Bad  Boy  Sex  Secrets  

 

Day  One  

Inner  and  Outer  Game  

 

Welcome  officially  to  Bad  Boy  Sex  Secrets.    Discover  how  you  can  be  that  bad  boy  that  every  woman  wants  in  bed.  
 
Now  as  I've  said  before,  I'm  an  intimacy  expert.    I've  coached  for  over  15  years,  traveled  the  world.    I've  interviewed  
the  best.    I've  been  interviewed  by  the  best.    I've  worked  with  hundreds,  if  not  thousands,  of  men  and  woman  and  
one  of  the  most  powerful  ways  I  can  start  this  program  for  you  is  an  apology.  
 
At  some  point,  whether  it  was  your  mom;  stressed  out  scared,  unconscious  spinning  in  her  mind;  she  might  have  said  
something  at  some  point  that  emasculated  you,  made  you  feel  that  somebody  other  than  exactly  who  you  are  was  
somehow  not  enough.      For  that  I'm  so  sorry.  
 
It  might  have  been  a  lover  who  you  expressed  your  authentic  sexual  desires  and  because  they  were  timid,  they  were  
ashamed,  they  were  uncertain,  they  projected  that  on  to  you  and  made  you  wrong  and  judged  you.    For  that  I  too  am  
sorry  because  your  sexuality  is  beautiful  and  sacred  and  hot.  
 
Maybe  it's  an  apology  just  for  women  in  general;  how  we  don't  want  to  be  stopped  by  this  glass  ceiling  and  we  want  
the  vote  and  we  want  equal  pay  and  the  rest  of  it.  It's  not  that  you  did  anything  wrong.    It's  not  against  you,  it's  for  
us.    But  there  are  some  women  who  are  man  haters  or  taking  out  that  sense  of  unfairness  on  men  in  a  way  that's  
emasculating.  I'm  sorry.    I'm  sorry  for  that  as  well.  
 
Just  like  you  leave  your  heart  sometimes  and  go  up  in  to  your  spinning  head  in  to  nice  guy  or  hesitancy  or  jerk,  we  do  
it  too.    We  leave  our  hearts  and  we  go  in  to  nasty  bitch  and  we  do  anything  we  can  to  have  the  illusion  of  being  safe  
by  making  you  small.    I've  done  it.    I've  apologized  for  it.  I've  made  up  for  it.  I  hope  the  women  in  your  life  are  big  
enough  to  own  it,  take  responsibility,  apologize,  make  it  better.    If  not,  to  the  degree  that  it  does  help,  I'm  sorry.    I'm  
sorry  for  everything  that  ever  happened  that  made  you  think  anything  than  other  than  exactly  who  you  are  isn't  
magnificent  and  phenomenal.  
 
So  from  that  place  I  invite  you  to  destroy  and  uncreate  anything  you're  holding  on  to  inside  your  body;  any  of  those  
barriers;  any  of  those  walls;  any  of  those  hesitancies;  any  of  those  shames;  any  of  those  angers  and  guilts.    We'll  go  
deeper  in  the  audios,  don't  worry,  but  for  the  beginning  of  this  video,  I  ask  you  now:  Are  you  willing  to  let  down  
those  barriers?    Are  you  willing  to  let  go  of  the  shame  or  the  anger?  Are  you  willing  to  start  again?  Fresh.  Now.      
 
We  could  start  with  baggage.  It's  just  a  hell  of  a  lot  harder  to  get  results.    It's  a  lot  easier  if  we  start  fresh.      So  would  
you  be  willing  to  destroy  and  uncreate  that?    If  so,  through  the  power  of  your  thought  and  the  power  of  your  choice  
and  the  exhale  of  all  of  it,  let  it  go  for  me  now  please.    And  release.  
 
Hi.    So  let's  begin.  
 
Number  One:  How  to  Unblock  and  Open  Your  Own  Sexual  Energy.    This  not  only  helps  with  erections  but  can  help  her  
orgasm  from  across  the  room  from  your  presence.  
 
