Rob JudgeZack Bauer 28 Days to Success

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ETTING INTO THE

WING

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OTIVATION FOR YOUR

SUCCESS

Monday

sn’t it funny how music can change your mood? Whenever I
hear the Mark Morrison song “Return of the Mack” I can’t help

but feel a rush of awesomeness as I remember a summer from a
few years back, when Zack and I did our “30 Day Challenge”—
going out 30 nights straight to meet and attract women. In some
ways, music is like an “emotional bookmark” that helps
motivate us and remind us of a certain time in our lives.

And since the next 28 days are going to be such a crucial and
amazing period of your life, you should have a soundtrack to
remind as well as motivate YOU of your adventures. So, to kick
off your new success with women, I want you to assemble a “28
Day Playlist.”

Pick 5-10 songs that personify the life you want to live and the
man you want to become. I want you to bump to these tunes
CONSTANTLY. You should cycle through this playlist again
and again, throughout these 28 days.

If you want to read how I assembled my playlist, check out the
appendix (1A).

Once you have your jams bumping, I want you to create a Word
file on your computer titled “My_28_Days_to_Success”. This file
will record each day of your journey toward dating hotter girls.
I’d highly recommend you post your entries on the private
forum we’ve set up just for you and guys like you. This way,
you can stay motivated and get pointers from a community of
likeminded, inspired men.

For today, title your entry, “Day 1: The Value of MY Success”. To
get leverage on yourself on yourself and commit to sticking with
the next 28 days, I want you to write a paragraph of where you
came from. Think about your past crushes/girlfriends, regrets,
and successes.

Next, write a second paragraph about where you’re at now.
Write about your current views, your fears, and your strengths.
What are you most proud of and what do you most want to
change?

Finally, write out a closing paragraph about where you want to
be. Imagine the coolest, most attractive man possible and
describe his behavior. Don’t only focus on obvious things, like
body language and confidence; get to the heart of this
“character”:

How would he respond if a girl rejected him or blew him off?
How would react if another guy starting acting like a dick to
him? What would he do if he said something stupid or did
something clumsy?

In The 4 Elements of Game, you’ll read that being attractive is NOT
about being perfect. Therefore, don’t write a paragraph
describing the “perfect” ladies’ man—someone you might see in
a Hollywood movie. Instead, write how you’d imagine a REAL
ladies’ man, combining behaviors you’ve seen in guys’ you have
admired.

Once you have your 3 paragraphs, I want you to take inventory
of how you spend your day. Are there certain activities that are
wasting your time and energy? Of course there are. We all have
such “time killers” that sap us of our motivation.

Therefore, to stay motivated, I want you to give up AT LEAST 3
nonproductive activities. Some examples are:

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Watching t.v.

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Playing video games

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Masturbating

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Looking at porn

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Surfing the Internet

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Talking to friends who are not supportive

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Excessive sleeping

And you can probably add a few more to that list.

I know giving up these activities might be hard, but THAT’s the
price for success. You can’t stay stuck in your old habits and still
upgrade your dating life.

You’ll read in the opening chapters of The 4 Elements of Game that
getting better with women is NOT an epic process. You won’t
need to humiliate yourself or spend months feeling awkward
and weird; HOWEVER, you WILL need to make some changes.
Even though those changes will vastly improve the quality of
your life, THEY MAY BE UNCOMFORTABLE AT FIRST.

But if you want these 28 days to be a success, you MUST replace
those life-draining activities with new (more awesome) habits.
Therefore, I want you to COMMIT to either giving up
completely or seriously reducing ANY activity that saps your
motivation. For example, if you masturbate every day, I want
you to cut it back to ONCE a week (max). Moreover, I’d
recommend NOT watching t.v. or playing video games AT
ALL.

After these 28 days, you can go back to those activities if you’d
like. For now, you have to pay a price for your success—up
front.

So to recap, today you’re:

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Making a “Player Playlist” of songs to keep your
motivated

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Writing out three paragraphs that chart your progress
and goals

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Committing to cut out 3 life-draining activities

If there’s any time left, go out and do something physical like
run or lift weights. This will increase your masculine drive and
keep you active. Also, try to read up to the end of Part I of The 4
Elements of Game

Once you’re done, rest up. Tomorrow the fun begins.

P.S. When setting up your journal, give it a cool title. That way
it’ll make you excited to update it each day. (Also, if you post it
on our forum, it’ll attract more attention so you’ll get more
comments and feedback.)

P.P.S. Feel free to write more than a paragraph for each phase of
your life. Personally, I found this exercise to be crucial when I
did it, so I wrote out pages and pages of memories and past
experiences. So, if you get into the writing, don’t stop at three
paragraphs!

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ETTING

TTING

DRIVE,

ABY

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Tuesday

ope you got some rest because today we’re going to exercise
your drive. You’ll read all about the DRIVE element in Part II of
The 4 Elements of Game

, but it’ll ONLY make sense if you actually

go out and experience the RUSH of expressing your drive to the
world.

To begin, write a paragraph in your journal about something
you’ve done that seemed difficult beforehand, but you
committed yourself to, and you’re glad you did. It might be
going to the gym, going to college, or taking on a challenging
project.

Really give this some thought and concentrate on the specific
details (e.g., how you felt, how your mindset changed, etc.). I
know it may sound like another useless writing exercise, but
TRUST ME by remembering SPECIFIC details you will recall
HOW your mindset shifted.

For most of us guys, we NEED a mindset shift to get in touch
with our natural drive. You may have already read in our book
that obstacles sometimes stand between you and your natural
drive. If you’ve ever hesitated or chickened out of approaching a
hot girl, you know this first-hand.

A major goal of this 28-day journey is to get you PERFECTLY in
tune with your drive. It’s one of your sexiest features and it’s
ALREADY within you. We just need to remove the obstacles that
stand between YOU and YOUR drive—which are the obstacles
that stand between YOU and THAT hot girl!

Once you finish your paragraph and reread it thus reminding yourself
of things you’ve done that you NEVER regret—even when they seemed
challenging.

So today you’re going to approach a hot girl exuding PURE
drive.
You’re going to leave your house and go wherever there are hot
women.

It’s a Tuesday, so bars and nightclubs may not be an option. Go
to a bookstore, a mall, a clothing shop...hell, you could even go
to a woman’s shoe store. The location DOESN’T matter. ALL
that matters today is that you express your PURE and
SHAMELESS drive.

Still with me?

Okay, cool. So once you spot THE girl (and you KNOW the one
I’m talking about!), you march up to her SHAMELESSLY. You
let NOTHING go through your head OTHER than the SHEER
HOTNESS of this girl. If you start thinking too much, remember
the credo from the book, “PUT YOUR PIMP FOOT FORWARD,
THE OTHER ONE WILL FOLLOW.”

Just moving that ONE foot forward might be the HARDEST part
of these 27 days—but you’ve GOT to TRUST ME. THIS IS THE
ONLY WAY TO DATE HOTTER GIRLS. I went through it. Zack
went through it. All our students went through it.

But I can’t move that pimp foot for you. THAT’S UP TO YOU. So
just put one foot forward and clear your mind. Just
CONCENTRATE ON THE GIRL! She MOVES you, doesn’t she?!
GOD, LOOK AT HER!!! GO FOR IT!

As you walk up to her, look INTO her eyes. Be SMILING. Part of
becoming shameless is mastering the “shameless grin.” You can
probably imagine what it looks like: it’s that perfect mix of
CONFIDENCE and HUMOR. So get a smirk on your face, hold
eye contact, and walk RIGHT up to her.

If there are people standing around her, IT DOES NOT
MATTER. If she looks “busy,” IT DOES NOT MATTER. If

anything happens that sidetracks your approach, IT DOES NOT
MATTER.

Again, ALL that matter today is that you DO THE APPROACH.
One approach! And it only has to last 10 quick seconds.

SO STAY FOCUSED, STAY ON TASK!

Once you get her attention, express EXACTLY how you feel. If
you were moved to talk to her, tell her. “Wow, I just had to come
meet you.” If you can see you and her sitting down for coffee
together, tell her. “Hey, I saw you and I just had to see if I could
convince you to join me for a cup of coffee.” Even if you’re
nervous, tell her.

Now keep in mind, if you’re doing this in the daytime, the
tension is going to increase FAST. Remember the cycle of
“tension and release” explained in the introduction. Most guys
think this tension is “bad” or “awkward.” But it ONLY becomes
awkward if you don’t know WHAT TO DO WITH IT.

Once you read the book, you’ll learn that MORE TENSION =
MORE RELEASE. So in this situation, once you FEEL the tension
your drive generates, you want to quickly balance it with
INSPIRATION or CONNECTION. (Even though it’s not
necessary for today’s assignment, I’m mentioning it to increase
your chance of getting the hot girl.)

If you nothing comes of this approach, IT’S NOT BIG DEAL. By
just approaching ONE GIRL with drive, you’ve learned 1.) you
NEVER regret approaching, 2.) what TENSION feels like, 3.)
how it FEELS to express your DRIVE.

Reading this in an email sounds easy and you’re probably
thinking, “Of course I can approach ONE girl with drive for 10
seconds!” So REMEMBER that attitude when you see your girl
today. These 27 days are coming to you as EMAILS that are
designed to IMPROVE your success dramatically. While the
assignments often only take a few minutes a day, it’s VITAL that

you DO EACH ASSIGNMENT, EACH DAY. Only then will this
supplement the book.

Try to remember ALL the details of the approach, especially
HOW YOU FELT before, during, and after the approach. Also,
take note of how she responds. Were you comfortable with the
tension your drive created, or were you “ashamed” of it? If you
felt ANY inkling of “shame,” you’re going to READ ALL
ABOUT the benefits of being SHAMELESS.

But for now, let’s review today’s assignment:
1.) Write about an activity that appeared challenging, but you
did anyway, and you DON’T regret
2.) Approach ONE hot girl with DRIVE for 10 seconds
3.) Write about the experience in your journal

Alright, get to it!

Best, Rob & Zack

P.S. Don’t forget to write the descriptive details of how you felt
WHEN the girl was in front of you. A BIG lesson from this
exercise is getting you to FEEL social tension (and understand
HOW it affects you and the women you approach).

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NSPIRATION

Wednesday

ow are you feeling? Hopefully not too exhausted from tapping
into that RAW and UNSTOPPABLE drive yesterday! Today we
are going to get your inspiration flowing.

As the book explained, inspiration is a PASSIVE energy.
Inspiration compliments the drive that you unleashed yesterday,
and RELEASES all the TENSION that was a product of your
driven expression.

