Super-Charge Your Confidence Now: The
Only Guaranteed Way to Build Unstoppable
Social Confidence
By Dan Bacon, Leading Dating Expert & CEO of The Modern Man
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My aim with this eBooklet is to:
a) Explain how I built my confidence-level from  anxious to  at
ease.
b) Get you to really understand how confidence is built from the
ground-up.
c) Provide you with the step-by-step guide to building and
maintaining true confidence.
Once you have integrated what I show you in this eBooklet, your
confidence will be immediately enhanced and will continue to grow
stronger and stronger each day.
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What is Confidence?
Confidence is a state of mind.
Confidence (noun): Belief in oneself and one's powers or abilities.
Some people have it and some people don t.
When you look closely, you will always find that the person who doesn t have
confidence needs to change the way they think about themselves or the
particular situation they find themselves in.
If you want to build true confidence, the first thing you need to do is change
way of your thinking (explained later in this eBooklet).
That is Stage 1.
Once you decide to change your way of thinking, you then need to get some
evidence to support your new way of thinking.
That is Stage 2.
Once you ve begun to gather evidence, your new way of thinking will start
turning into a belief.
That is Stage 3.
Your belief, which will now be strongly influencing your behavior, actions and
choice of words, will then begin to become a  knowing.
That is Stage 4.
You should aim to get to Stage 4 - the stage of knowing - in all areas
required for success with women & dating.
For example, I now know that I can:
- Attract any woman.
- Start & continue conversations that captivate women and maintain
their interest.
- Date models and high-status women.
- Feel confident in any situation.
- Approach women in a public place and move things towards sex on the
same day.
And so on.
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If you want to achieve the same, then you ll need to put in a little bit of
work.
Here s what I mean&
The Need For Instant Gratification Will Slow You Down
Instant gratification is when an action produces an immediate result.
For example: Take shower = feel fresh, clean and rejuvenated.
In some instances, instant gratification is a good thing  taking a shower. In
others, it is a bad thing  trying to succeed with women and dating.
For example: Most guys want to know the quickest, easiest tricks to get with
the best women.
They hope that using tricks = getting with women.
- Give me the quick tricks! I want to get laid now!
- What do I say to get her to like me?
- If I spray pheromones on me, will it make women attracted to me
despite the fact that I m not confident or good at conversation?
- How can I achieve confidence without trying? What s the trick? C mon
what s the trick that I only need to do once and then I m cured for life?
But here s the deal&
Women (and people for that matter) know how to spot a fake.
Women are looking for guys who possess or display some or all of the
following:
- Confidence. - Social - Sexual vibe.
- Masculinity. intelligence. - Status.
- Humor. -  Social - Unpredictably.
- Adventurous coolness. - Charm.
spirit. - Ambition.
- Style.
True, unshakable confidence takes time (i.e. delayed gratification) to
develop.
It is also the one trait that is most attractive to women.
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It is possible for you to use the techniques you ve learnt from all of my
materials and successfully display all of the above qualities (including
confidence) right now.
There s no doubting that.
However, if you do not focus on developing true, unshakeable confidence,
then your lack of confidence will always weaken the attractiveness of any
 attractive personality trait that you may possess or any technique that you
may use.
You simply cannot mask your lack of confidence with tricks and techniques.
It will never work and your personality will never be as attractive as that of a
confident guy.
Sure, you may get 1 out of 100 women taking your  bait , but they will soon
realize that you re a fake and walk away or leave you.
A Recent Personal Story
It s Sunday evening as I write this.
This weekend, I decided to take a well-deserved break from teaching other
guys how to meet women.
I arranged for a bunch of my friends to get together and hang out at a
popular bar on Friday night.
I didn t go out with the intention of meeting any women whatever. All I was
aiming to do was relax and chill out with my friends.
Three hours into the night and having a great time just chilling out and
chatting with friends, a hot, young brunette caught my eye& big time.
Without hesitating, or letting my friends know what I was doing, I got up out
of my chair and walked right over to her.
Within 3 minutes, I got her phone number and said that I was going back to
hang out with my friends.
The reason I share this story with you, is to highlight how important it is to
build true confidence, so you can act upon your desires if and when you
decide to  without hesitation or fear.
For example:
Who am I to think that:
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a) I wouldn t get rejected by her in front of my friends?
b) She would be interested in seeing me again, even though I only spoke
to her for 3 minutes?
c) A hot girl like that would want to give me her phone number?
d) She didn t already have a boyfriend?
Side note: I usually spend a lot longer with a woman, ensuring that we
connect on deep rapport, before I get her number. In this instance, I was
only going to invest a few minutes so I could then get back to what I was
doing.