Sexual  energy  is  life  force  energy  you  notice.    Right?  You  know  this  from  quantum  physics.    You  know  that  all  of  this  
energy  in  your  body  you  can  either  just  push  and  strategize  and  it's  really  exhausting  in  your  mind  or  you  can  open  
your  body  and  welcome  in  life  force  energy  from  all  around  you;  from  the  earth;  from  the  molecules;  from  other  
universes.    It's  proven  now  in  science  that  all  of  this  energy  is  yours.      

 
So  I  want  you  to  start  breathing  in  as  you  go  down  towards  your  genitals.    Exhale  up  the  back  of  your  spine  as  you  
exhale.    Okay,  just  a  couple  more  time.    Yeah,  she's  starting  woo  woo  breathing.  Deal  with  it.    You  need  to  get  in  your  
body  and  out  of  your  spinning  head  and  this  is  how  we're  going  to  do  it  right  now.  
 
Inhale  down.    Exhale  up.    Start  to  create  some  images  in  your  mind.  What  are  some  men  that  you  really  like  to  
emulate?    Is  it  a  James  Bond?    Breathe  down.    Is  it  an  Indiana  Jones?  Is  it  a  vampire?  Who  is  it?  Is  it  a  martial  artist?    
Okay?  Start  finding  in  your  body  that  posture.    Breathe  down.    And  breathe  up  your  spine.    Start  to  embody  this  bad  
ass.    It  is  not  a  thought.    It  is  not  a  strategy.  It  is  not  a  manipulation.    It  is  something  in  you  that  needs  to  awaken.    
One  last  time;  breathing  in  and  out.  
 
Now  if  we  did  this  a  little  longer,  which  you're  very  welcome  to,  you  are  going  to  start  to  feel  some  buzzing  in  your  
body;  some  energy  in  your  body.    You're  going  to  feel  your  body  more  than  you  normally  do.    Okay?    You  are  a  
magician;  a  wielder  of  energy.    A  wizard.    With  this  energy,  as  you  penetrate  her,  you  can  press  it  in  to  her.  You  can  
press  it  out  all  around  the  room  and  hold  space.    You  can  envelop  her  with  it.    You  can  open  her  heart  with  it.    You  
can  penetrate  her  with  your  eyes  with  this  energy.    Tell  the  energy  where  to  go  and  what  to  do.    It's  conscious.      
 
So  I  want  you  to  start  playing  around  the  next  time  you  see  her.    An  ex  boyfriend  of  mine;  we'd  been  off  and  on  for  
quite  a  while  and  were  actually  on  the  brink  of  it  being  over.  I  was  sort  of  almost  on  the  brink  of  having  my  farewell  
dinner;  my  thank  you,  bless  you,  release  you  dinner.    I  don't  know  what  it  was  but  he  started  to  own  this  energy  and  
this  capacity  and  he  was  literally  across  the  table  from  me  and  he  sent  it  to  me  with  his  desire  for  me,  his  bad  ass  
energy  to  claim  me  and  take  me  and  his  love  for  me.    I  literally  orgasmed  at  the  table;  just  a  little  bit  because  I  sort  of  
held  it  back.    I  started  to  gush  even  a  little.    I  was  like  HOLY!  Who  have  you  become?      
 
He  had  tapped  in  to  this  bad  boy  energy.    He  started  to  get  out  of  his  spinning  mind.  He  was  really  smart.    I  think  he  
went  to  Harvard  or  something.    Super  smart  guy  and  he's  always  been  able  to  have  his  mind  fix  everything.    Well  it  
wasn't  working  for  our  relationship.  I  was  very  unimpressed;  bored.    He  was  a  great  man  but  I  wasn't  being,  um,  
fucked  to  God.  Right?    Until  he  did  this.    That  night  when  we  went  home,  oh  my  God,  we  had  to  get  blankets  out.    I'd  
never  been  like  this.    I  am  now  but  I  wasn't  then.    Just  gushing  everywhere.    And  he  did  so  little  in  terms  of  touching  
me.    It  was  all  his  energy;  his  words;  the  way  he  held  me.    Okay?  This  energy  is  real.    Don't  kid  yourself.    If  you  want  to  
have  this  bad  boy  energy,  you  walk  in  a  room  and  women  feel  you;  what  do  you  think  that  is?    How  can  they  do  that?    
It's  energy.    Claim  it.  Get  to  know  it.  Go  deeper  with  it.      
 