I remember when Rob and I first discovered the power of drive
and began using it to approach girls. We experienced a LOT of
success from that one simple element. What we learned was that
driven men who are not afraid to go find out the TRUTH (is she

single, in a relationship, fun, boring, etc.), and are willing to
simply ask for what they want get RESULTS.

Rob and I began approaching every girl we saw using nothing
but this strong driven energy. Sometimes we would get great
results and wind up with girls for the night, but other times girls
just weren’t interested.

For a while we just shrugged it off. It was just too easy to rely on
the drive element, and we got lazy. We knew that all it took was
another approach or two before we had our hotties for the night.

Eventually the girls that were slipping through the cracks started
to bother us. Not because we’re egotistical, but because it was
the hottest of the hot girls that were not into our approach.
While we had no problem getting the 8’s, when we would
approach the 9’s and 10’s they would not bite.

It would go down the same every time - we would approach
displaying a lot of drive, shamelessly sometimes, and they
would not even look amused, like they could not even tell us the
time of day.

Looking back now, it was clear that that approach was FINE.
Even though the girls didn’t respond perfectly, there was still
plenty of TENSION. We simply didn’t know what to do with it
from there.

Finally it occurred to us what was happening - these girls are so
used to being a magnet for driven men. So we began examining
what we were lacking to become as attractive as possible to these
stunning girls. And what did we find? That’s right...inspiration.

Inspiration gives your drive balance. Inspiration RELEASES the
TENSION created by your drive. But most importantly,
inspiration gives the interaction substance and texture.

Inspiration is the element that guarantees you always know
what to say, and you never run out of things to say to women.

Unlike drive however, you cannot actively force you inspiration.
The more you try to force your inspiration, the more your
inspiration will allude you. Like you read in The 4 Elements of
Game

, inspiration is the celebration of you.

Think about it, the more you try to be funny, the less people find
you funny. It is because inspiration is PASSIVE. Meaning that if
you want it to come out, you need to CHILL. That is why it is the
exact OPPOSITE of drive. As such, you need to have enough to
keep yourself balanced, but not too much or else you will
overshadow all that drive that you discovered yesterday that is
so attractive to women (in the right amount).

So what’s the answer? Just open up and let out your inspiration.
It’s that easy - DON’T THINK. Thinking is death to inspiration.
An artist cannot reason his way to a masterpiece, and you cannot
reason

your way into a girls heart (or pants). Instead you must let

your inspiration flow, and allow it to PASSIVELY intrigue the
girl creating attraction.

Today you are going to be doing 2 different exercises to help get
your inspiration flowing:

1) Sing your favorite song to 3 strangers. This sounds absurd.
The whole time you are doing this exercise you are going to be
telling yourself how stupid this exercise is. You’re going to be
thinking that you are an idiot for thinking an ebook can help you
get girls, and that Rob and I are out of our minds if we think this
will help you date hotter girls.

PERFECT! That is exactly what should be happening. All those
thoughts are the roadblocks that are holding you back from
letting your inspiration flow at all times of the day. All those
thoughts you are having are the ACTIVE barriers to you being
constantly inspired. Since inspiration is PASSIVE, it cannot be
forced.

You cannot do more to make it come out better. Instead all you
can do is do less which eliminating all the things that bottle up
your inspiration like over thinking something as simple as
singing a song to a person you will never see again in your life.

If this exercise is difficult for you it’s no big deal. But you have
identified one of your biggest obstacles to dating the girls you
really want to be dating. Simply focus more on cultivating that
sense of inspiration, and developing that trust in yourself that
allows you to just be YOU without questioning yourself so
much. The trust that you have in yourself will be an important
aspect as you interact with super hot girls.

When Rob and I were developing our own inspiration we sang
“All out of love” by Air Supply. If there is any song that should
make you feel tense singing to a stranger it is an ‘80’s love
ballad. However if you want to master your inspiration you
must be certain to let it be PASSIVE and not TENSE. This means
enjoy it and let it flow from your soul, do not force it!

2. Now it is time to put your inspiration into use! Your next
mission for today is to approach a girl, but rather than relying on
your drive, you are going to allow your inspiration to guide you.
This means NOT thinking about what to say. Instead you should
allow the girl you see to spark your inspiration.

What is it about her that you like? Her hair? Her style? Her
energy? Whatever it is, there is something about her that has
generated your interest. Let this guide your approach. Comment
on her shoes, hairstyle, smile, whatever. The point is, you are not
approaching today with any lines in mind. For that matter you
should have nothing in mind today when you approach but this
girl right in front of you, and whatever it is that caused you to
experience attraction for her. Let these thoughts express
themselves and do not try to force any outcome. Simply see
where this conversation goes on its own, organically.

Record exactly how you felt in you journal. Try to remember
ALL the details of the approach, especially HOW YOU FELT

before, during, and after the approach. Also, take note of how
she responds. Were you PASSIVE and allowed your inspiration
to flow, or did you try to force it?

Let’s review your missions:

Sing to 3 strangers

Approach 1 girl allowing your inspiration to flow
naturally and guide you.

Best, Zack & Rob

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ECHANICS

UCCESS

Thursday

ow that you are starting to understand the balance

between inspiration and drive, it is time to introduce the third
element - mechanics.

Mechanics simply refer to the simple steps of “moving it
forward” when you are interacting with a girl you like.

Many people think of mechanics as pickup lines, tactics to create
attraction, or techniques to infiltrate a group of girls out at the
club.

For our purposes however, (dating the hottest girls imaginable)
mechanics are simply the proper steps to move it forward with a
girl that you like, and knowing the right time to take that step.

Like drive, mechanics require an ACTIVE energy, which
requires you to do something to engage it. That something is called
‘pulling the trigger,’ and fortunately is very easy once you get
the hang of it.

Girls are so used to guys that do not move the interaction
forward. This does two things, it sends her the message that you
are not interested in a sexual relationship with her, and secondly
it disappoints her that you are just another guy who is too scared
to “make a move.”

What really shocked Rob and I when we were first discovering
this stuff, was not only that ‘pulling the trigger’ causes girls to be
massively attracted to you, but also that you can ‘pull the
trigger’ almost instantly in any interaction.

What this means is that you can hold a girls hand, ask for her
number, or even beginning kissing her SHOCKINGLY fast. The
only thing that holds you back from ‘pulling the trigger’ is
either 1) you are afraid of getting rejected; or 2) you are afraid of
letting her know that you like her.

Both of these fears are pretty funny actually, and you’re about to
realize why. Firstly, if you fail to ‘pull the trigger’ then you have
already rejected yourself and done all the work for her by

placing yourself in the friend-zone. She didn’t even have to
THINK about it!

Secondly, if you are afraid of letting her know that you like her,
you need to SERIOUSLY re-read the drive section of The 4
Elements of Game.

Your mission today is simple. You are to approach one girl and
simply try to “close” her in under one minute.

This means, getting her number, asking her on a date, or even
getting a kiss. Rob and I can get a phone number from a girl in
literally under 30 seconds, so one minute should be a good place
to start. However do not worry if you don’t get the number. Rob
and I can also get shut down in under 30 seconds as well! It is all
about going for it!

The point is not to even succeed in getting the number, although
it will be a cool bonus! The point is to get in the habit of ‘pulling
the trigger,’ or rather moving the interaction forward. And
moving it forward faster than the average guy, makes you more
attractive than the average guy.

If you have ever been cliff jumping you probably know that
feeling that you get when you get to the top of the cliff and look
down. You start thinking to yourself, ‘what the hell am I doing
up here, this was such a bad idea, I shouldn’t do this.’

But once you jump off the first time, you realize that it wasn’t
that bad. In fact it was kinda cool. Then the next time you get up
on the cliff to jump it gets easier and easier. You become
comfortable jumping off, and now you can add some style to it -
maybe even a swan dive.

It is the same with putting the moves on a girl. At first you feel
nervous because you don’t know how she will respond. But after
you ‘pull the trigger’ you realize that regardless of the result, it
wasn’t too bad. Probably really great!

Either way, you are now more comfortable to ‘pull the trigger’
next time when it counts, and you have all your elements in
balance.

Recap:

Approach 3 girls (either during day or night) and go for
the number or date (or kiss!) in under one minute.

Document exactly what happened and how you felt in
your journal

That’s it!

Best, Zack & Rob

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ONNECT WITH

ABES

Friday

eahhhhhh, it’s Friday! That means it’s hot, single girl season! I
hope you’re ready to meet some amazing girls, because this
weekend Zack and I are going to have you doing just that.

So let’s move right into today’s assignment: connection. For
those of you who haven’t read up to the connection part in The 4
Elements of Game

, you’re probably rolling your eyes. (I know, I

know, getting advice on how to “connect” with women sounds
like some new age, feel good bullshit.)

But trust me, learning how to make emotional connections is
crucial

if you want to attract mega-hot girls. It doesn’t matter if

you want to be the pimp master that hooks up with a new girl
every night or a guy who wants to settle down with one woman
to enjoy a relationship, learning the “connection” element will be
the “missing piece” in many guys’ game.

Just a quick aside, the reason MOST guys who study dating and
pickup material DON’T attract super hot women is they neglect
the connection element. And, no, the connection element isn’t
the same as “trust and comfort” from a certain New York Times
bestseller. Instead, the connection element Zack and I advocate
brings out your genuineness, authenticity, and natural ability to
bond and connect with people.

So leave your “identity grounding” routine at home and get
ready to learn the TRUTH about emotional connections.

If you haven’t already read the connection section, go into the
book’s Table of Contents and skim the chapter and section
headers. You’ll notice connection focuses primarily on:

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Willingness to make mistakes

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Genuine compliments

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Shared emotions

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Storytelling

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Destroying the myth of perfection

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Understanding (real) rapport

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Knowing appropriate topics to connect over

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Balancing how much connection, how soon

It’s very important to understand that connection is PASSIVE.
That means you should NOT “force” a connection. Guys force a
connection whenever they display too much emotion, too fast.
(And we’ve all done it at some point.) After these 27 days, you
will perfectly understand how to let connections develop
organically and naturally.

Tonight you’re going to focus on the connection element on
women, but first you’re going to “warm up” on someone close to
you. When you have a half hour or so free, I want you to look
through your phone and find a friend or family member you
haven’t spoken to in a while.

Call them up and bond with them. When you’re dialing their
number, don’t think to yourself: “I need to make a connection
because Rob said so.” Instead, call with the mindset, “I can’t wait
to hear how [this person] is doing.”

