moment had passed.

What  have  you  realized  about  yourself  over  the  last  3  weeks?
Have you changed at all? Are you still the same man you were 3
weeks ago? If so is that good or bad? For some people, changing
who they are is a BAD things as they are already great to begin
with.  Other  people  could  certainly  benefit  from  a  personality
tweaking  if  they  are  not  getting  the  results  they  want  when
interacting with the girls you are attracted to.

What have you realized about girls since you have begun? Are
they easier than you thought to relate to? Are they more
difficult? Have you found that you enjoy building more genuine
connections?

What have you realized about the way you view dating and
hooking up with girls? Have your views remained the same or
changed since we begun a few weeks ago?

Take some time to honestly reflect upon these and any other
questions that come to you while you are chilling out and
reflecting.

I created a thread on the forum called Sunday Reflections for
you guys to post all your responses to this in addition to in your
journal. Rob and I will go through them, and we can have a solid
discussion about all that you have been experiencing.

Other than that, take some YOU time and just relax tonight…it
has been a long but EPIC week.

Talk to you soon!

Best, Zack & Rob

E E K

I V

ULLING

OGETHER

OCIAL

IRCLE

Monday

hope that you got an idea last week of how set up and enjoy
some basic date ideas. Now that the pieces are starting to fit
together, we are going to move onto a different topic – dating
girls that you meet through your social life. Maybe it’s a girl
from class, work, or you met through friends.

Girls that you meet through your normal social life rather than
by a cold approach tend to make up the majority of girls that
you will meet in your life. If you’re anything like me, you have
met a girl or two through your social circle, and have wanted to
date her.

That being said, the 4 Elements of Game are just as important to
dating girls that you passively meet through your social circle.

However, the way you interact with them must be very subtle,
and very casual. If you try to get too direct with someone you
met in your social circle, you risk not only losing the girl, but
also offending the rest of the social group.

There are some dangers that you run when dealing with social
circle dating. It is easy to drive the girl away by being too direct.
At the other end of the spectrum you also run the risk of ending
up in the “friend-zone.”

So this week our focus is finding that perfect balance between
being too direct, and not being direct enough as it relates to
dating girls in your social circle.

Here are some quick tips to boost your success:

•

Use your mutual acquaintances to your advantage

•

Make use of events that you know she will be at

•

Insulate yourself into her social circle by befriending her
friends

•

Do not talk about your interest in this girl with her
friends (rumors travel fast and cannot be controlled)

•

Do not seek to hang out with this girl one on one right
away

•

Position yourself in a way to be viewed by this girl in
your natural environment (with your friends and hers)

•

Be casual with her at first, and play it slightly coy. This
will build attraction as she wonders why you are so fun
and open with others, yet you are slightly different
around her. This will amplify the sexual tension without
having to actually DO anything.

Mission: Recon Mission

Today is Monday, so we’ll keep today’s mission to a homework
assignment. Think back to all the girls that you have met or been
attracted to in your social circle. What kept you from getting this
girl? If you ended up hooking up with her, what helped you
guys hook up?

What type of guys do you see girls go for in their social circles?

Post your thoughts about this on the Forum.

Then, come up with 3 questions you have about social circle
game. Email them to me at zack@datehottergirls.com

Can’t wait to hear from you!

Best, Zack & Rob

RIEND

Tuesday

K, so I hope you gave some serious thought to what we talked about
yesterday.

Now, it’s time to make your first move. When initiating contact with girls
in your social circle, SUBTLTY will be crucial. If you come on too strong
too quickly it will confuse her, especially if she has only thought of you as
a friend for a while.

Instead, you must UNDERPLAY this situation. NOT put pressure on
her, and NOT give away your agenda before SHE is already thinking
about you in that “more-than-a-friend” sort of way.

Some  of  this  stuff  seems  contrary  to  what  we  discussed  in  The  4
Elements  of  Game  as  it relates  to  following  your  drive  and  approaching
girls  shamelessly.  Keep  in  mind,  you  still  MUST  tap  into  your  drive,
express  it  through  inspiration,  build  a  connection,  and  move  the
interaction forward. Nothing has changed, except the situation you are in.

Approaching a girl in a strong direct fashion works great, because it sends
her an instant message about what type of guy you are, instantly builds
tension (and hence attraction), and allows you to reveal your other
elements fairly quickly.

Now,  because  you  already  know  or  have  ties  to  the  girls  in  your  social
situation,  you  must  look  at the  situation  in  a slightly  different  light.  You
are not under the pressure to approach, or risk losing the girl forever. So
play  it  slower…there  is  far  less  pressure  to  perform  in  a  social  circle
setting, as you can come and go into this girl’s reality almost at will.

So here is a MONEY road-map that I only share with friends. Here it
goes:

•

When interacting with a girl you already know or met through
your social circle, keep it CASUAL by not VOICING your

attraction. Instead let it show through your smile, eye contact,
and manner that you treat her (like your girlfriend i.e. holding the
door, taking her coat, etc).

•

This  seems  small,  but  she  will  SENSE  the  change  in  your
behavior, yet will not be able to figure out what seems different.
You  have  not  voiced  it  to  her  so  there  are  doubts  in  her  head
about  why  you  are  acting  different.  Your  different  actions  will
force her to play the role of your girlfriend.