Number  Two:  Postures  That  Turn  Her  On  and  Make  Her  Trust  You.  
 
Here's  the  deal-­‐  If  you're  standing  with  your  pelvis  kind  of  under  and  you're  slouched  forward;  maybe  you  know  and  
maybe  you  don't  know  about  chakras  and  energy  systems  in  your  body;  your  body  is  a  minute  fraction  of  the  power  
of  your  limitless  being  that  you  are.    So  this  energy  that's  going  through  you,  if  you  kind  of  curve  your  body  like  this  
kind  of  slumped  over,  literally  the  energy  that's  coming  from  your  eyes,  your  heart,  your  power  center  in  your  belly,  
your  pelvis,  your  cock;  all  these  energies  that  are  coming  out  in  the  world,  penetrate  the  world,  here  I  am,  here  I  am  
woman.    MMM!    Right?    Well  it's  like  this  one  has  gone  straight  down  and  grounded  in  the  ground.  This  one's  gone  
way  up  to  the  sky.  She's  feeling  nothing.    You  can  just  tell  the  posture  of  a  martial  artist  when  they're  on  the  mat  or  
an  Olympic  athlete.    They're  not  just  standing  tall  for  the  hell  of  it.    When  you  stand  erect,  all  these  energies  align  and  
you  feel  confident.    Energetically  you  have  the  capacity  to  be  the  bad  boy.    And  then  she  feels  it  and  something  in  her  
opens,  softens,  surrenders,  begins  to  invite  you.    It  literally  begins  to  awaken  this  temptress  in  her  because  you're  the  
pole  and  she's  the  flag.  If  you're  like  this,  she  can't  fly.  She  can't  feel  tempting.  She  can't  feel  seductive.  She  can't  feel  
erotic.  She's  got  to  be  the  man.  She's  got  to  be  the  pole.  You've  got  to  be  the  pole.  
 
Another  aspect  to  this;  what  about  men  that  push  a  little  too  forward?  They're  trying  to  impress.    They're  in  your  face  
a  bit.  They're  trying  to  prove  they're  good  enough;  here's  my  card.  Here's  my  money.  Ugh.  Right?  
 

This  posture,  on  its  own  is  a  good  start  from  this.    But  if  you  start  to  push  forward,  you're  almost  in  to  that  narcissistic  
bravado  that's  really  unattractive.    That  is  the  farthest  thing  from  bad  boy.    It's  total  asshole  jerk.    So  watch  your  
posture.    Once  you're  straight,  is  it  forward  an  inch?  Because  if  so,  you're  literally  pushing;  almost  like  a  used  car  
salesman-­‐  Buy  the  car!  I'm  enough!    It's  very  unattractive.      
 
Same  with  back  an  inch;  even  if  you're  standing  tall.    Ack!  What's  she  going  to  think  of  me?    You're  still  in  your  head.    
She's  going  to  sense  that  as  well.  She's  going  to  manipulate  you.    Those  are  guys  that  say  why  do  I  always  attract  gold  
diggers  that  take  my  money?    Because  you're  standing  up  but  you're  not  really  clear.    You're  still  worried  if  you're  
enough.    You  think  all  you  are  is  your  money.    You  don't  know  if  you  have  any  worth  beyond  your  accomplishments.    
You  don't  know  there's  a  magnificence  of  who  you  are  inherently.    A  man  that  stands  like  this  knows  it.      
 