For example, when I did this exercise, I called my friend Eddie. I
haven’t heard from in a few weeks, as I’ve been busy with the
launch of this product. As the phone was ringing before he
picked up, I thought of all the fun times we shared in high
school and college. My thinking was, “Oh man, I haven’t heard
from Eddie in a while—I’ll bet he has some awesome stories to
tell me!”

Once you get the person on the line, communicate your
curiosity and interest in what they’ve been up to. You’ll
probably find using the philosophy and tips from the connection
helpful. For example, you might start off the conversation with
some rapport over a news or pop culture event. Then you may
transition into a longer story (using some of the storytelling tips)
to give the conversation more depth. Most importantly, you
should NOT be trying to make a “perfect” connection; RATHER
your ONLY concern should be genuinely getting caught up with
the person you called.

A solid emotional connection usually takes at least a half hour,
so try to keep the conversation going for at least that long. Oh,
and try to give one genuine compliment, too. Don’t fake this
either—really try to zero in on something the person is saying to
compliment them on.

Once you’ve done that assignment, I want you to go out and
meet women. Since it’s Friday, most bars and nightclubs will be
packed with hot women looking to meet cool guys they can
connect with. Tonight you’re going to be one of those guys!

Also, you don’t necessarily have to go to a nightclub. You can
go to a mall, coffee shop, or anywhere else where you can meet
women. The only requirement for today’s assignment is that you
approach a minimum of 3 women.

When you approach these women, you may want to start off
displaying your drive, but quickly transition into making a
connection. Treat her in the same way as the person you called—
laid back and interested. Feel excited to meet and communicate
that to her, either directly by telling her or indirectly by feeling
genuinely curious about her.

If you approach 3 women with this attitude—especially after the
mind-shifting you’ve just lived through—I guarantee at least one

of those girls will feel attracted to you. And once you notice she
is, go for the number.

So let’s go over your Friday review:

You’re going to call someone close to you and focus
on connecting on them using the guidelines of the 4-
EG method

You’re going to out and approach 3 hot girls

You’re going to concentrate on making a connection
with them

You’re going to try for at least one number

I can’t WAIT to read your success on the forum ;)

Best, Rob & Zack

P.S. If you’ve been keeping up with the challenges, I KNOW this
has been an emotionally exhausting and mind-changing week.
But NO EXCUSES! Stick with the assignments and you’ll thank
yourself at the end...I PROMISE!

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TTRACTIVENESS

Saturday

amn, can you believe that is hasn’t even been a week since you
started? For those who have been following the assignments
day-by-day, you probably feel as if the last week has been a
lifetime. Even though I hope you’re having fun and enjoying
your new developing persona as a super attractive man,
whenever you enact great change it seems as if time slows down.

I believe it’s because you’re squeezing a lot of learning and
experience into such a short period of time. Think about it: to
overhaul your identity in 28 days, you are almost becoming a
new person. While that process doesn’t need to be awkward or
humiliating, it will take effort, discipline, and will power. I’m
confident that you can do it though. And, if you’re reading these
words, it probably means you’ve been kicking ass so far, staying
on task.

If you’ve been slacking a bit or missing an assignment here or
there, now’s the time recommit to these 28 days! Just imagine the

guy you envisioned on the first day—you know that total ladies’
man we all want to become. NOW’S THE TIME TO BECOME
THAT GUY! If you haven’t already read what I have to say on
“Hope versus Reality” in the book, check it out. DON’T be the
guy living in “hope” believing things will “one day” get better—
LIVE IN REALITY TO MAKE YOU LIFE BETTER TODAY!

This is an important note to start off Saturday morning because
tonight we’re going to get you even CLOSER to your full ladies’
man transformation. Now we’re going to start combining
elements and achieving balance. These coming days you’re
going to start to become like COCAINE to women—they won’t
be able to get enough of you. (But there will be no harmful side
effects...)

Today we’re going to talk about balancing your drive with your
inspiration. In the book, I outlined the main points of these two
elements, but I want to make the drive/inspiration axis even less
abstract here so that you know EXACTLY how to use them
effectively. Here are some real world examples where drive
balances inspiration and vice versa:

You approach a woman and say, “Hey, you look so cute
over here that I just HAD to meet you.” As you say this
you’re smiling and leaning back against the bar. (By
“directly” stating your sexual interest in the women,
you’re displaying DRIVE (it creates tension). But by
having a smile on your face and relaxed body language
you’re allowing INSPIRATION (it releases tension).

You are flirting with a woman and joking around with
her. After saying something that she finds really funny,
you put your arm around her waist, pull her into you,
and say, “You have a great sense of humor. That’s sexy.”
(By flirting and joking around with her, you’re
displaying INSPIRATION (creating a release). Once that
INSPIRATION hits its peak (she’s laughing), you then
escalate the situation by getting more physical and telling

her she’s “sexy” guided by your DRIVE (it reestablishes
tension).

You’ve asked a woman to go back to your place. She said
no, but she’s still visibly attracted to you. You flirt and
chat with her for another 5 minutes then say, “Really,
you’ve got to try one of these green apple martinis back
at this after-hours club. It’s amazing. I’m like a VIP there:
I drink for free, the DJ’s always spinning my favorite
tunes, and I can even pass out there and no one cares!”
She laughs and says, “Oh, what is this ‘after hours club,’
your apartment?” You look at her deadpan (managing
reaction, inspiration section) and say, “Obviously. Come
on!” (Asking a woman to come home with you creates a
lot of tension from your honest DRIVE. Often women
will “deflect” this tension a few times by refusing your
invitation. If you can stay cool, chat for another 5
minutes, and then make a “joke” out of it, she
experiences

amazing

release

from

your

INSPIRATION. A lot of times this is enough to counter-
balance the tension and let her do what she really wants:
go home with you.)

Those examples are just three off the top of my head. To really
master the 4-EG system, you must develop your sense of
balance. Sit down and contemplate the “Tao” of pickup and
dating. Think back to your BEST interactions: where was the
tension? Where was the release? I’d recommend you write this
exercise out. Give it some thought.

Since tonight’s Saturday, the assignment is simple: approach 4
women. That’s it. The approaches can last 1 second or all night.
It doesn’t matter, there’s just one catch...

You MUST build tension and create a release AT LEAST once
during the interaction. It could be as simple as opening her with
drive balanced by a smile on your face, or as complex as

weaving tension and release in-and-out of the pickup
throughout the night.

Whatever route you take, remember that the approach DOES
NOT count unless there is one cycle of tension and release.

So let’s go over what you’re doing tonight:

1.) You’re going to consider the cycle of tension and
release, preferably writing out past experiences where
such a cycle played out

2.) You’re going to out and approach 4 hot girls

3.) You’re going to inject at least one cycle of tension
and release into the interaction

Alright, go make it happen!

Best, Rob & Zack

ISSECTING A

IGHT

Sunday

ow’d last night go for you? Most of you probably hit the
nightclubs hard, doing your 4 approaches. As you know, Zack
and I are all about being effective, and so it helps to consider the
“rhythm” of the night. (Great early ‘90s song!)

I want you to consider how last night unfolded. Think of when
you stepped it out, when you pussed out. Also, think about the

people around you were reacting. When were girls acting like
bitches? When were they receptive?

I want you to write up a quick summary ONLY focusing on the
rhythm you observe. DO NOT READ ON UNTIL YOU DO THIS
EXERCISE. Once you ponder that for a few a bit, consider my
perspective:

We all know bars and nightclubs are some of the best places to
hone dating skills. Revolving flocks of women come and go as
the dimly lit, alcohol-fueled nightlife generates an atmosphere
that’s ideal for mingling and socializing. But while most nascent
players have hit the barroom trenches to spit game, not all do so
cognizant of the rhythm of the night. Some of the problems guys
run into when meeting girls during “night game” relates to their
inability to read the energy and vibe of the night. By
understanding how a night unfolds, a guy can maximize every
aspect of his dating success — from ensuring the numbers he
gets convert into dates to consistently having a girl in his bed at
the end of the night.

One of the most important aspects of night game is having a
goal. You should always know why you’re in the bar or club.
Your goal may be to go home with a girl that night, get a number
that you want to follow up with later, or just be social and talk to
a lot of different people. Whatever your goal may be, it’s crucial
you know what you want to accomplish since that dictates how
you play to the night’s rhythm. However, while goals may vary,
the way a night progresses is consistent almost everywhere.
Having picked up girls in lots of cities and coached students in
lots more, I’ve observed nights shift between three stages. While
having an outline of when and how these stages unfold (as well
as a list of do’s and don’ts), ultimately it’s more important to
develop an intuition about what you should and shouldn’t be
doing as the night develops.

Get Happy Hour(s)
When to when: First 40% of the night

Objectives: Get into a social mood, meet and greet, have fun with
your friends, get buzzed, let people see you’re normal and social,
motivate your buddies

Faux pas: Acting a fool, being tacky make out guy, looking
weird and/or creepy, asking girls to come home with you,
grinding until your dick falls off

Most nights begin with clusters of people socializing with the
friends they came with. Usually you can identify “Get Happy
Hour” because people are sober, there’s not much movement
(i.e. people wandering around), and there’s no wait for the
bathroom. At this point, breaking the ice and getting yourself
into a social mood is all you really need to accomplish. Unless
you have some reason for doing otherwise, don’t bounce from
group to group with high-energy gaming. Remember, people are
sizing up the room. While you may think you’re generating
“social proof,” you’re really just coming off weird. People will
wonder why you’re so quick to ditch your friends to talk to other
people. For the first hour or so, I make getting caught up with
my friends my top priority. I may bring other people into the
conversation, but they’re always second to the fun vibe I’m
creating with my friends.

Face Time
When to when: Second 40% of the night

Objectives: Connect with girls you’re interested in, get numbers
for future dates, screen girls for logistics for later (i.e. which girls
might be down for an “after party” at your place), slowly turn
up your sexuality, brief make outs, wing your buddies

Faux pas: Spending too much time huddled with your buddies
talking about girls but not talk to girls, running 20-second
interactions then moving on to the next girl, not getting physical
with girls, talking to girls about nerd topics

As the night shifts into the second phase, people start getting
bored of the friends they came with. If getting caught up was the

only thing people wanted to do, they would just stay home or go
to a quieter place to talk. Fact is people go out to meet new
people. This is obvious if you observe what starts happening
about halfway through the night. As the drinks flow and
inhibitions lower, groups start breaking apart. You’ll notice it
gets harder to walk across the bar as people start to move
around. Preferably, you want to “lock down” the girl (or girls)
you’ve been eyeing during “Face Time” (hence, why it’s called
“Face Time”).