•

Use this new dynamic to help your cause, and simply move it
forward CASUALLY. Suggest that you two attend a party or hit a
bar. Make it sound like just friends hanging out, but the
FEELING is that of boyfriend/girlfriend hanging out.

•

Simply keep the tension by NOT moving forward too soon. Wait
until you guys are alone at your place or hers later on before you
actually make your move.

•

In these situations, if the tension is allowed to linger, it makes
finally hooking up so easy because the girl is DYING to know if
this tension & new feelings are real, or whether she just imagined
it.

Mission:

Set up a “hang out” scenario with a girl that you like in your social circle.
Follow the road-map I laid out above.

If you have any questions, email me at

zack@datehottergirls.com

or post

them on the forum.

Enjoy!

Best, Zack & Rob

TTRACTIVE

IRST

IIII

MPRESSIONS

Wednesday

ow did that go setting up your social-circle date?

Today, we’re going to add to the discussion we were having yesterday.
While it is good to be able to transition a girl from friend to girl friend, it
is better to instantly be viewed as “potential boyfriend material” from the
moment a girl is introduced to you.

This makes your life SO easy, because instead of always having to
approach girls that you like, you can capitalize on all the girls you meet in
the course of your daily life.

Essentially what we are talking about today, is how to make an
ATTRACTIVE FIRST IMPRESSION.

The difference between an attractive first impression and an unattractive
first impression comes down to PREDICTABILITY. A normal first
impression is common place, an ATTRACTIVE FIRST IMPRESSION
leaves girls with butterflies in their stomach. This has NOTHING to do
with looks, money, or nice car. So let’s first break down the anatomy of an
attractive first impression.

Smile – if you are smiling in a “nice to meet you” sort of way this
is common. Everyone knows this smile that you put on to be
polite when meeting someone. Instead, your smile should convey
that you have a fun and exciting secret (perhaps a dirty one). This

“unpredictable”  smile  will  leave  her  wondering  what  is  going
through  your  head,  but  your  polite  actions  send  mixed  signals
that get her emotions racing.

Eye contact – same as above. Standard eye contact when meeting
someone is very polite. Instead you want to look at her in a way
that is NOT creepy, but conveys that you are ACTUALLY
appreciating this gorgeous girl standing in front of you…believe
me she will FEEL it.

How you speak to her – do you talk to her in very polite
“stranger conversation” or instead, do you engage her in
interesting and different conversational topics that she would not
otherwise expect when first being introduced to someone.

And  this  list  goes  on.  But  as  you  can  see,  there  is  VERY  LITTLE
EFFORT  here.  It  is  all  about  being  casual  and  subtle,  as  if  you  are
planting  the  idea  in  her  head  rather  than  trying  to  lay  your  cards  on  the
table.

Mission:

Go out today and throughout your daily routine practice these little tips
for an attractive first impression. It is best to practice on grocery store
cashiers, sales girls, etc. Perhaps even complete strangers.

But  today  is  just  practice  so  don’t  worry…I  certainly  don’t  want  you  to
mess up in front of friends before you get the hang of it, and risk serious
embarrassment.  So  go  get  comfortable  with  this  stuff  and  remember,
don’t  try  hard…this  is  all  about  being  subtle.  Better  to  under-do  it  than
over-do it.

Talk to you soon!

Best, Zack & Rob

OCIAL

Thursday

hope that you got an idea last week of how set up and

enjoy some basic date ideas. Now that the pieces are starting to
fit together, we are going to move onto a different topic - dating
girls that you meet through your social life. Maybe it’s a girl
from class, work, or you met through friends.

Girls  that  you  meet  through  your  normal  social life  rather  than
by  a  cold  approach  tend  to  make  up  the  majority  of  girls  that
you will meet in your life. If you’re anything like me, you have
met a girl or two through your social circle, and have wanted to
date her.

That being said, the 4 Elements of Game are just as important to
dating girls that you passively meet through your social circle.

However,  the way  you  interact with  them  must be  very  subtle,
and  very  casual.  If  you  try  to  get  too  direct  with  someone  you
met  in  your  social  circle,  you  risk  not  only  losing  the  girl,  but
also offending the rest of the social group.

So  this  week  our  focus  is  finding  that  perfect  balance  between
being  too  direct,  and  not  being  direct  enough  as  it  relates  to
dating girls in your social circle.

Here are some quick tips to boost your success:

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Use your mutual acquaintances to your advantage

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Make use of events that you know she will be at

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Insulate yourself into her social circle by befriending her
friends

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Do not talk about your interest in this girl with her
friends (rumors travel fast and cannot be controlled)

•

Do not seek to hang out with this girl one on one right
away

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Position yourself in a way to be viewed by this girl in
your natural environment (with your friends and hers)

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Mission: Recon Mission

Today is Monday, so we’ll keep today’s mission to a homework
assignment.

Think back to all the girls that you have met or been attracted to
in your social circle. What kept you from getting this girl? If you
ended up hooking up with her, what helped you guys hook up?

What type of guys do you see girls go for in their social circles?

Post your thoughts about this on the Forum.

Then, come up with 3 questions you have about social circle
game. Email them to me at

zack@datehottergirls.com

Can’t wait to hear from you!

Best, Zack & Rob