Want to know the reason that I didn t have any doubts of my ability to
successfully achieve what I wanted with that girl?
The reason is: I have personally traveled the powerful road of delayed
gratification and worked on becoming truly confident, rather than trying to
mask my lack of confidence with tricks and techniques.
Because I am truly confident, the attractiveness of all of my other personality
traits are enhanced.
For example: I would ve only said a couple of funny things during the 3
minutes I interact with her, but I have no doubt that she d think of me as a
funny guy.
Side note: I did try (unsuccessfully) to mask my lack of confidence for about
2 years by looking for quick fixes that would give me instant gratification.
Nothing really changed until I worked out and applied what I m going to be
teaching you in a few minutes.
Thanks to the effort I put into building true, super-charged confidence, I
am now at the stage of knowing that women want me, rather than just
thinking that they may want me.
If you were to look inside my mind at the things I knew about the interaction
I was about to have with her&
- Of course she ll want to talk to me.
- This girl is going to want to be my girlfriend.
- If she s got what I m looking for, I ll get her number.
- Hopefully she passes my testes, because she d be awesome to have
sex with.
- I ll have to tell her that I m with friends; otherwise she ll want me to
stay and talk to her.
Note: It s Monday, 9:10pm now as I add this little extra bit for you.
I just called her. We re meeting up on Wednesday for coffee.
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Too easy.
Are You the Equivalient of an Obese Women?
If you get nervous around women and are a bit of a nice guy, then you are
the equivalent of an obese woman.
To help you understand that  funny analogy, have a think about this&
Although some men will date and have relationships with obese women out
of desperation or insecurity, men are more naturally attracted to women with
young, healthy, fit and  model-type bodies.
Everyone knows that obese women are unattractive, regardless of the BS
commercial campaigns that say  big is beautiful.
Although some women will date and have relationships with nervous nice
guys out of desperation or insecurity, women are more naturally attracted to
men who are confident and challenging.
The truth is that a lot of people secretly think of nervous nice guys as
suckers, losers and wimps  regardless of how many times you hear people
say,  Awww, but he s a nice guy.
The problem with being a nervous nice guy, who is dating a desperate or
insecure woman, is that you stand a higher chance of:
a) Being dumped by her when she meets a more attractive (i.e. more
confident and challenging) guy.
b) Losing more self-confidence when you are left for another man.
However, if you develop true confidence (the kind that stirs a powerful
attraction inside of a woman, in much the same way that the physical
appearance of a woman does for us) then you will always know that you can
get other women, because you will notice how attracted they are to you in
every situation in life.
Can you imagine what that will do for your confidence and self-esteem?
What is Your Current Level of Confidence?
Okay, so you now know that  I have achieved the level of true confidence
and I ve given you one example (out of of millions) of how it directly benefits
my life.
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But what about you?
What is your current level of confidence and when will you reach my level of
confidence?
To answer that question, please answer the following.
Note: It s best to answer these out loud if you are in a private place.
a) What fears or doubts run through your mind when you think about
meeting women?
b) What fears of doubts do you have when you are in the midst of an
interaction with a woman?
c) What fears of doubts run through your mind when you find yourself on
a date with a woman?
You are not alone with this my friend.
The most common responses that guys give to these questions are:
" I don t know how to approach women.
" I d hate to get rejected in front of everyone.
" What if she laughs at me when I approach her?
" What if her boyfriend is lurking nearby and comes over to fight me?
" Geez, I must look nervous at the moment.
" I don t know what to say.
" I wish I were better with women.
" Why am I so bad with women?
" Why do my friends find it so easy to get girls, while I always seem
awkward around women?
" I m probably not good-looking enough, so I won t approach her.
" I hope this date is going well& she probably thinks I look nervous or
that I m desperate.
" Say something interesting to her! Quick! She s losing interest!
" Maybe if I earn more money women will start to like me. I should just
give this up until I ve got more money.
" Maybe if I build more muscle women will start to like me. I should just
give this up until I ve gotten bigger.
" Maybe if I buy that shirt& or that car& then women will like me.
" Maybe there s something wrong with me.
Did you have similar responses to the questions?
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I used to think like that as well and guess what it did for me?
It made me more nervous, more anxious and more fearful of approaching
and interacting with women.
 We become what we think about most of the time. Brian Tracy  Famous
author and success coach
 You can be anything you want to be, if only you believe with sufficient
conviction and act in accordance with your belief; for whatever the mind
conceive and believe, it can achieve Napoleon Hill  Best-selling author
of  Think and Grow Rich
I agree 100% with the words of the two great men quoted above.