Generally, the hotter the girl, the sooner you want to lock her
down (as Face Time hours are when the hotties get bombarded
with bad game). While you shouldn’t be a raging boner running
around the club, Face Time is where you can drop the “polite”
openers and start ramping up the sexual talk. Usually the
numbers you pull during “Face Time” are the most solid for
converting into solid dates because the girls are still sober
enough to remember you yet loose enough to be ready for some
tight game.

The Final Countdown
When to when: Last 20% of the night

Objectives: Move interactions un-apologetically toward sex, try
to get girls back to your place, approach lots of sets (if your goal
is practicing), steal girls off other players, dance, make out, be
physical and dominant

Faux pas: Waiting to approach, talking too much before getting
physical, not saying “Let’s get out here” to girls, not helping
disarm your friend’s obstacles if he’s trying to take a girl home,
getting phone numbers with expectations of it going somewhere,
standing around

Probably the most exciting part of the night, “The Final
Countdown” forges legends. Usually an hour or so before
closing time, “The Final Countdown” ensures everyone is
sufficiently “loose” and social. At this point, it’s crucial to act as
soon as you see what you want. “The right approach” doesn’t

matter, only getting the girl matters now. Literally, this is a free-
for-all where hesitating even a second may mean losing the girl
to another player who will swoop in and take her home before
you can say, “Let me get a quick female opinion...” Also, this is a
great time to recover another player’s “fumble.” Some other guy
may have locked down a cutie earlier but as the night nears
closing, he’s walking a razor’s edge with his room for error. The
longer he stays in the bar with the girl, the more likely he is to
“fuck it up.” Knowing this, one quick swoop might be all it takes
to steal the girl away. Having been on both giving and receiving
end of this, I know its all part of the game. Ultimately, when the
night turns into The Final

Countdown, sex is no longer implied — it’s implicit. Everyone
left standing is looking to get laid. If you’re ready to play in the
big leagues, stick it out to The Final Countdown and get
shameless!

Hope that helps put things in perspective and makes your nights
out a little easier (and more successful). Since its Sunday, just
relax and enjoy the downtime. If you can find it, rent the movie
“Eyes Wide Shut” and check it out. I’ll explain why I think this
movie is important later in the week. For now, just enjoy it and
let it get under your skin.

Go to bed early and make sure to get your energy back for next
week. We still got more days and more girls before this journey
is over!
So to recap today you’re

1.) Thinking and writing about the rhythm of your night last
night

2.) Checking out the movie “Eyes Wide Shut”

3.) Getting some rest

Best, Rob & Zack

E E K

I I

IGHTENING

OTIVATION FOR YOUR

SUCCESS

Monday

f you made it through all the missions Rob and I gave out last
week, then you are already winning. If the missions were easy
for you, that’s awesome. I’m not even going to tell you it gets
any harder...because it doesn’t! That’s about as “difficult” as
getting girls should ever be. You’ll see how true that statement is
as we move on.

If you had trouble doing those missions, you’re a pussy! Haha
no I’m just kidding. If you had trouble doing those missions,
never fear - we have had students that took more than 30 days to
complete single missions. And for you, we fast tracked that pace
giving you a bunch in one week.

The guys that took longer to accomplish the missions are now
very good friends of mine, and went on to date super hot girls as
easily as if it were an afterthought. And the good news is, like I
said before, that’s as difficult as it gets...once you can do those
missions comfortably, you are at the place where you are ready
to truly experience the movement that Rob and I have worked so
hard to put together.

That being said, there is still a lot of stuff to cover as we move
further. So if you didn’t carry out any of those missions, or failed
to record it in your journal, now is the time to go back and fill in

the cracks. We are building a foundation here, and we want it to
be strong.

I also strongly encourage you guys to go on the private forum
and post your journals on there. Rob and I will follow along and
make sure you are making forward progress, rather than
spinning your wheels and wasting your time and effort.

OK, now that that’s out of the way, its time to get down to
business. This week we are going to exam something that is not
mentioned in the dating community, and that is probably the
reason so much of the picture is left unanswered.

When it comes to dating HOT & QUALITY girls, it is not about
what you do,

it’s about what you DON’T do that makes a SUPER

ATTRACTIVE guy. It is about not doing the stuff that all the
other, unattractive guys do (99.7% of men).

What NOT to do:

•

Worry about what others think of you.

•

Being overly sensitive to girls that you aren’t in a
relationship with you.

•

Expect girls to be on time.

•

Expect more from a girl than she wants to give
(physically and emotionally).

•

Failing to act comfortably around her.

•

Failing to be comfortable about leading the relationship
to a sexual place

•

Hassle girls about ANYTHING they do, whether it be act
a certain way or drink a certain drink (i.e. “negs”).

•

Be boring.

Now these are only a short list, but the principle behind
everything to not do is simple, if it doesn’t feel good, don’t do it.
It is stressful to worry about a girl being late. Trust me, I have
dealt with it so many times to tell you to just forget about them

showing up on time ever. The way to think about it is this, the
extra time they are taking, is probably to look good when they
see you. So just appreciate it for what it is.

This is the general concept behind all of these things - girls are
fundamentally different from boys. THAT should be what you
love about them, as much as the fact that they’re hot. You can
never convince a girl to act the way you want her to, but when
you let her do her own thing, that’s when she will really make
you feel attracted to her...if you let her.

So that being said, this week’s curriculum revolves around
eliminating the harmful things that you are doing, that take
away from the awesomeness that you already possess, and
holding you back from reaching that perfect balance.

Today we are focusing on DRIVE vs. NEEDINESS. This is a
question guys ask me all the time, “how do I tell if I’m being
needy or not?” Fortunately this is an easy question to answer, as
the 4 Elements of Game stated, the question is whether you feel
like this girl will “fix” you, or whether you simply want to have
fun with her.

It’s that easy. If you see a girl you like and think, “damnnnn,
shes a hottie...if she’s down we are going to have a LOT of fun!”
But if when you see a girl and you think, “I don’t know what to
say” or “this situation isn’t right to talk to her” then it is
neediness. Plain and simple.

You either “need” the right line to say, or you “need” a proper
situation to approach her. Either way you NEED something. The
fact is, every guy is needy for the most part. In the pickup
community guys “need” tactics and lines, outside of the
community, guys need cars, clothes, money, or a nice house. The
reason Rob and I can have practically any girl we want in
seconds, is because we need NOTHING.

So today we are going to work on identifying when you are
being needy vs. when you are acting driven, and to help you
eliminate that neediness once you notice it creeping back in.

Mission #1

Think back to a few situations where you felt needy, or when an
interaction with a girl you liked left you feeling crappy, insecure,
or uncertain. Visualize this and write down everything about it
that made you feel like shit.

Next, go through those interactions in your mind, and visualize
how they could have gone better, and how YOUR actions
shaped the course of the interaction. Identify what it was about
you that drove her away, and think about whether your actions
came from a place of positive drive, or negative neediness. How
could it have gone differently? How will you do it in the future?

Mission #2

Approach 2 HOT girls. I mean the type that when you see them
you think to yourself, “oh shit...I’ve never hooked up with a girl
that hot before.”

Making sure it goes well is NOT a priority, in fact it is a form of
neediness in and of itself. Needing a positive outcome is as bad
as needing an excuse to talk to girls.

Therefore, all you are to do as you do these approaches is take
note of:

How it felt

What made these interactions different from each other,
and what made them different from interactions that you
have had with girls that you know from your social circle

(were you more or less needy/self-conscious), and why
exactly you think that was the case.

What did you NEED from these girls you approached?
Was it to see them laugh as a sign you were on the right
track? Was it for them to give you their phone number so
you felt like you accomplished something? Whatever it
is, whenever an interaction goes bad with a girl it is
usually a result of neediness overshadowing your drive.
Therefore really search your soul and be honest with
yourself when trying to understand what it is that YOU
need from girls, and why that may be. This
understanding is a major leap to identifying and
eliminating YOUR needy tendencies.

Ultimately, neediness comes when you fail to do what you
want, when you want. As you begin to identify when you are
coming from a place of neediness, you will see that it is the exact
opposite of how Drive is expained in the 4 Elements of Game.
While neediness does in fact motivate people, it motivates them
to pursue a path that is not their destiny, and sidetracks you
from following your natural and attractive Drive. And worse
yet, it loses hot girls along the way.

So remember, identify your neediness, elminate it, and get back
in touch with your drive!

Have fun, see you tomorrow!

Best, Zack & Rob

LIMINATING

ANCING

ONKEY

Tuesday

ow did that feel yesterday? Hopefully you are beginning to
understand the difference between drive and neediness. By
eliminating neediness, you increase your attractiveness 1000%,
and are already different from the majority of guys, who convey
neediness to the girls in their lives without ever being aware of
it.

Today we are going to work on eliminating another harmful
habit. That habit is overly entertaining women. Now you might
be asking, “but Zack, isn’t it GOOD to entertain women?” Of
course women should be entertained whenever they interact
with you, however WHERE you are coming from makes all the
difference in the world.

An all too common problem occurs when guys do too much to
impress or entertain a girl. This might include buying her and
her friends drinks, telling too many stories, trying too hard to be
funny, trying to impress her.

All of these problems create what is known as “dancing
monkey” syndrome, where rather than attract the girl and go
home with her at the end of the night, you end up spending all
night with a girl and nothing comes of it...or nothing more than a
flakey phone number.

If you look at the symptoms of dancing monkey syndrome, it all
comes from trying to do too much. If you can make a girl laugh
that is INCREDIBLE - don’t think for a second you shouldn’t aim
to do so. BUT the key to getting the hottest girls with as little
thinking as possible, comes down to knowing WHY you want to
get a woman to laugh.

Perhaps you have heard girls say, “I want a guy who can make
me laugh.” But if you have no understanding of WHY girls want
a guy who makes them laugh, or WHAT to do when she is
laughing, then you aren’t seeing the bigger picture.

The “WHY”

Girls want a guy who can make them laugh because they want
to experience positive, fun emotions. Who doesn’t? As the man it
is YOUR job to make sure she is feeling these emotions.

Here’s the secret though, girls don’t ONLY want to laugh, they
also want to be swept off their feet. However, if there is no
humor or INSPIRATION to balance that DRIVE that sweeps her
off her feet, then you are simply an aggressive guy and she is
automatically going to have her guard up around you.
Regardless of how good your intentions might be, she will be
wary of you simply because of your lack of fun.

The 4 Elements of Game explained that “fun” is INSPIRATION.
Inspiration is unique to each individual person. My inspiration
will display itself differently from the way yours does. It HAS to.
That is because inspiration is something that is unique to you. It
is a combination of YOUR sense of humor, YOUR interests, and
YOUR experiences.