So  I  want  you  to  start  practicing.  Practice  in  the  mirror.    Practice  as  you're  getting  dressed.    Check  in  on  yourself  
during  the  day.    How's  my  posture?    Then  start  to  align  it.    Notice  how  it  makes  you  feel.    Notice  the  reaction  it  gets  
around.    Practice.    Obviously  you're  lying  down  when  you're  making  love  but  you're  still  going  to  have  to  sense;  am  I  
holding  back  that  inch?    Because  I'm  not  a  bad  ass  if  I  am.    And  if  I'm  pressing  forward  trying  to  be  the  bad  ass-­‐  no  
woman  wants  a  man  that's  trying.  So  it's  a  lot  of  body  awareness.    You've  done  a  lot,  probably  I'm  assuming,  of  
thinking  work;  strategy  work;  tips  and  tools  and  those  kinds  of  things.  Fine  but  who's  driving  the  ship?  Who's  running  
the  show?    Who's  in  charge  here  doing  all  those  things?    Somebody  who's  insecure  and  either  pushing  to  be  enough  
or  hiding  or  just  collapsed  all  together?  Or  is  it  a  man  who's  like  here's  the  good,  the  bad,  and  the  ugly  of  who  I  am.  
Take  it  or  leave  it.    Sure  of  himself.      
 
And  also  totally  fine  in  the  unknown.    A  bad  ass  is  in  the  unknown.    Guys  that  are  controlling  are  ruminating  about  
the  past  or  trying  to  control  the  future.    They're  not  present.    A  bad  ass  man  is  present.    When  you're  present  you  
have  no  fucking  clue  what's  going  to  happen  next  and  you've  got  to  be  okay  with  that.    And  you've  got  to  create  and  
choose  from  that  place.    That  is  what  I'm  asking  you  to  do  with  your  posture.    You  will  embody  the  bad  ass.  Do  you  
get  it?    Okay.  
 
This  is  going  deeper  now.    How  do  you  stay  present  and  calm  with  her  no  matter  what  happens?    Scripted  sex,  we  all  
know,  is  boring.    Yet  the  unknown  can  be  very  intimidating.    I  challenge  you  with  creating  a  new  relationship  with  the  
unknown.    Think  of  a  circle  and  put  a  little  dot  in  the  center  of  the  circle.  The  dot  is  you  and  the  whole  circle  is  the  
unknown.    If  the  only  world  you're  going  to  live  in  is  the  little  dot  that  you  are,  it's  going  to  be  very  mediocre,  very  
known,  very  boring  very  quickly.      
 
But  if  you  allow  yourself  to  explore  that  whole  circle  of  the  unknown  while  staying  in  your  posture,  staying  present,  
and  starting  to  see  the  unknown  like  a  mystery;  it's  just  a  point  of  view.    When  I  studied  Access  Consciousness,  they  
say  your  point  of  view  creates  your  reality.    So  if  your  point  of  view  is  that  the  unknown  is  bad;  I  need  to  be  scared.  
I'm  not  enough;  you  will  create  that.    That's  going  to  be  your  reality.      
 
But  if  your  point  of  view  is  that  the  unknown  is;  I  like  to  say  delicious  but  you  don't  have  to.  You  can  say  fucking  
awesome  or  something.  Bring  it!    Bring  on  the  mystery.  I'm  having  it.    And  ask  questions.  I  wonder  what  the  mystery  
is  going  to  bring  me  today.    Something  incredibly  hot  is  happening  today.    I  wonder  what  it  is.      
 
If  you  start  to  see  the  unknown  through  the  doorway  through  the  point  of  view  of  I  wonder  how  good  it  could  get,  I  
wonder  how  much  fun  I  can  have  being  a  bad  ass  today,  I  wonder  how  I'm  going  to  turn  my  wife  on  or  my  girlfriend  
on  and  make  her  gush  at  the  dinner  table  or  the  breakfast  table;  you've  got  to  ask  the  question.  You've  got  to  have  a  
new  relationship  with  the  unknown  as  something  delicious  that's  waiting  for  you.    Or  even  if  it's  challenging,  who  are  
you  going  to  be  about  it?    Alright.  Fine.  What  else  is  possible  here?  What  else  could  I  create?  Nothing  can  take  you  
out  unless  you  let  it.  Nothing  can  stop  you  unless  you  let  it.    Fear  is  just  an  illusion.    
 
