The Network

Intro:

Attractive women sometimes have not-so-attractive friends

... which goes to say, not-

so-attractive women sometimes have attractive friends. So rather than not give the not-so-
attractive women the time of day, take the time to make friends with them. You'll
eventually have the opportunity to meet their attractive friends...

The earlier sections of Dating Insider repeat in many places the importance of "presence" -
how you carry yourself, and just as importantly, the clothes you choose to wear and not
wear. It is said that your appearance "talks" to people... people that don't know you have
nothing more to judge you on than your appearance. Within an instant they will make a
subconcious judgement as to the type of person you probably are. Most women are
attracted to guys with good self-respect and an element/attitude of success. Sure you can
wear old jeans, a faded sweatshirt, and a beat up pair of tennis shoes - you're just "being
yourself". Unfortunately, this drastically decreases the chances of making women who come
across you interested in getting to know you as high quality dating material. So to increase
your chances, everytime you go anywhere, you should dress to tell the women in the world
that you've got good self-respect and you either are or will be a success in life... and that
you're high quality dating material.

With this in mind, we can now discuss the "

networking opportunities

" that will arise if you

take the time to mingle in public places. School, church, ski resorts, beaches, bars,
nightclubs, singles groups, sporting events, house parties, roommates, etc...

Anywhere where

women are known to be generally open to socializing

.

There are two ways to look at this Section regarding "networking opportunities"... One way
(negative) is that you're manipulating your social environment so that you gain a large group
of female friends... The other way (positive) to look at this Section is to say that this is
simply a chance to create a new habit - a new way of thinking regarding meeting and
potentially dating women.

One of the reasons why guys fail with the initial approach is that they feel a ton of
pressure to not be rejected, and this creates a paradox... Under so much pressure, guys
become nervous/anxious and do or say things completely irrational and blow the approach.
Then they beat themselves up about it later, hurting their self-esteem in the process.
Which makes them even more nervous the next time they approach a woman... Often this
creates a self-destructive cycle.

One of the most effective means to avoiding this self-destructive cycle could be looked at
as a "side-stepping" method of meeting women...

Try this... The next time you come into

contact with a woman, erase all thoughts of wanting to date her, and convince yourself that
you're only interested in making a new friend

. Pretend in your mind that she's a guy... Or

your sister... Or your best friend's girlfriend. Or ugly. In the end, if you can fool yourself
into thinking of this girl as other than dating material, you'll probably find that the
pressure to not be rejected suddenly disappears. This is no longer a dating approach. You're
just being friendly. And as such, you eliminate the nervousness/anxiety that usually occurs,
and the irrational/bumbling behavior that often causes women to "reject" you.

The "Network" begins...

And so you start making friends with the female species - once the enemy, now just one of
the guys. So what about sex? What about dating and relationships and all that? Well, don't
fret.

This girl you've made friends with... has friends. If you're cool with her, there's a

good chance that you're going to have an opportunity to get to know these friends as well

.

She may even put a good word in for you.