Because inspiration is unique to all of us, once you tap into it,
you will provide a girl with a completely unique experience
EVERY SINGLE TIME.

The “WHAT”

The final piece of the puzzle is to understand why we as guys
want to make girls laugh, and more importantly WHAT to do
once we have accomplished it. We want to make girls laugh
because when girls are laughing they are in a good mood. Seem
obvious? It is. When a girl is in a good mood, she is going to be
open to trying new things, and will trust you to continue to
provide a fun and positive experience.

Once you have earned that trust, she will be more than happy to
give you her phone number (with the intentions of ACTUALLY
meeting up), or go home with you, or kiss you, or marry
you...you get the point.

The KEY to eliminating dancing monkey syndrome, and always
knowing what to do once you make a girl laugh is to remember
what inspiration’s purpose is. As the book explained, inspiration
balances drive and provides release from the built up sexual
tension created by your drive.

Therefore, the goal is never to simply make a girl laugh, but
rather it is to allow a girl to feel the sexual tension from your
drive, but then release that tension through humor, or some
other expression of inspiration so that the tension does not
overflow and cause her to be uncomfortable. That is why the 4-
EG system is designed around BALANCE.

So once you create tension, and then get her laughing to release
that tension, you two will automatically be closer to each other.

The point of today’s missions are two-fold. Firstly, to get you
identifying when you are falling victim to dancing monkey
syndrome, and secondly to give you an understanding of the
flow of an interaction between your drive and inspiration, as
well as what to DO after the initial release that comes from your
inspiration.

Mission #1

Think of a funny story or something comical that you recently
saw. Think about how you could convey this to a friend in a way
that is both funny, yet not as if you were trying to impress them.
That is how your inspiration should manifest itself - sharing
your humor and experiences, but WITHOUT the intention of
impressing anyone. If you try to impress a girl you will fail every
time, trust me.

If you are having trouble thinking of something funny, or how to
relate a story in a funny way, take a moment to review the
humor patterns that Rob laid out in The 4 Elements of Game.
Pick one and start brainstorming.

Next, call up 3 friends and share your story or experience with
them. Don’t try too hard to make it funny, but just observe when
and why they laugh. Most likely, it will be when you are sharing
the feelings that you want them to feel. This means that in order
to properly express your inspiration, you must truly be inspired.
As the book explained, that means actually having fun when
telling a funny story.

Remember the comedians we showed you the other day? Well
that is inspiration. When they are telling their jokes they are
FEELING whatever it is that they are trying to convey like a
good actor. All this means, is that you must really be into what
you are talking about - get passionate!

Mission #2

Approach 2 girls and try to get her to blow you out - the harder
the better. However, do NOT try to offend her. Simply go up to
her and start talking about nonsense, or random stuff you like,
whether it is pro-wrestling, or collecting sports memorabilia. The
only thing you MUST do in accomplishing this mission, is
talking to each girl about things that YOU are interested in. She
doesn’t need to even be interested in the subject matter, you
should simply just talk about whatever you like with the
purpose of having her blow you out.

The point of this mission will be obvious after you attempt it.
Firstly, it is HARD to get blown out by girls, ESPECIALLY when
you are talking about something that actually interests you. If
YOU get into it, SHE will get into it. Try it and see!

Mission #3

This mission is designed to get you to start understanding how
the elements flow together, and how your inspiration is what
greases the wheels of your interactions, it is what allows you to
move the interaction forward and bring the MECHANICS
element into the picture.

As inspired as you might be, if you do not move the interaction
forward and create new tension via your MECHANICS, you will
lose the girl. Therefore, here is a simple example of how the
elements work together:

You spot a girl that you are into. You ride the wave of your drive
and approach her holding nothing back. She feels this and the
tension begins to mount as you look at her and convey all the
feelings that she is generating inside of you. Next it is time to
release that tension and for you and her to come together. This is
where your inspiration pops up. You say a witty remark, tell her
a story, or make a funny comment. She laughs.

This is CRITICAL: Most guys make a girl laugh and are relieved
that they are now having fun. Then they make the mistake of
trying to continue to keep her laughing. That is where dancing
monkey syndrome begins. Rather than keeping her laughing,
you should instead take her cheerful mood as momentum for
working the mechanics.

Therefore, once she laughs or is interested in what you are
talking about, it is time to change gears quickly. Ask her to grab
a drink or meet your friends. If you are out during the day, ask
her for her number. If you don’t use the release created by your
inspiration to ease the mechanics aspect, then you are going to
get stuck in dancing monkey mode, and the girl will lose
attraction, as there is no longer any balance between tension and
release.

Dancing monkey syndrome is essentially failing to reintroduce
tension, and more specifically, failing to move the interaction
forward using mechanics.

While there is no one specific way to properly approach and
attract a girl, it must always involve a balance. For instance, you
can approach using either drive OR inspiration. However,
whichever you lead with, you MUST follow up with it’s
opposing element. The 4-EG system is about utilizing balance,
not about doing everything the same each time.

So your mission is as follows, approach a girl using your drive.
Within the first 45 seconds, switch to letting some inspiration
flow (don’t over do it you monkey!). Once the inspiration is
expressed and the girl is intrigued by what you are all about,
IMMEDIATELY move it forward, whether it be ask for her
number, or ask her to grab a drink at the bar or café or
whatever.

The point is not even to get her to go along with it, rather it is to
begin to see how to transition between your elements, and how
they all should be present at the same time. The transition
between all 4 elements should happen in less than 2 minutes of

real time. Don’t worry too much about that, it is simply to give
you a benchmark for how long each element should be at play.
When you first meet a girl, each element only needs to show
itself for a few seconds at a time before you switch up and show
another element of who you are.

Take note of:

How smooth your transition between elements is

How long you stayed with each element

Did you express all 3 elements? (Drive, Inspiration,
Mechanics)

Was there any connection present?

How did YOU feel about how the interaction went

How did the girl respond to you?

That’s it for today gents. Plenty to work on, so make sure you
are really thinking about how you are using your inspiration,
and whether you are trying to impress the girl, or whether you
are letting your inspiration flow on its own.

Good luck!

Best, Zack & Rob

VOIDING THE

RIEND ZONE

—

—F

OREVER

!!!!

Wednesday

esterday was probably a tiring day. Today however, we’re going
to just kick back and talk a little bit about avoiding a common
problem that really messes with a lot of guys I’ve have met.

The dreaded friend-zone. Avoiding the friend-zone is one of the
perils that comes with dating girls. I have been stuck there
before and I know how painful it is. The friend-zone comes from
too much connection, not enough mechanics.

You may have experienced this before...you hit it off with a girl,
you guys are initially are into each other, and you have that
warm glow on the inside that this might be the girl for you. You
guys have fun together, but for some reason she either tells you
she would “rather just be friends,” or maybe it just kind of stalls
out.

Either way, this problem comes from spending too much time
being pleasant, rather than sexual. At some point you MUST
connect with every single girl you want to be successful with.
However, you must never let that connection overshadow the
other elements.

If the connection element overshadows the other elements,
you are not generating those feelings of attraction, and all the
connection in the world won’t land that girl in your bed.

In order to avoid the friend-zone, make sure that when you
decide it is time to connect with a girl, make sure that it
always involves elements of tension that comes from
balancing connecting with mechanics.

So today’s mission is to call up a girl who’s number you have
collected over the last several days. If you don’t have any
numbers, no worries. Just go back, pick your favorite
mission, and re-do it so until you get a girl’s phone number.

NEXT: call her up and start to just chat casually with her,
working on the elements of connection as laid out in The 4
Elements of Game. However, your mission is to balance your
connection with mechanics to inject that tension back into the
interaction.

WHAT TO DO: while connecting you must make casual
references to 3 different activities or events that you are
going to or involved in. DO NOT TRY TO BRAG OR SHOW
OFF. Simply use them as points of building a connection.
THEN when the time is right, invite her to whichever of the
things

you

think

will

interest

her

the

most.

Even if it doesn’t go well, you are beginning to develop a
balance between connection and mechanics, and furthermore
you are learning how to use your connection element as a
springboard

moving

the

interaction

forward.

Good luck!

Best, Zack & Rob

OADMAP TO THE

EDROOM

ECHANICS

))))

Thursday

‘ll bet you are starting to get the hang of this stuff.

Today, we are going to jump right in and discuss mechanics a
little more thoroughly.

Many times, I hear guys tell me about how they lost the girl due
to all such and such reason, and I always find myself rolling my
eyes.

A common problem that I notice that comes from learning
pickup material, is expecting everything to be perfect. The truth
is, the closest thing you can come to being perfect is just taking
action, and having a loose plan to keep in the back of your mind.

Getting too caught up in your mechanics will leave you
unbalanced, and will make it nearly impossible to form a
connection with a girl that you like. Furthermore, the more
“perfect” it is, the less real and unique it feels to her, and the
more it feels like you have been rehearsing in front of a mirror.

So today, we’re going to do something a little bit different. I am
going to walk you through how I think about mechanics when
interacting with a girl that I want.

Firstly, during the beginning of the conversation, I am focusing
more on my drive and inspiration balance. This lasts between 30
seconds to 2 minutes depending on the situation.

However, at all times I have my general roadmap in the back of
my mind. What is this road map? Well it was explained pretty

thoroughly in The 4 Elements of Game. But here is a quick
glance at how my mind works.

Goals:

1. Get contact info

Crucial because no matter how great the interaction was, it was
wasted if you cannot get in touch with her again

2. Give her some ideas of stuff that I do on a regular basis
(discussed in yesterday’s email on blending connection with
mechanics

This allows you to give her some things to associate with you,
and when you suggest that she join you doing one of these
things, or meets up with you when you are finished, she has
some frame of reference for who you are as a real person, not
just some guy who is hitting on her.

3. Leave the interaction on a no-pressure note

So often guys try to call the girl on the spot to make sure she has
your number (or check if it’s a fake). This conveys that you are
overanxious to get this girls phone number, and will convey
neediness. Chill out, and assume the number is correct, or that
she will remember you. If she doesn’t we have plenty of ideas on
how to respond when she doesn’t remember you right away,
and if the number was fake...well let’s just say it won’t help your
cause calling her out on it.

So that is all I am looking to do during the first interaction with a
girl. Unless of course I am trying to push it further, it is best to
keep it simple and avoid opportunities to fuck up.

So let’s get right into today’s mission.

Mission:

Approach 2-3 women. Follow my general roadmap, but make
sure to keep it in the back of your mind, almost like steps 1-3 are
simply afterthoughts, not something you were plotting all along.