That's  something  else  I  learned  in  Access.    Are  you  afraid  or  are  you  excited?    Yeah  it's  intense.  This  new  energy  in  
your  body  is  intense.  This  being  a  bad  ass  and  letting  that  part  of  you  awaken;  think  about  it.  If  you're  like  a  cup  and  
you've  got  everything  that  you  are  already  and  you're  now  going  to  awaken  the  bad  ass,  don't  you  think  we're  now  

going  to  have  to  expand  to  make  room  for  him?    Yeah!    And  as  you  expand,  sometimes  things  are  a  little  
uncomfortable.    Oh  well.    Oh  well.  
 
The  first  time  you  went  to  college  was  maybe  a  little  uncomfortable.    Started  a  new  job,  had  sex  for  the  first  time;  
these  are  all  new  experiences.  We  expand.    So  try  not  to  hold  this  new  experience  of  bad  ass  in  control  and  figuring  it  
out  in  the  same  shape  you  were  when  we  started.    Let  yourself  get  bigger.    Let  yourself  get  really  big.  
 
Let's  try  this  right  now.    As  big  as  the  room  you're  in  watching  this  video.    As  big  as  the  building.    As  big  as  the  area  of  
town.    As  big  as  your  town  or  city.    State  or  country.    Continent.    The  world.    Just  be  big.      
 
Now  as  you're  being  big,  stay  focused  on  your  woman.    Penetrate  her  with  your  eyes,  your  heart,  your  cock.    Stay  big  
and  present  and  let  the  authenticity  of  you  have  its  way  with  you  as  you  in  the  moment.    Stop  asking  for  permission.    
Stop  looking  for  it  to  be  safe.    Stop  hesitating.    Stop  creating  this  speed  bump  that's  not  there.    You're  creating  it.    
Just  press  and  penetrate  you  in  to  the  world;  in  to  her;  and  be  authentic.  
 
If  you're  penetrating  her  from  how  you  visually  see  her  and  your  heart  and  your  pelvis,  love  is  included.    Your  good  
man  is  included.    You're  not  going  to  hurt  her.    You  shut  that  off,  go  in  to  your  head  and  try  to  do  it  right,  you  might.    
That  is  how  you  can  stay  calm  and  present  in  the  unknown  of  sex  with  her.  You  don't  know  what's  going  to  happen.    
Thank  God!    Because  if  you  knew,  it's  only  going  to  be  the  limitations  you  can  come  up  with.    But  if  you  don't  know,  
think  of  how  magical  and  miraculous  and  beyond  your  expectations  and  beyond  your  imagination  it  could  be.    
Because  then  she  gets  to  bring  her  sexual  fantasies  in  and  you  get  to  bring  your  sexual  fantasies  in  and  you  stay  
intimate  and  you  stay  connected  and  you  stay  checking  in  on  each  other.      
 
Helicopter.  Sorry.    You  know  what's  kind  of  cool?  I  live  on  the  flight  path.    I  live  near  Pasadena  and  you  know  with  the  
Rose  Bowl  parade  those  stealth  bombers,  the  black  planes?    Beautiful!    They  fly  right  over  here  and  it's  like  you  can  
hear  them  coming  and  the  ground  starts  to  shake  and  it's  like  BOOM  and  they  go  by.  Oh  it  turns  me  on.    Fast  planes  
turn  me  on.    Lots  of  things  turn  me  on.    Sports  cars.  Being  in  a  sports  car  and  having  a  man  drive.  One  was  a  really  
nice  Mercedes  where  the  chair  kind  of  moves.    It  holds  you.  It  hugs  you.    It  just  knows.  Hot.    Cowboys...    Okay,  I'll  just  
stop  telling  you  everything  that  turns  me  on.    Back  to  you.  
 
