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LIFE ON MABS    .....-

Martians vałue power, competency, efficiency, and ąchievement. ,They ar.e always ' doing things to prove⁽ themsdves and fje^p their power and aBf^TOeir sense fwmji of self is definedjthrough tlieir aomfy to acffi&re results. They experien.ce ¹

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A marTs sense of self is defined tnrough nrs abiiity to achreve results.

5 Everything on Mars is a reflection of these values. Even tlieir dress is designed to reflect tlieir skills and competence. Police officers, soldiers, businessmen, scienjjsts, cab driyers, technicians, and chefs all wear uniforms or at leąst hats to rm® their competence and power.    ^

They don’t read magazines like Psychotogyjroday, Self, or People. They are morę to concerned with outdoor activities, like hlmting, fishing, and racing cars. They are interested in the news, weather, and sports and coulckft care less about romance noveIs and self-help books.    ^^{vlL (}^ ^

They are morę interested in ‘objects’ and ‘things’ rather thati people and feelings.

Even today on Earth, while women fantasize ahout romance, men fantasize about 15 powerful cars, faster computers, gadgets, gizmos, and new powerful technoiogy.

Men are preoccupied with the ‘things’ that can help them express power by creating results and achiering their goals.

Achieving goals is very important to a Martian because it is a way for him to prove his competence and thus feel good about himself. And for him to feel good to about himself he must achieve these goals by himself. Someone else can’t achieve them for him. Martians pride themselyes in doing things all by themselves. Autonomy is a symbol of efficiency, power and competence.

Understanding this Martian characteristic can help women understand why men resist so much being corrected or being told what to do. To offer a man imsolicited 25 adyice is to presume that he doesnt Icnow what to do or that he can’t do it on his own. Men are rery Kuchy about this, because the issue of competence is so very important to them.

Because he is haudiiug his problems on his own, a Martian rarely talks about his problems unless he neećs espert sdrice. He reasons: ‘Why involve someone else 30 when I can do i: by myseltr' Hc k-eps his problems to himself unless he reąuires help from another: nnć s s kutii::. Asking for help when you can do it yourself is perceired as a sigm : ” et.kur''.

' r */3rr. .'.omen Are From Venus. by John Gray, Ph.D.)