Can’t wait to see how this works out. Don’t forget to report back,
either on the Date Hotter Girls Forum, or directly to me at

Zack@datehottergirls.com

See ya tomorrow!

Best, Zack & Rob

UNKY

RIDAY

Friday

K well this week has been intense. That’s why we are

going to take a break from all of this “learning” and have a little
fun. Now, today is Friday, so I’m assuming you are planning on
going out to meet some hotties!

That is why today’s missions are going to be some things that
Rob and I do when we go out to meet girls that are both fun, as
well as leading us to end the night arm in arm with attractive
girls night after night. Today you have a choice of missions. You
can either do one, or both. If you have friends that you like to go
out with, you should all do them together, the more the merrier!

Mission #1 - Building momentum

Approach the MOST attractive girl in the bar. Your mission has
not completed until she either 1) LOVES you, or 2) HATES you.
There is no middle ground. If she doesn’t either LOVE or HATE
you, then you have not sufficiently demonstrated to her who
you truly are or why you had to approach her.

If the interaction ends and you realize that you have not made
this strong of an impact on her, no worries. You are identifying
where your balance is out of whack.

If this is the case, you are to repeat with the SECOND most
attractive girl.

When that interaction ends, go right back to the MOST attractive
girl who you failed to leave a lasting impression on, and take a
MULLIGAN (aka do-over)!

Mission #2 - Royal treatment

This is a FUN game to play with your buddies when you are out
at the bar or club. You guys are all hanging out sharing drinks
and laughs.

The point of this mission is NOT to get yourself chicks. Rather it
is to use your powers for good, and get your friend girls! Start by
picking one of your friends who you will be giving the royal
treatment to. For the rest of the night, it is your job to serve that
friend girls.

In turn he should be doing the same for you. If you are in a big
group, just pair off until everyone is serving someone else, as
well as being served.

There are all sorts of fun deviations you can take with this,
where you keep track of who served the most, got their friend
the most phone numbers, etc. Get creative with this and keep it
FUN.

That’s all for today, remember...it’s the freakin’ weekend and it’s
time to have some fun.

Best, Zack & Rob

ELAX

,,,,

ECON

,,,,

AND

EADY FOR

ATE

Saturday

hope you had fun last night. The point of last night’s

missions were to get you having fun while also focusing your
efforts on getting girls. Hopefully you are starting to see that the
two go hand in hand.

So today, we are going to put everything you have learned
toward a more practical application.

Take some time today to do something you like, workout, fix
your bike, lie on your back and listen to music…whatever.
Completely chill out and relax.

Your weekends are something that you should value. It is a time
where you don’t have to report to anyone and you can do

exactly what you like. If you’re like me, that involves hanging
out with hot chicks.

We are going to go start working on something that Rob and I
do all the time, meet a girl during the day and make plans to
meet up later that night.

Mission:

Go to an area where you live that girls hangout at during the
day. Maybe it’s the mall, the gym, a bookstore, it doesn’t matter.
Do 3 approaches on girls that you would like to hang out with.

Begin the conversation focusing on tapping into your drive, and
then balancing the interaction with your inspiration. You guys
should be chatting it up in a casual manner.

Next, suggest that you guys do something later by way of, “You
seem fun, let’s _______ later on. What’s your number?”

Boom! Every time!

The key here is having something fun in mind that you want to
do already, which makes the whole interaction far more genuine.

After you get a number, send her a text 2-3 hours before you
guys plan to meet up just to firm up the plans.

These plans can include other friends, or it can be a one-on-one
date, the choice is yours.

Tomorrow we will be deconstructing what we have learned this
week, so for tonight continue to focus on just having fun!

Best, Zack & Rob

UNDAY

EFLECTION

Sunday

hope that this week was fun, but also got you some

good results as well.

Sunday is a great day. It is a day to kick back and reflect on your
week as a whole. It is also a great time to catch up on stuff that

you have been putting off. Have you signed up and began
posting on the forum yet? If not, quit stalling and do it now -
part of today’s mission requires you to record your experiences
in your journal. Why not put it online to get feedback from Rob,
myself, and other guys who are experiencing the same thing you
are?

Mission: Reflect & Record

Think back to Monday. What did you realize about yourself that
is conveying neediness to girls? How did you figure this out?
How can you fix this?

Of course we have answers to these questions, but it is important
for developing your own sense of BALANCE that you starting to
think about these things as well. Rob and I will be able to help
coach you through the tough stuff, but you should really be
learning to be your own teacher.

Next, let’s look back to Tuesday. What behaviors or habits do
you still have that seek to entertain girls? Are these things
helping you? Or are they really holding you back from success?
Are girls LOVING your company and dying to spend more time
with you? Or are they losing interest and flaking on you? MOST
guys overly entertain girls. If you watch our infield footage that
is included in the bonuses, you will notice that we are rarely
TRYING

to impress or entertain girls. Instead, we are creating a

fun vibe that they are latching onto. Once you eliminate your
harmful “dancing monkey” tendencies, you can replace them
with carefree inspiration that builds a fun sexual vibe around
your DRIVE.

Wednesday we discussed the importance of building a genuine
connection, without landing yourself in the friend-zone. This is
actually fairly easy. You simply must remember to be GENUINE
and get to know the girl for REAL. This means REALLY being
yourself and dropping any gimmicks. BUT the balance comes
from remember WHY you are forming this connection. It is
because you’re attracted to her, and want a sexual relationship.

So while you SHOULD be connecting, it is NOT your goal - your
goal is to move the interaction forward to where you BOTH
want it to wind up!

Thursday we talked about mechanics and how to actually move
an interaction forward. How did you feel when moving the
interaction forward? I remember that this was one of the hardest
things for me to realize, that I could move an interaction forward
VERY fast, with little to no objection from the girl. It was simply
a result of going for it, but ALSO knowing how to do it
smoothly. How did it feel when you tried to move the
interaction forward? Did it go well? Didn’t it feel kinda cool
whether it went bad or not? It’s like shooting a basketball - if you
don’t take the shot, you simply cannot score. How can you do it
even SMOOTHER next time.

Friday and Saturday were simply about having fun and putting
some of this stuff into practice, plain and simple. We will have
more fun missions for you to do out in the field over the coming
weekends.

Mission: Carrying Over Success

This week we are going to have a special focus - how to setup
and carry out various first date scenarios. We will give you
several possible date scenarios that you can pull out whenever.
This includes dive bar dates, dinner dates, movie dates, you
name it.

For that reason Sunday is an important day. Sunday is the day
that we go through our phone numbers that we collected from
the week, and start following up and also booking up our social
calendar.

Firstly, time to share a little secret from my personal playbook.
Because you are going to be collecting a LOT of numbers from
now on, it’s good to have a phone system to remember one
Ashley from another. So now, here it is for the first time ever,
Zack Bauer’s Phone Ranking System!

Step 1

Firstly, go through all your numbers. The newest ones that you
get go into the “A” file. This means, before their name you place
an “A” to bump them to the top of your contact list. This group
is saved for girls that are cool and you are interested in following
up with.

Next, place a “F” in front of the girls that, well you know ;). This
way there will be no mixing them up!

Finally place a “Z” in front of phone numbers that are non-
responsive or you are just not that into. Never delete these
numbers, as you’ll never know when she will hit you up out of
the blue.

Step 2

The second step is adding a suffix to each phone number,
something that will help you remember who this is, and where
you guys met. Remembering details will keep you in good
standing, trust me.

So here is what a typical phone number looks like in my phone:

A Ashley Wholefoods

And there you have it!

So go through your phone now and start organizing your
numbers. Sometimes Sunday is a good time to setup your dates
for the week, but we prefer to do it early in the week. This is
because on Sunday, people are winding down from their
weekend and gearing up for another week. It is typically harder
to get girls to commit to plans on a Sunday. It is better to wait
once the flow of the week has begun, and they know what their
schedule will look like.

Talk to you tomorrow, and see ya on the forum!

Best,

Zack

E E K

I I I

ETTING THE

WING

OLLOW

Monday

ike I said yesterday, we are going to start to work on following
up phone numbers, and setting up dates.

Following up a number properly is actually very simple. The
most important part is not overcomplicating the situation.

So today you are going to select 3 phone numbers you have
recently collected and have not yet contacted. We are going to
use these numbers and go over how to set up a date properly.

Mission:

First read this article I wrote on how to send the perfect text.

http://www.datehottergirls. com/3-easy-steps-to-sending- the-
perfect-text-message/

Now, send a different message that you crafted yourself using
that formula to each number.

In order to follow the rest of this week’s agenda, set up a
different date from this list with each number you follow up
with.

•

Dive bar

•

Evening drinks

•

Coffee date

•

Movie date

•

Invite her over for you to cook for her

Whether you get all 3 numbers to turn into a date with a hottie,
or none of them workout, it is important to get comfortable
going through the steps.

After you send out each text, try to figure out a different day to
spend with each girl, and firm up the plans. Don’t carry on too
much via text or you will lose all that great tension that you are
building up. She should feel a littler nervous and excited after
the plans.

You shouldn’t text back and forth more than 3-5 times. If there is
more that needs to be said at that moment, call her up
immediately rather than continue to use texts. If you spend too
much time in “text-land” she will be more hesitant to let the
interaction move forward, this leads to A LOT of the reasons that
guys have girls flake on them.

Record your results, what went awesome? What could have
been better, etc.

Best, Zack & Rob

ATE

’’’’

URE TO

AND

Tuesday

know Zack’s been dropping knowledge on you hard

and this week is “follow up week” for a date.

To keep with Zack’s theme, but also to put my twist onto it, I’m
going

concentrate

two

simple

things

in this email, 1.) an alternative way to set up dates that could
vastly reduce flakes (a mechanics elements), and 2.) an exercise
that’ll help cultivate the proper mindset to optimize your
attractiveness.

So, to begin, I’m going to relate a quick story from this weekend.
On Friday night, I was out and about, enjoying the splendor of
hot chicks and all the best NYC has to offer. I wound up meeting
this real hotty (tiny little girl with a smoking body) who really
caught my eye. I put my 4-EGs in motion, stepped up to her, and
spent the night talking and making out with her.

Unfortunately, something happened with her friend and one of
my friends, which prevented us from taking our interaction to
the next level that night. As such, I “soft closed” her by taking

her number. When I handed her my iPhone, she programmed in
her number as well as her email.

Now, I haven’t “email closed” a girl since I first started learning
how to pickup girls. I know, I know, to most guys, taking a girl’s
email address seems really lame. HOWEVER, I started to think
about something: when I first started learning “game”, I got A
LOT of dates with girls even though my game pretty much
sucked.