Back  to  our  needing  to  be  calm  and  present.    When  you're  present,  those  fantasies  you  have  no  longer  become  
fantasies.    They  become  a  reality  because  you  get  to  be  them  in  the  moment.  You  get  to  present  them.  You  get  to  
offer  them  to  your  beloved.    You  get  to  embody  the  fantasy  as  a  reality  as  you  as  the  bad  ass.    You  don't  just  think  
about  it,  hope  about  it,  fantasize,  go  on  porn  when  she's  not  looking  about  it.    No.  You  get  to  be  him.  
 
She  may  or  not  be  in  to  everything.    You  might  have  to  take  stages  but  be  in  communication.  Stay  intimate.  Stay  
connected.    Allow  the  edges  not  so  much  to  push  but  to  dissolve  of  what's  possible  in  this  dark  energy  with  your  
beloved.  
 
Enjoy  yourself  and  enjoy  being  you.    Your  sexuality  is  so  beautiful;  all  the  flavors  of  it;  and  the  only  thing  in  the  way  is  
your  judgment  of  it.    Stop  judging  yourself  for  it.    Let  yourself  be  free  and  be  who  you  are  and  have  what's  waiting  for  
you  to  have.  
 
What  if  it's  exactly  what  she's  been  waiting  for?    What  if  it's  exactly  what  she's  been  waiting  for  and  why  she's  
looking  at  all  those  other  guys  and  lonely  and  disappointed  and  there's  nothing  for  you  to  do  but  be  you?    What  if  it  
was  that  easy?    Hmmm?  
 
Oh-­‐  A  little  testimonial:  I  had  a  lover  who  would  demand  my  presence.    Yes,  he  was  being  present.    He  was  pressing  
as  wide  as  the  universe  and  totally  present  with  me  but  as  he  did  that  it  was  like  whoa!  Big,  intense,  incredible,  real,  
vulnerable.    He  saw  me;  all  of  me.    He  was  looking  through.    It  was  like  he  was  seeing  my  blueprint  and  it  sometimes  
made  me  nervous.    So  I  would  leave  or  go  in  to  coy  or  do  whatever  I  do  and  he  would  demand  that  I  come  back.  But  
he  would  do  it  from  this  dominating,  bad  boy,  noble,  loving,  caring,  fierce  place.    So  as  you  get  bigger  and  be  this  bad  

ass,  she  wants  it  but  she's  not  used  to  it.    It  might  intimidate  her  or  she  might  test  you.    So  this  is  the  next  stage-­‐  don't  
you  dare  back  down.    Don't  you  dare  go  oh  maybe  I  did  it  wrong.    Stay  real.  Stay  present.  Stay  connected.  Stay  bad  
ass.    Stay  connected  with  your  heart.  
 
Hey,  stay  with  me.  Say  to  her  "Stay  with  me.  I'm  right  here.  I've  got  you.  I  adore  you.    I  want  to  fuck  you  to  other  
realms.    You're  mine."    Talk  to  her  like  that  to  keep  her  with  you  because  this  is  actually  two  peoples'  energy  that's  
going  to  turn  this  bad  ass  experience  and  not  some  strategy  or  click  a  switch,  push  a  button  presto.    No  no  no.    It's  an  
interactive  experience  with  her.  
 
So  demand  her  presence  with  coy  kind  of  tempting  but  straight  sexy  energy  and  she  needs  it.    She  demands  it  of  you,  
hopefully.    She  will  appreciate  it  and  praise  you  for  it  and  it  will  allow  her  to  soften  again,  open  again  and  her  bad  girl  
energy  to  come  out.  
 
So  within  as  without,  if  you  can't  hold  the  space  of  your  bad  boy,  how  can  she  have  bad  girl  energy  come  out?    It's  
not  going  to  work.    So  you're  getting  even  more  than  you  bargained  for.