The solution to all of your problems with women is to change your thinking,
or change your mindsets.
How to Use Mindsets
To effectively use the following mindsets and integrate them into your way of
thinking, you need to be aware of the following.
New mindsets will have little or no effect on changing your level of
confidence, unless:
- You say the mindsets with conviction in your mind (or out loud)
You have to really get excited about this.
The more pumped you are about achieving a state of true confidence in
life and with women, the faster it will happen for you.
If you are lethargic and lazy about it, nothing will really change.
- You feel the relevant emotions when thinking the mindset
For example: Women are very attracted to me.
Emotions you should feel when thinking that mindset: Pride, confidence,
happiness, composure, self-acceptance, self-love, gratitude, certainty.
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As you read each mindset that I give you, feel the ideal emotions that
would go with that way of thinking.
The more you feel the emotion, the more powerful the change will be.
Note: This is where the title of this eBooklet really comes into play. If you
can learn to do this right, it will provide you with an immediate super-
charge of your confidence.
Here s a little trick you can use& .
Whenever you feel a little anxious in a social situation, focus on a couple
of positive mindsets and feel the good feelings associated with them.
An instant super-charge of confidence!
- You gather evidence to support your new way of thinking.
You will have an extremely hard time believing your new way of thinking,
unless you get off your butt and start approaching women to gather
evidence.
Although you are literally half-way there already by simply knowing what
I am teaching you know - the other half requires real-life experience to
solidify your thoughts into beliefs and then into a state of knowing.
The Mindsets That I Used to Get Where I Am Now
I had to start from scratch with most of these mindsets.
At first, I found it really hard to begin believing them because my mind was
telling me,  But Dan, you re not good with women and  You look nervous
when you interact with women& who are you kidding& women can tell that
you re no good.
I decided to be a man about it and soldier on, believing that I could get there
eventually.
Six months later I was literally getting laid like a rock star, had been
promoted 3 times at work and had made a bunch of new friends.
It was almost a little  spooky how quickly it worked.
Here is a list of mindsets that I recommend you say in your mind on a
REGULAR basis, until you naturally start to think like this:
" Meeting women is easy for me.
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" Attracting women is easy for me.
" Dating women is easy for me.
" I m a really cool guy.
" People respect me.
" I respect other people.
" Everyone is my equal.
" I am always completely confident in any situation.
" I always learn new things when interacting with women  it s heaps of
fun.
" I love approaching women to begin interactions in places like bookstores
and supermarkets.
" Everything works perfectly for me, first time every time.
" I can do anything.
" I m an awesome guy.
" Women want me.
" I am amazing with women.
" I love women and they love me.
" I can meet and attract women anywhere I go.
" My conversation is perfect.
" My body language is perfect.
" Women are always attracted to me.
" I am completely confident talking to any woman, regardless of her
beauty.
" The more beautiful the woman, the more she ll be attracted to me.
" I always have beautiful women in my life.
" It s easy for me to look good.
" Everything I wear looks great on me.
" I love socializing.
" I am a highly sought-after male.
" I am very masculine.
" I am an alpha male.
" I love to exercise.
" I get attention from women all the time.
" I m a good guy.
I d recommend thinking in this way all the time.
If you are diligent and follow through on integrating these mindsets, they will
eventually become a natural part of your mind s operating system.
& and your life will change in amazing ways.
 When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at
change Dr. Wayne Dyer, famous author
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Bridging Your Mindsets
While you were reading the mindsets above, did you feel that it would be
pretty hard to think that way about yourself all the time?
Here s how to overcome such doubts& .
If you ever find yourself resorting back to ineffective mindsets based on your
fears and doubts about yourself, try  bridging your mindsets.
For example:
" Meeting women is becoming easier and easier for me.
" I m starting to believe that I m a really cool guy.
" I m beginning to feel completely confident in any situation.
" I m starting to love approaching women to begin interactions in places
like bookstores and supermarkets.
And so on.
This is a technique that I invented for my clients.
I find it useful when coaching clients who are really lacking confidence in the
area of women and dating, or those who have a strong negative perspective
on themselves and their abilities with women.
Give the initial mindsets a try and if they seem too  far-fetched for you, try
bridging each of them until you begin to believe in yourself in the specific
area.
Note: You can use this technique in any area of your life from now on.
For example: I m getting better and better at handling my finances.
Mindsets by Comparison
Here is another way of doing it.
1. Create two sections on a page.
2. On the left, write down all of your ineffective mindsets.
3. On the right, write down the most ideal mindset you would like to
have.