That means my mechanics element was STRONG.

So I did some research. I went through some of my old emails
and realized after “email closing” enough girls, I’d crafted the
PERFECT email template. In fact, as I was looking through my
archive, I’ve NEVER had a girl not respond when I sent this
follow up email. So I’m going to include the EXACT email I sent
to the girl from the other night (obviously she responded and we
have plans to drink some wine Thursday night) and then I’ll
write out the template so you can easily swap some phrases in
and out to make this template truly your own, perfectly fit for
any interaction you may have.

My recent email to “the hotty”:

“Dearest Hot Sauce Lover –

Nice to finally meet someone who’s on my level of verbal
jousting. Enjoyed our conversation about world travel, tasty
wine, and our fabled relationship which is already fated to end
in a vicious cycle of fighting and makeup sex (and 10,000
children). I don’t know if I can handle the emotional turbulence.
I may have to stick you in the friend zone :)

Hope you got home safe ;)

Pax,
Mysterious Guy from the Gansevoort (ignore the full name in
my email address)

P.S. Right now are you wearing a little power suit, with your
hair up, reading this as your juggle your Blackberry and a
briefcase in one hand (perhaps with a grande Starbucks coffee in
the other hand)?”

Email template:

“Dearest (Inside joke or nickname) –

Nice to finally meet someone who’s on my level of (something
you complimented her on). Enjoyed our conversation about
world (3 things you spoke about, generally I go: 1.) something
serious, 2.) something random and minor, 3.) something funny).
I don’t know if I can handle the emotional turbulence. I may
have to stick you in the friend zone :)

Hope you got home safe ;)

Pax,
(Nickname she gave you)

P.S. (Simple, direct (and ideally, funny) question that makes it
easy for her to respond when she writes back.)”

Again, this is just a suggestion, but if you’re having a problem
with “flakes” you should absolutely try this approach. Keep in
mind, sending off an email, while it may seem like a “pussy
move,” actually lets you communicate your personality WAY
MORE than you can over text or on a voicemail.

Moreover, emails give her a chance to respond at her leisure. For
example, she may ignore your text while she’s out and about,
and then simply forget to respond. With email, however, you
KNOW she’s reading your message when she’s sitting down,
fully able to respond.

Give it a shot and see if it reduces your flaking.
Okay, so moving on to the exercise in this email, I want you to
go on a date tonight...with yourself. Yup, you heard me correct:
you’re going to take yourself out to a nice dinner, order a nice
beverage, and get to know YOURSELF.

For a lot of guys their biggest sticking point relates to not
understanding their own values and interests. Especially when
we study how to better meet and attract women, us guys often
put theory and girls in front of understanding ourselves.

Therefore, this exercise is simple, but should be hugely beneficial
to you if you’re neglecting yourself (which we ALL do at some
point). I want you to go out, pick a nice restaurant or café to
take yourself, and spend at least an hour focused ONLY on
yourself.

If it helps, you can prepare a set of “interview” questions to ask
yourself: what are your interests? What have you been excited
about lately? What are your goals?

Even if you think you already know the answers to your
questions, go on your self-date anyway. You’ll be surprised what
you discover when you devote an hour or so solely to yourself.

So, to sum up today’s assignments, you’re going to:

1.) Consider using email as an effective “anti-flake” strategy.
2.) Go on a date with yourself and really get to know yourself.

That’s it!

Best, Rob & Zack

ETTING

ATE

Wednesday

ob’s tip about setting up dates via Email was

something I have never really done. So to join you guys along
the way, I decided to send out that email to 3 different girls that I
have met recently. The results? I have a date lined up for
Thursday, and I’m double booked for Friday, will have to work
that one out.

Anyways, now that you have gone on a date with yourself and
are more in touch with who you are and what you want out of
your dating life, you are ready to start dating ACTUAL girls,
haha.

Use any technique you wish, whether it be my text advice I gave
out

couple

days

ago

(here

again:

http://www.datehottergirls. com/3-easy-steps-to-sending- the-
perfect-text-message/

), Rob’s advice from yesterday, or any

other way that you feel comfortable setting up a date.

TIP: Tuesdays and Wednesdays are EXCELLENT days for
setting up dates. The reason is, girls have settled into their week
a little bit, and are starting to look towards the fun that next
weekend promises. This is the PERFECT time to try to capitalize
on that emotion, especially when she doesn’t have any big plans
to interfere.

Instead of trying to set the date up for later in that week
however, you are going to try to set it up for that night.

I cannot tell you how often I pass the boring hours at work by
simply hitting up phone numbers that I have collected, and
lining up a date for after I get home. Nothing gets you through
the workday better than the anticipation of meeting up with a
hot girl you just met.

The key to ensuring success is hitting up about 3-5 phone
numbers with the same text and for the same plans. Wait about
1-2 hours to respond, just to make sure that all the girls that will
respond have their chance to be #1. Then you will not only have
your choice of which girl to go out with based on who is
available that night, you can also reschedule the other girls for
another night that week.

Give it a shot and report back!

Best, Zack & Rob

SUPERNOVA

DAY

Thursday

hope you had success setting up your dates. We’ll

have some pointers for what to do on those dates in the next few
days.

For today, we are going to go over the Romantic Supernova as
explained in the book. This is an excellent date to set up because
everything is built in - food, entertainment, and a couch ;). It is
not the only way, but it is time tested, and proven to work.

Mission:

First, re-read the section in The 4 Elements of Game on the
Romantic Supernova. Get everything that you will need
including food, drinks, and entertainment ready to go.

Use either Rob’s email technique, or my text technique, and set
up a date with a girl that you have either met recently, or have
been out with a few times already.

Follow the steps to the “T” and have fun.

Don’t worry about what to say or how to act, you have your 4-
EG’s balanced right? Good. So in that case, enjoy and simply
have fun.

Remember to record what happened in your journal so we can
get more in depth on Sunday night.

TIP: On the date, the only things you should be concerned with
is having fun, making sure your GUEST is having fun, and
whether or not you are building and using sexual tension and
release. That’s all that should be on your mind while you’re in
the middle of a Supernova experience.

Have fun!

Best, Zack & Rob

ATE

Friday

ow did the Supernova go last night? I love it because it is such a
simple date that you can pull out practically any time and with
any girl, and feel confident that it is going to go down amazing.

Do you have a date lined up for tonight yet? If you set up a date
for today based on the other day’s mission that’s awesome! If not
take this time to practice your setup for the date by hitting up a
few of the numbers that you have collected in the past couple
weeks.

Tonight we’re going to go somewhere that I’m sure every guy is
familiar with...a bar. They type of bar you choose is completely
up to you. It can be a fancy margarita spot, a wine bar, or even a
dive bar. That’s right, it does not matter. So no matter what
situation you are in, you will always have a place to take a date.

Follow the mission and you’ll see results. I promise.

Mission: Go out for drinks and get a girl back to your place

First, choose a bar that is close to your place. It will be much
easier to make the move home if it isn’t to much of a hassle.

Make plans to either pick her up or meet her at the bar,
whichever works best.

When you meet up keep the vibe fun and casual at first. Have a
drink and relax, get the banter going, and just have fun. Don’t
rush to finish your drinks, as you don’t want to get too drunk.
Nor should you want her to get too drunk.

Use whatever you have in the bar to your advantage, whether it
is a jukebox, pool table, or fancy straws in the drinks. Entertain
yourself, and she will have fun as well.

On the second round of drinks increase the tension. This comes
from amping up your drive, telling her what you like about her,
and looking at her in a way that let’s her know that you are
completely attracted to her. Make sure that she feels comfortable
with this, so that you can begin to move this forward.

As you build this tension, keep your inspiration flowing. Make
sure that the moment is not only tense, but also inviting and fun.
Make mention of the fun things you have back at home. I have a
balance board, and while out at the bar I tell girls that I’m going
to take them home and take them surfing. This always piques
curiosity. What sort of fun are YOU bringing to the table that she
should know about?

As you hint at the fun you are going to have back home, and you
increasingly communicate your attraction through strong eye
contact, smiling, and having fun with her, you should finish up
your drinks.

I don’t like to have more than 2-3 drinks on a date, because I
don’t intend nor want to be drunk when interacting with a girl
I’m really into. Furthermore, I don’t want her being drunk to
forget any of the fun times that we share together. Also, girls will
trust themselves around you if you aren’t the guy who needs to
rely on getting them plastered to get laid. Be a gentleman.

So after finishing your drinks tell her simply, “OK! Time to [go
surfing]!” Exchange my surfing for whatever it is that YOU want
to take her home to do. Maybe it’s finger painting. Maybe it’s
watching your favorite TV show with her. Either way, you
should not be looking at getting her home as if it is your only
agenda. When you get home, you must entertain her and keep
the vibe fun and sexual, perhaps open a bottle of wine (that you
most likely won’t get around to finishing). From there you can
decide where to take things.

Have fun!

Best, Zack & Rob

ELIGHTFUL

Saturday

hope you had fun last night, and the romance actually turned
into a Supernova...if ya know what I mean.

Anyways, today is Saturday. Saturdays are NOT the night to be
setting up a first date. It sends the wrong message to a girl you
just met. What is that message?

•

I don’t have plans on a Saturday night (i.e. I’m plain and
boring)

•

I want to spend one of my only free days with you,
someone I have very little connection with yet

The good news is that Saturday is the perfect night to go out
with your friends and meet NEW girls for next weeks dates.

So that’s exactly what you’re going to do, put the 4-EG system
into action and go meet some new girls that you are into and
interested in dating.

Mission: Afternoon Delight

So while you’re out tonight meeting hotties, you should be
thinking about setting up a date for tomorrow afternoon. You
are going to use the momentum that you generate from meeting
these girls, to get a date the following day.

Go out, have fun, meet cool girls. I love giving homework
assignments!

While you’re talking to these girls, hint at something cool that
you are going to be doing tomorrow (make your plans before
going out) and invite her to join (CASUALLY!!!!). If she says yes,
use it as an opportunity to grab her number. If she doesn’t flat
out invite herself along, just be cool about it. Get her number
before you leave, but don’t make mention of the activity a
second time. Instead, you’re going to text her with the text
message set up I have been talking about that you can find again
here:

http://www.datehottergirls. com/3-easy-steps-to-sending- the-
perfect-text-message/

Set up the date for Sunday, and have fun! Look for my Sunday
wrap up when you get home from the date (unless of course you
never make it home).

Enjoy!

Best, Zack & Rob

EFLECTION

IME

Sunday

K so I hope you had fun last night, met some cool girls, and took
one of them on the date you had planned out for today. If so,
how did it go?

