Bad Boy Sex Secrets
Day Seven
Rules for Texting, Home Video, Porn & Erotica
And last, Rules for Texting, video, porn and erotica. Bad boys break the rules of society. They don't give a shit
what other people say. A man that is sure of himself is a turn on for women. She may want to be confident in
herself, yes, but she doesn't want you to be a pushover. She doesn't want to give her power away to you and she
doesn't want you to give your power away to her. She puts people in their place all day long. She, deep down,
wants you to put her in her place with a twinkle in your bad boy eye.
True bad boys have heart and, while they don't give a shit what other people say, their actions are never at the
expense of another or done with unkindness, malice or for narcissistic shallow pleasure.
I can't stress enough that true successful bad boys are not assholes or jerks. Assholes and jerks only attract
insecure, low self esteem, needy, gold digging women. Yes?
True bad boys are both kind and kinky and turned on by a woman who will honor him. True bad boys are bold
and dark and wild and turned on by a woman who honors his choice to embrace his true sexual nature
unapologetically and is willing to penetrate the world as his authentic self.
I invite you to really choose right now. Are you willing to have a woman who will adore the true bad boy in
you? Because if you doubt you can be him, so will she. If you judge him, so will she. If you dishonor the bad boy
in you, so will she. Yet if you honor, trust, value and celebrate this part; this component of the totality of who
you are as a man; yes you are kind, honoring, creative, strong, and yes you are a bad boy who's kinky and erotic
and dark with heart and you are totally at peace in your sexuality and you are open to exploring more and more
fulfilling sex with your partner; if you own that, then she can own that about you too. It starts with you. You
have all the power.
So: texting, videoing, watching sex movies, reading erotica; all of this falls under this category. Does it turn you
on? The authentic bad boy? Does engaging in any of these really feel true for you? Given you're choosing to be
at peace with exactly who you are as a bad boy, given that you've cleared away all these judgments about who
you are as the bad boy; what would be true for you? What would celebrate your bad boy with your partner
today?
With texting, we'll start there, let go of the strategy texting. Start with what you know works and then ask these
questions: what would turn her on right now? What would turn me on right now? What would bring me fun
and joy and hot sex as a bad boy right now? Not, what do I need to do to be good enough? Not what do I need to
do to make her like me? No. That's all that old hesitancy stuff.
Let yourself be turned on in the process. One gentleman I interviewed once told me he doesn't even speak a
word to his wife until it first pleases him erotically. So he's in a state of total orgasmic bliss 24/7; so long as he's
conscious of that; and then she gets the gift of that. Isn't that hot?
Just try asking what would turn me on right now and be a gift and turn my woman on right now? Know that if
one text doesn't work, that's okay. Have some lightness and fun about it. Have some laughs and humor about it.
Letting her know she turns your on during the day is the foreplay women need to feel not like a piece of meat
when you want to have sex later that night. When you ignore her all day and then want sex at night, it feels like
an obligation to her void of valuing her; just valuing her pussy and seeing her as a piece of meat and not a work
of art. Women really thrive on kindness and praise and bad boy dirty texting sort of all mixed in to one like a
tapestry of sexual energies that touch every magic button and open her up all the way. You can't really go
wrong. But if you just do only bad boy dirty texting and you forget the kindness and praise, again, it makes her
feel like a piece of meat. So it's about weaving it and trusting yourself and having some fun. It's like art. It's like
creativity. Be you. Have the authenticity of exactly you. No one can do it better than you because there's only
one you. Have fun with this. I don't think I've ever seen it go wrong. The only time I can ever remember a client
having it go wrong is when he forgot some of that kindness and praise and just out of the blue came this dirty
bad boy texting and it took her off guard. But so long as you weave it in to who you already are and expand and
open it in to more dirty and nasty as well as gorgeous, sexy woman praise, you're going to be just fine.
Next, about filming a video; is that true for you as an authentic bad boy? We're not doing things to try to be this
strategy bad boy. No, it's all about being the real you. So if that's something that turns you on, maybe you could
even text about it just to get a response. Talk to her about it. Remember those conversations: tell me something
about you and sex? How about, tell me something about you and sex videos as you're driving out to a date night
or something like that. Again, remember with those conversations, all you say is thank you. There's no
judgment or opinions about it. It's a very safe way to talk about topics that normally aren't safe to talk about.
In today's world with facebook and the internet, the freedom for having videos is quite tarnished, right? You've
got celebrity sex tapes getting out everywhere. She may not want to have that video out there whatsoever. So
you can create a deal. Be very honoring of one another. Create a deal that works for both of you.
Sometimes couples film themselves having sex, watch it and delete it. Some couples each have a copy of it so it
feels safe that each has the power to show it yet each choose to honor each other by not showing it. Some just
hook up the camera to the big screen TV, never even press record. The just like to see themselves fucking on the
big screen. Others create a level of trust and respect and they will send movies through the internet on one of
those large files services such as yousendit. You can download a big file. They love watching their beloved
masturbating while they're away on business and they trust each other not to send those videos anywhere.
This is the bad boy dance of trust and communication with your partner. Take her to the edge yet don't fall off
the edge. You can do it and you can do it by being the space of a nonjudgmental, this is who I am, this is what I
choose and that welcome invitation of will you play with me here and a woman will generally be open to some
form of this so long as you're that impeccably present, trustworthy, heart centered, dark with heart bad boy that
she's always been waiting for.
Now lastly, porn and erotic fiction. This is such a wild topic. While I've honestly found from bad boys is that
before they were bad boys, they would hide and watch porn. But now they don't really hide anymore in the
world of fantasy. They're really creating those fantasies as a reality in their bedroom and it's turning them on
and it's turning their partners on; same with women. They don't hide so much in the realm of erotic fiction on
their kindles to fulfill their fantasies. They're living them because their bad boys finally showed up. If anything,
more conscious, connected, authentic productions of porn or erotica are used during their sexual encounters for
added stimulation. Yet I will say, once most men have stepped in to this bad boy sex secrets program, what's
happened is neither partner is really turned on anymore by the lack of kindness and the disconnection that
many porn videos and erotica portrays.
Because the bad boy, the true bad boy, is really honoring and connected and celebrating of his own darkness.
He's vulnerable with his own desires. He actually listens to himself. He honors himself and he creates those
desires in real life. He's bold. He's creating what he chooses. He's allowing the full spectrum of his sexuality to
be expressed without shame. He's grateful to be a man, to be a lover, to be alive. This makes his partner get wet
just thinking about him. Gush when he looks at her. Orgasm at his slightest touch. Open and beg for more as he
enters her.
It's because the totality of the man is present and the relationship is officially entered in to this new fresh
delicious erotic bad boy dimension. She's very very happy that you've shown up; all of you; and she's so open to
saying yes, yes yes! to more of you.
So I praise you for the brilliance and the balls it took to embrace this Bad Boy Sex Secrets journey. This is just
the beginning. Stay close. Learn more. You never get there. It's an ever expanding journey of pleasure and
confidence and possibility; if you're bold enough to stay open to the unknown.
All my delicious love.
~Allana <3