4. Add to it over the next days, weeks, months and years as you evolve
your mindsets.
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Ineffective mindset Change to effective mindset
Women aren t into me Women are very attracted to me
I m not good looking I am perfectly handsome and women adore me
I m not interesting enough I always have interesting things to say. I have a fun &
interesting lifestyle.
If I get to know people, they will find out how People love getting to know me and finding out more
boring and insecure I am. So, it s better that about my original, exciting and interesting personality.
I just remain quiet and unnoticed. Meeting new people is one of my favorite things to do.
I find it hard to meet women. Meeting women is easy for me.
I find it hard to attract women. Attracting women is easy for me.
Women don t want to date me. Most women want to date me.
I have no good qualities that women would be I am open-minded, interesting, fun to be around,
into. good-looking, have a clean, masculine face, have a
great job, love to talk and explore conversations.
I m not good at conversation or vibing. I am a master conversationalist and am perfect at
vibing. People love interacting with me.
I can t find a girlfriend It s easy for me to find a new girlfriend.
I have no female friends. I always have plenty of female friends.
Attractive women don t want to date me. I only date attractive women.
I don t fit into most crowds. Everyone is my equal.
Take the 6-Week Guided Challenge
It really disappoints me when I bump into previous clients while out on the
town a year or so following their course with me, only to find that they ve
been neglecting the area of mindsets.
Needless to say, those are the guys that are still struggling to attract women
and keep them interested.
On the other hand, it is an awesome feeling to bump into clients who have
taken this area seriously.
Those are the guys who are dating the beautiful, intelligent, interesting (and
sometimes even celebrity) women that every other guy is drooling over.
Please don t focus most of your energy on the techniques (instant
gratification).
I can empathize at how alluring they all are, because you may want results
with women ASAP.
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However, I promise you that you will get results faster if you use the
following, 6-Week Guided Challenge  in addition to focusing on the
techniques.
Weeks 1-3
- Work out how confident you want to be.
For example:
Do you just want enough confidence that women find you attractive?
Do you want enough confidence to do what I did at the bar on Friday
night?
Do you want to achieve a level of confidence that will mean you never
have to feel nervous, worried or doubtful in social situations, ever
again?
- Begin replacing all infective mindsets with effective mindsets, in every
area of your life.
- If you notice an ineffective mindset that is based on fear or doubt,
change it with an ideal mindset or a bridging mindset.
- Start giving yourself a mental  pat on the back anytime you use one of
the techniques I ve shared with you, or anytime you put any of my
theories into practice.
- Every time you notice that something that you ve said or done has
sparked attraction in a woman, say to yourself,  See, women are
attracted to me& this is easy.
Weeks 3-6
By now you should be feeling 100 times more confident than when you
started.
The key to success now is to continue gathering evidence each and every
day, until you achieve a state of knowing.
- List off your new beliefs about yourself, based on the evidence that
you ve gathered.
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If you ve started at  rock bottom , this may be as simple as writing
down things like,  I m feeling more confident when I walk into a room
or  Women are starting to seem a little more interested in me these
days.
If you ve started from a fairly good place, you might be writing down
things like,  It s easy for me to approach women now or  Most women
have been attracted to me when I ve interacted with them& this is
getting so easy! or  Getting phone numbers is a breeze.
- Ask yourself how much closer you are to achieving your desired level
of confidence.
- Ask yourself what you need to improve on in order to achieve your
desired level of confidence faster.
- Start making a list (that you add to once a day or once a week) of all
the things you have been doing better with women.
At the top of the list, write:
I m becoming more successful with women because&
And then write things down as you experience them.
For example:
" I was able to smile confidently at the girl in the supermarket
yesterday.
" I was able to make good  small talk with&
" I felt really confident when I walked into ____________
yesterday.
And so on.
After a couple of weeks, you won t have to bother with the list anymore
because you will have improved your  mental notations of what is happening
in your reality.
You will have changed the way you look at women and at yourself, so your
life will begin to change in step with your new way of thinking.
Women will be friendlier to you, you will feel more and more confident and
any old fears and doubts that used to hold you back will have begun to
wither away into the past.
You will be amazed at how much your life changes when you follow the steps
I ve given you.
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Good luck & I wish you the very best of success.
Dan
P.s. When you ve successfully integrated these mindsets into your life and
have started to receive the tremendous benefits, I d love to share your
success story with our mailbag subscribers (using an alias if you wish).
Feel free to shoot me an e-mail at [e-mail] with your story.
Please keep it to 150 words if possible! :&
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