If you weren’t able to land a date for tonight, what went wrong?
Was it your approach, was it your follow up, did you lack a solid
plan, etc.

Record this in your journal.

Now that it has been 3 straight weeks of mackdom, what
changes have you noticed? When Rob and I were just starting to
go out and really nail this stuff down and see awesome results,
we had a tough time making it through 30 days straight. It was
grueling and tiresome. But the most frustrating part was feeling
like there was no improvement.

It wasn’t until after we had dragged ourselves half to death,
facing all types of shame and embarrassment, that I was able to
look back and see the difference.Maybe you haven’t gotten the
optimal results from all of the missions. But so long as you
actually ATTEMPTED them you are making progress, I promise.
It is the same thing that we see with all of our students – it is not
until you have some time to reflect on what you have
accomplished that it solidifies itself in your mind.

So today’s mission is about reflection.

Mission: Pure Relflection

I’m sure that some of the missions we have given, whether it
was to sing to a stranger or to try to kiss a girl in under a minute,
have been interesting experiences to say the least. Perhaps you
never would have thought that these things were possible, or
furthermore, that YOU could even attempt to do it and get away
with it!

Whatever it has been for you, think back on what you did, that
despite thinking it was dumb, or wouldn’t work, placed you
outside your comfort zone, and as a result gave you a slight grin
or feeling of surprise after the moment had passed.

What have you realized about yourself over the last 3 weeks?
Have you changed at all? Are you still the same man you were 3
weeks ago? If so is that good or bad? For some people, changing
who they are is a BAD things as they are already great to begin
with. Other people could certainly benefit from a personality
tweaking if they are not getting the results they want when
interacting with the girls you are attracted to.

What have you realized about girls since you have begun? Are
they easier than you thought to relate to? Are they more
difficult? Have you found that you enjoy building more genuine
connections?

What have you realized about the way you view dating and
hooking up with girls? Have your views remained the same or
changed since we begun a few weeks ago?

Take some time to honestly reflect upon these and any other
questions that come to you while you are chilling out and
reflecting.

I created a thread on the forum called Sunday Reflections for
you guys to post all your responses to this in addition to in your
journal. Rob and I will go through them, and we can have a solid
discussion about all that you have been experiencing.

Other than that, take some YOU time and just relax tonight…it
has been a long but EPIC week.

Talk to you soon!

Best, Zack & Rob

E E K

I V

ULLING

OGETHER

OCIAL

IRCLE

Monday

hope that you got an idea last week of how set up and enjoy
some basic date ideas. Now that the pieces are starting to fit
together, we are going to move onto a different topic – dating
girls that you meet through your social life. Maybe it’s a girl
from class, work, or you met through friends.

Girls that you meet through your normal social life rather than
by a cold approach tend to make up the majority of girls that
you will meet in your life. If you’re anything like me, you have
met a girl or two through your social circle, and have wanted to
date her.

That being said, the 4 Elements of Game are just as important to
dating girls that you passively meet through your social circle.

However, the way you interact with them must be very subtle,
and very casual. If you try to get too direct with someone you
met in your social circle, you risk not only losing the girl, but
also offending the rest of the social group.

There are some dangers that you run when dealing with social
circle dating. It is easy to drive the girl away by being too direct.
At the other end of the spectrum you also run the risk of ending
up in the “friend-zone.”

So this week our focus is finding that perfect balance between
being too direct, and not being direct enough as it relates to
dating girls in your social circle.

Here are some quick tips to boost your success:

•

Use your mutual acquaintances to your advantage

•

Make use of events that you know she will be at

•

Insulate yourself into her social circle by befriending her
friends

•

Do not talk about your interest in this girl with her
friends (rumors travel fast and cannot be controlled)

•

Do not seek to hang out with this girl one on one right
away

•

Position yourself in a way to be viewed by this girl in
your natural environment (with your friends and hers)

•

Be casual with her at first, and play it slightly coy. This
will build attraction as she wonders why you are so fun
and open with others, yet you are slightly different
around her. This will amplify the sexual tension without
having to actually DO anything.

Mission: Recon Mission

Today is Monday, so we’ll keep today’s mission to a homework
assignment. Think back to all the girls that you have met or been
attracted to in your social circle. What kept you from getting this
girl? If you ended up hooking up with her, what helped you
guys hook up?

What type of guys do you see girls go for in their social circles?

Post your thoughts about this on the Forum.

Then, come up with 3 questions you have about social circle
game. Email them to me at zack@datehottergirls.com

Can’t wait to hear from you!

Best, Zack & Rob

RIEND

Tuesday

K, so I hope you gave some serious thought to what we talked about
yesterday.

Now, it’s time to make your first move. When initiating contact with girls
in your social circle, SUBTLTY will be crucial. If you come on too strong
too quickly it will confuse her, especially if she has only thought of you as
a friend for a while.

Instead, you must UNDERPLAY this situation. NOT put pressure on
her, and NOT give away your agenda before SHE is already thinking
about you in that “more-than-a-friend” sort of way.

Some of this stuff seems contrary to what we discussed in The 4
Elements of Game as it relates to following your drive and approaching
girls shamelessly. Keep in mind, you still MUST tap into your drive,
express it through inspiration, build a connection, and move the
interaction forward. Nothing has changed, except the situation you are in.

Approaching a girl in a strong direct fashion works great, because it sends
her an instant message about what type of guy you are, instantly builds
tension (and hence attraction), and allows you to reveal your other
elements fairly quickly.

Now, because you already know or have ties to the girls in your social
situation, you must look at the situation in a slightly different light. You
are not under the pressure to approach, or risk losing the girl forever. So
play it slower…there is far less pressure to perform in a social circle
setting, as you can come and go into this girl’s reality almost at will.

So here is a MONEY road-map that I only share with friends. Here it
goes:

•

When interacting with a girl you already know or met through
your social circle, keep it CASUAL by not VOICING your

attraction. Instead let it show through your smile, eye contact,
and manner that you treat her (like your girlfriend i.e. holding the
door, taking her coat, etc).

•

This seems small, but she will SENSE the change in your
behavior, yet will not be able to figure out what seems different.
You have not voiced it to her so there are doubts in her head
about why you are acting different. Your different actions will
force her to play the role of your girlfriend.

•

Use this new dynamic to help your cause, and simply move it
forward CASUALLY. Suggest that you two attend a party or hit a
bar. Make it sound like just friends hanging out, but the
FEELING is that of boyfriend/girlfriend hanging out.

•

Simply keep the tension by NOT moving forward too soon. Wait
until you guys are alone at your place or hers later on before you
actually make your move.

•

In these situations, if the tension is allowed to linger, it makes
finally hooking up so easy because the girl is DYING to know if
this tension & new feelings are real, or whether she just imagined
it.

Mission:

Set up a “hang out” scenario with a girl that you like in your social circle.
Follow the road-map I laid out above.

If you have any questions, email me at

zack@datehottergirls.com

or post

them on the forum.

Enjoy!

Best, Zack & Rob

TTRACTIVE

IRST

IIII

MPRESSIONS

Wednesday

ow did that go setting up your social-circle date?

Today, we’re going to add to the discussion we were having yesterday.
While it is good to be able to transition a girl from friend to girl friend, it
is better to instantly be viewed as “potential boyfriend material” from the
moment a girl is introduced to you.

This makes your life SO easy, because instead of always having to
approach girls that you like, you can capitalize on all the girls you meet in
the course of your daily life.

Essentially what we are talking about today, is how to make an
ATTRACTIVE FIRST IMPRESSION.

The difference between an attractive first impression and an unattractive
first impression comes down to PREDICTABILITY. A normal first
impression is common place, an ATTRACTIVE FIRST IMPRESSION
leaves girls with butterflies in their stomach. This has NOTHING to do
with looks, money, or nice car. So let’s first break down the anatomy of an
attractive first impression.

Smile – if you are smiling in a “nice to meet you” sort of way this
is common. Everyone knows this smile that you put on to be
polite when meeting someone. Instead, your smile should convey
that you have a fun and exciting secret (perhaps a dirty one). This

“unpredictable” smile will leave her wondering what is going
through your head, but your polite actions send mixed signals
that get her emotions racing.

Eye contact – same as above. Standard eye contact when meeting
someone is very polite. Instead you want to look at her in a way
that is NOT creepy, but conveys that you are ACTUALLY
appreciating this gorgeous girl standing in front of you…believe
me she will FEEL it.

How you speak to her – do you talk to her in very polite
“stranger conversation” or instead, do you engage her in
interesting and different conversational topics that she would not
otherwise expect when first being introduced to someone.

And this list goes on. But as you can see, there is VERY LITTLE
EFFORT here. It is all about being casual and subtle, as if you are
planting the idea in her head rather than trying to lay your cards on the
table.

Mission:

Go out today and throughout your daily routine practice these little tips
for an attractive first impression. It is best to practice on grocery store
cashiers, sales girls, etc. Perhaps even complete strangers.

But today is just practice so don’t worry…I certainly don’t want you to
mess up in front of friends before you get the hang of it, and risk serious
embarrassment. So go get comfortable with this stuff and remember,
don’t try hard…this is all about being subtle. Better to under-do it than
over-do it.

Talk to you soon!

Best, Zack & Rob

OCIAL

Thursday

hope that you got an idea last week of how set up and

enjoy some basic date ideas. Now that the pieces are starting to
fit together, we are going to move onto a different topic - dating
girls that you meet through your social life. Maybe it’s a girl
from class, work, or you met through friends.

That being said, the 4 Elements of Game are just as important to
dating girls that you passively meet through your social circle.

So this week our focus is finding that perfect balance between
being too direct, and not being direct enough as it relates to
dating girls in your social circle.

Here are some quick tips to boost your success:

•

Use your mutual acquaintances to your advantage

•

Make use of events that you know she will be at

•

Insulate yourself into her social circle by befriending her
friends

•

Do not talk about your interest in this girl with her
friends (rumors travel fast and cannot be controlled)

•

Do not seek to hang out with this girl one on one right
away

•

Position yourself in a way to be viewed by this girl in
your natural environment (with your friends and hers)

•

Mission: Recon Mission

Today is Monday, so we’ll keep today’s mission to a homework
assignment.

Think back to all the girls that you have met or been attracted to
in your social circle. What kept you from getting this girl? If you
ended up hooking up with her, what helped you guys hook up?

What type of guys do you see girls go for in their social circles?

Post your thoughts about this on the Forum.

Then, come up with 3 questions you have about social circle
game. Email them to me at

zack@datehottergirls.com

Can’t wait to hear from you!

Best, Zack & Rob

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